2006-09-18 06:24:00 · 41 answers · asked by leanneb1989 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Children learn what they live - so if you are prone to angry outbursts, they will copy. Always allow your children to feel angry - it's a natural response - never allow them to take it out physically on you or anyone else. Stand firm and stay calm - love them to bits, but never give in to a tantrum. Let them talk about what's making them angry and don't tell them they shouldn't feel that way - they do and that's it.
2006-09-18 06:33:41 · answer #1 · answered by Frankie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Children are born with a certain temperament, but they definately pick up a lot from their environment. Children can't learn except by experience, so if they experience violence, they will learn violence. However, children learn outside the home too, from other children, from watching people. So, parents have a responsibility for their own actions in front of their children, but if a child is violent, it isn't necessarily entirely the parent's fault.
2006-09-18 07:31:04 · answer #2 · answered by Pollyanabanana 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have to agree with the consensus of views here that says "yes", but generally people are talking about children copying violent behaviour. I am sure that can be true, but I don't think it is the only cause of violence in children that is caused by parenting.
I have seen examples of violent children who learn to behave like that because it gets them what they want. It starts with giving in to tantrums and ends with children hitting their parents until they give in and they get what they want. Then they go out into the world thinking they will get what they want if they shout loud enough and hit hard enough. Their parents may have been quite gentle quiet people who simply gave in to them at the wrong moments.
2006-09-18 06:43:30 · answer #3 · answered by Robin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Children are part of their parents and what we do in life and how we do it is constant training for these children. They are so influenced by what we do and say. So can we be causing children to be violent? Yes if that is what they see all the time then that is what they become. I hope that this answered your question OK Good luck and best wishes.
2006-09-18 06:34:39 · answer #4 · answered by Barry G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A parent's actions may be a factor but it's not what ultimately causes a child to be violent. People become the way they are by themselves. If a parent is violent, the child has the choice to be violent as well or break the cycle.
2006-09-18 06:26:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
This depends on the actions of the parents, it's a difficult question to answer without known what actions. Children do copy what they see but not when it's violence or raised voices this sort of behaviour in the house usually makes a child nerves. This question would also depend on the age of the child, if you could maybe add to your question i would be able to relate to this better.
2006-09-18 09:35:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
alot of things can cause a child to act in a violent manner but if you think about it you never see two calm-happy with life-peaceful parents with a violent child. Either the child is born with a mental disability, had a horrific birth or the parents are to blame by genes or by behaviour patterns. In most cases I have seen, the parents were impatient and quick to snap themselves.
2006-09-18 07:31:21 · answer #7 · answered by InProgress:-) 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My favorite example was while I was sitting in my doctors' office and I saw a mom waiting with her toddler. The womans' daughter was obviously restless and didn't want to be sitting in a waiting room anymore and was trying to get her moms attention. The mom continued to ignore her daughter until her daughter slapped her in the face. The mom hit her daughter back and said, "No hitting." Ironic, isn't it? So my answer is, Yes, children can pick up violent tendancies from their parents.
2006-09-18 07:10:05 · answer #8 · answered by superrix83 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh god yes. When my step son turned about 2 1/2 my husband started rough housing with him. And now at 4 it's horrible. He's good at school, but at home he is a pain in the ***. He will hit his younger sister for no reason and when his dad gets home from work is when it really starts. He turns into a whole different person. And now my husband is starting to realize this, even though I told him at first when he started doing it.
2006-09-18 06:28:03 · answer #9 · answered by lillady 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That can be true but not enough attention is paid to the out world violence that permeates our entertainment and our world. They have had an effect so strong that even the well raised can be effected. Children live what they learn from many places
Hope that gives you one opinion in a sea of opinions
~A~
2006-09-18 06:29:09 · answer #10 · answered by momsapplepeye 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋