Girl Trouble!! Ladies Only Please!!?

Question

I'm a 16 yo guy and probably more mature than my years.... i'm not that bad looking... and I have yet to have a girl friend or even a kiss someone.... i tend to mask my feelings with girl by making jokes.... I'm not like others my age that just want to fool around... i want the be in a long term serious relationship but girls usually don't know this .... what's wrong with me and why can't I get a girlfriend!!! HELP!!!

Answer 1

You certainly don't sound like a typical 16-year-old. Since you've never had a girlfriend before, you're probably just a little bit tense and nervous around girls; and the only way for you to feel more relaxed, or to mask your nervousness, is to crack jokes. I think the reason you're feeling this nervousness is because you know you'd like a serious relationship however know deep down inside you know that not too many girls are ready for such a commitment - not at 16 anyway. To put it simply, you know what you want already but the others are still wanting to play the field.

You do sound very mature for your age, but that's not a bad thing you know. At least you're not a player, but take emotions and relationships seriously. I really admire your attitude, especially at such a young age.

There's absolutely nothing wrong with you - you're probably even a perfectionist and do not want to fail in anything you attempt; and that goes for starting a relationship as well. You're probably still searching or waiting for the right girl who feels the same way as you do, because you don't want to be played either. Unfortunately, many young kids are just that - young. You'll just need to be patient. For you, I believe it's best that you don't jump into the dating scene merely for the sake of having a girlfriend. What's the point if she likes you but you're not sure about her, or vice a versa?

I wouldn't worry if I were you - you've got many good qualities to offer. When the right girl comes along, you'll know.

Take care ;)

Answer 2

Your obvious external problem is that you keep making jokes. It's absolutely no wonder they wouldn't suspect you're looking for something serious!

I'd bet the not-so-obvious problem is that you aren't being aggressive enough. If you're just sitting there hoping that your looks and charm will bring the ladies to you, you'll have a while to wait, because as a rule, girls are even more nervous and neurotic about all this kind of stuff. It's like when two kids want to get into a fight, but neither of them actually throws a punch because they want the other person to throw the first punch (and thus be the one who gets in trouble). Pointless!

How to combat the nerves? Don't make it such a big deal. You're sixteen; the odds of your finding your One True Love on the first try are just about nothing - even if you find one that sticks around for a while, college changes people a lot (which can render some relationships suddenly incompatible). Just tell yourself that this is all practice for when you find the Real One. By all means take the girl and her feelings seriously - that's what being a good boyfriend is about - but don't let it be the end of the world if something doesn't last longer than two dates, or if it goes for several months and then nosedives. It was almost certainly doomed to begin with.

Answer 3

At 16 years old, you're hardly ready for a serious relationship, especially if you've never had one before. I never really had any boyfriends in school but I met someone my senior year and we were together 10 years! Four kids later I realized I made a serious mistake. Why don't you find a girl you think would be cool to hang out w/ and ask her to a movie or something. Start off slow and don't freak her out w/ the intentions of a serious relationship. You'll scare the poor thing away. Good luck!!!

Answer 4

Maybe you should look for a girl a couple years older than you. Or find a girl you like and take things very slow but be right up front about how you feel and if that is not good enough for her move on and find another. You would be very surprised how many girls just want one guy to stick with.

Answer 5

Sounds like you are trying to hard. Plus are all the girls you have takin out know you already? Try meeting some new faces like church or even just getting a snack at a convenient store when you see someone that might be a prospect. Be yourself and always be nice. It's ok to hold hands. At least your date might like it if at least you did that. Take your time, don't be in such a hurry to find someone.

Answer 6

Okay for one you have to be a little less anxious about this situation. Be careful what you wish for. All you have to do is approach a girl that you might like and ask her a couple of questions. If she responds in a positive way, ask her for her number. But if she acts out in a negative way, move on to the next girl until you find the one that you are actually looking for.

Answer 7

you're too worried about it, you're probably sabotaging yourself. be honest with the girls, don't hide behind jokes. at 16 long-term is only so plausible so look for fun AND serious. Nothing wrong with seeing a girl for a while for fun and not for long-term... maybe it will turn that way.

Answer 8

Funny is good, but then after you have her laughing you need to show that you've got a serious side too.

You might want to try out the casual relationship first before you jump into a serious one. You're too young to be tied down.

Enjoy your youth!

Answer 9

well it seems to me that maybe you need someone a little older than you usually girls who are 16 are very immature and yo seem to be very mature. You need someone who doesnt want to go out and just get laid.

Answer 10

Honey nothing is wrong with you!! Just don't look for someone right now you have awhile to look. You will find someone right for you sometime soon I promise. Just be yourself around girls......Have fun that's what we like to do!! Don't worry that you haven't kissed anyone yet you will soon enough!!