I met a girl through a friend. I think there might be a connection, but I haven't had the chance to get to know her yet. Before I do, I wanted to get guys opinions on if they would have a problem being in my freind's position.
They have been friends for a long time, and refer to each other as "best friend". So my concern is that if something were to happen between her and me, would he have a problem with it? Or rather, would you in his shoes?
I have been in this situation once before and it made things a little awkward socially, and since I am on a sport team with him, I don't really want to cause problems there.
Thanks!
2006-09-18 06:15:05 · 24 answers · asked by Ben 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
A clarification - My previous experience was with a different set of people, different place, etc. No connection between then and now.
Also, I am really pretty sure that they are just freinds, they seem a little too competative to be anything else.
2006-09-18 06:27:37 · update #1
Ask your friend how he would feel.
It could lead to problems if the relationship between you and her doesn't work out, or even more so, if you end up hurting her in some way.
If he is just friends with her, then it makes sense to me that he would want to see her with one of his other friends.
You really need to talk to him. Be sure that he doesn't have romantic feelings for her, and ask him if he is ok with you asking her out.
Good luck!
2006-09-18 06:21:57 · answer #1 · answered by Kailey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know, a female friend of your friend can cause sensitive situations so i suggest that you talk to your mutual friend and be honest with him. agree to make it confidential between the two, but take him out for lunch or coffee. don't beat around the bush, just get straight down to business. you can remind him of what happened last time, apologise once more just to clear the air, and tell him that you have a question to ask him and the reason why you're inviting him here is to make sure that you don't get into a situation like last time. tell him that you might be interested in his female friend and that since he's her "best friend", you want to ask him help as to what you can do about it. after half an hour sitting with your friend i think you should have an idea about what he thinks. usually if you're honest up front that you like her and just act innocent about it, the other guy will respect that if he's big enough of a person--maybe he'll even help make it easier for you to approach the girl. but if it turns out that it's not ok with him, he should tell you forthrightly as well. the worst thing you could do is to back off, say sorry, and ask that he forgets that you ever had this conversation. then you two can work out a feasible solution.
good luck!
2006-09-18 06:24:24 · answer #2 · answered by Mizz G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is awkward, and ask a girls opinion because guys are just gonna think of it as nothing. when a girl titles another girl "Best friend" stay out!!! IT HURTS when a guy goes to the one girl he knew, and then wants to hook up with her best friend. its a severe no-no. So I'd consider you'd make the smart decision and stay out of the best friend situation. Their might be a connection but they are so many other fish in the sea.
2006-09-18 06:47:27 · answer #3 · answered by Liya J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She isn't off limits in case you meet here standards you're actually not a participant you're actually not too previous for her you're in sturdy status with the relatives you're able to fulfill each and all the instruction manual strains
2016-10-01 02:48:44 · answer #4 · answered by kroner 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to the guy you met her through first. I had two really good female friends when i was younger. One was my friends sister who had a crush on me but I wasn't interested in her. I introduced her to a good friend of mine who then married her and they have been together for over 30 years.
I had another friend who I met the day after I graduated HS. I was so out of it I didn't make a play for her but she was oh so fine. she dated my best friend and he used her and left her like he did with so many girls. I couldn't help myself I was like the moth attracted to the flame. I stayed friends with her and told her how I felt. she told me she loved me like a brother (ouch) but I waited in the wings hoping to get my chance. it never happened. But the thing is that I might have been ok with you dating her as long as you treated her well.
2006-09-18 06:21:51 · answer #5 · answered by oldsoftee2001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Should be ok...the only thing is will it suddenly be an issue if they hung out together as they used to? This is where it gets ackward. They had a relationship before you guys did. You might come in between that and well.........
2006-09-18 06:19:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they are truely just friends then it should be fine.
My only warning is if you and her hit it off and get into a relationship...if things start to go downhill, you may be putting your friend in a bad situation, because you guys are friends and him and her are friends....its just not a good place to be in.
2006-09-18 06:21:38 · answer #7 · answered by reena_ree86 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wel i think soen`s gonna change it `s definitely gonna be wierd for ur friend to have two friends goin out and cud get jealous coz she wud have to share the attention to you also so yeah pretty much there would be a change in ur relationship i mean it wud be wierd for me
2006-09-18 06:21:13 · answer #8 · answered by babeschick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless it's your friend's girlfriend, I could say it should be ok. If he is really your friend, ask him about her and let your friend know you are interested in her (that way your friend will know you would never do nothing behind his back).
2006-09-18 06:23:16 · answer #9 · answered by Hammer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the friends involved; but if they are clearly just friends...i dont see the problem.
2006-09-18 06:17:36 · answer #10 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋