Tips on how I can help someone who is an alcoholic but won't admit it. I also can't use AA in anyway as I don't live in England and there isn't one here as far as I know.
2006-09-18 06:08:05 · 19 answers · asked by travis 2 in Health ➔ Other - Health
Sorry. I thought this may be confusing. I don't actually drink alcohol.
2006-09-18 06:17:03 · update #1
AA is in every country in the world. Hundreds of thousands of meetings! http://www.aa.org/?Media=PlayFlash
Here is the thing. If the person doesn't want to get help, admit they have a problem, then there isn't much you can do about it. Can't force them to get help. But don't enable them, either. Give the person the information about AA. There is a place on there to find meetings anywhere. Give it to them and that's all you can do. Contact me if you want further info.
Good luck.
2006-09-18 06:13:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Although you don't indicate why you can't use AA - I'm assuming it is due to the fact that the person will not admit they are alcoholic. You can, however, use online references and use the 12 steps. Tough love is another alternative - but remember, it is an illness and they need help - it's just a matter of when and if they will admit it.
2006-09-18 13:10:59 · answer #2 · answered by Been there 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make it drink. The first step to recovery is admitting there is problem. This person is not ready. You can help by giving tough love and stop whatever you are doing in order to enable the addict. Meaning, do not give person money, rides, a place to stay and do not accept phone calls unless it is the call by this person saying they are ready for help. It may seem harsh, but I have this favorite show called Intervention on A&E Sunday nights at 10 or 11. If you can watch it sometime. That is what I see them do. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't. Good luck.
2006-09-18 13:15:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, most of the things people do are the wrong things, and will only make the alcoholic worse.
Here is a list of things which may help:
Don't let him know that his behavior is getting through to you.
Don't nag! Don't remind him of the stupid things he did.
Don't pay his bills or put up bail to get him out of jail.
Give him the phone when bill collectors call.
Don't ever make excuses for him.
Don't give him money.
Don't even think about buying alcohol for him.
About one drunk in six will seek help. Of those who do, about one in six will sober up. Pretty long odds.
2006-09-18 13:23:39 · answer #4 · answered by GreenHornet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell u the truth I'm not for sure my step dad was a alcoholic and went to AA meetings that didn't work for him he use to drink before he went to the meetings he still drinks and this was about 15 years ago. im sorry im not help someone will give u some good advice
2006-09-18 13:19:02 · answer #5 · answered by Angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi - The only way to help an alcoholic is to suggest that they get help through AA. I go and it's wonderful. Wonderful people who prove that it really does work. I can vouch for that.
2006-09-18 13:36:57 · answer #6 · answered by Doh! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with most of the other answers you have recieved, there is nothing you can do. You can try to advise them to go to some sort of councelling sessions to understand the root of the problem. There is often deep rooted depression behing it.
In my experience, they very rarely seek help and eventually self destruct.
My mother died from this illness when me, my brother and my sister were very young. I am still quite bitter about this.
Bless you for trying and I hope you can do something to make him/her realise that there is more to life.
Good luck
All the best.
2006-09-18 13:22:54 · answer #7 · answered by smithyvh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to Yahoo Groups and join some online Alanon groups. They will show you how to detach from the problem while still loving the person. Good Luck! Joining an Alanon group in your area would be even more beneficial.
2006-09-18 13:18:08 · answer #8 · answered by Frankie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The person who is the alcoholic needs to admit there is a problem,and therefore admit that they need help.Sadly i lost my mum last xmas due to years of drinking and i wish i could of said more to her,but all i can say is that "tell the person how much it is affecting you and others around" not only it is destroying themselves,it destroying others that are closest.I wish i could of said more to her even though i kept telling her how much it was killing her,i used to have a go at my mum,i used to say to her "your drinking urself to death,dont u care bout ur children,obviously not!!!!" I wish i could of said more things properly but it was destroying me seeing her drinking herself to death.So let me say pls that try,try and keeping trying to differnt things and take the advice frm everyone...good luck
2006-09-18 13:56:38 · answer #9 · answered by samantha m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I did help one once in an odd way.
His parents had asked him if he had a problem and he said, "no." They were too dumb to realize that he was in denial, so I showed them the psychiatric manual DSM. Then after they believed me, they put some pressure on him. He wanted to quit but wasn't quite there yet. With the added pressure, he did.
2006-09-18 13:19:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋