i love him and he love me but right now we are like night and day fire and ice we are just opposite and we are conversating but its not the same like the other times, by me choosing not to have sex until we're married(although we did in the past ) is that pressuring him to marry me ?
2006-09-18 05:46:53 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No, you stand by what you say. If he is the kind of guy to get married with you just to have sex, then you shouldn't marry him. Think of the Princess and the toad, then reverse the story when they get married!
2006-09-18 05:51:53 · answer #1 · answered by Shadow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm... so many... angles... to choose from... What I can't understand is why exactly you would be in a relationship with someone that would seperate you from your kids. If they won't go to a wedding that was forced upon thier father she won't want to see them ever? If someone loves you, they automatically love your kids because they are a part of you. If she doesn't truly love your children, she doesn't love you either... it's infatuation. This woman has two failed marriages, 4 failed pregnancies... and now it's up to you to be her unemployed knight in shining armor? I have so many spins to use to try and convince you to end this relationship, but I'm not going to use them. All I really have to say to you is that I have no respect for any man that would trivialize thier own offsprings happiness to please a "girlfriend". If you are even considering entering into a deeper and more committed relationship with this woman, knowing the strain it will put on your kids, you're already beyond saving. Stop being selfish and think about the kind of parent figure children need... and work toward accomplishing happiness in THIER lives. Then maybe your mind will be healthy enough to find someone that will actually benefit yours as well.
2016-03-27 07:42:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now let me get this straight. You had sex with him before you had a relationship. Now that you two love each other and you want to get married and maybe he is not that excited about it...then you cut him off because you want to wait until you get married? Is that what you are saying.
Well with the info I have and understand, girl you are cold very cold. Once you give it up to him then there is no turning back. It is your decision to not have sex and that is fine. But first you told him yes, and you were not in love and now that you are in love you say no. I can understand why he is like ice to you. You are pressuring him to get married. If I were he, I would turn and run from you as fast as I could.
Once you have sex with a man in a relationship it is almost impossible to stop it for what ever reason. If you had that line that you wanted to wait for marriage up front, then my answer to you would be affirmative in your favor. But you have given that up, you can not go back on your unspoken word, and take your love away from him, now that he loves you. You are cold... very cold. Better think about it.
2006-09-18 05:58:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, he wants the cake and eat it too. Good for you. Well, it also depend on how old you are. If you are in the early 30s then he should be considering about marriage. Otherwise, just chill and enjoyed each other's company. Mariage is not that great as most marriage people would tell you.
2006-09-18 05:52:38 · answer #4 · answered by revolou 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you witholding sex in hopes that he will marry you? If so then yes you are pressuring him. You can't force someone to marry you, just let the relationship work itself out.
2006-09-18 05:50:59 · answer #5 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
holding out until you marry is going to make a big bang on the wedding night yet you have given in to lust and now he thinks your using sex as a weapon .are you?
2006-09-18 05:51:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, its asking him to respect your decision. Apparently, hes having a hard time with that. Its especially difficult for him since you have already had sex before.
2006-09-18 05:49:30 · answer #7 · answered by JC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL, IT IS KINDA PRESSURING HIM TO MARRY YOU. THESE DAYS PEOPLE DON'T WAIT TILL THEY ARE MARRIED. BUT IF THAT'S HOW YOU FEEL THEN DO IT. DON'T LET HIM TALK YOU INTO IT. IF HE REALLY LOVES YOU HE WILL RESPECT YOUR WISHED. IF HE CAN'T WAIT, THEN LEAVE.
IF YOU MAKE HIM WAIT THERE IS A GOOD CHANCE HE WILL GET WHAT HE WANTS ELSE WHERE.
2006-09-18 05:49:57 · answer #8 · answered by FRECKLES 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes girl ! u r pressurizing him.u cant force anyone by any means for anything.it will only create distances.if u want things normal then behave normal.
2006-09-18 05:50:45 · answer #9 · answered by S S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no- it's a choice you made-(or are you doing it for him to marry you -then you are pressuring him-)
2006-09-18 05:50:24 · answer #10 · answered by gabby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋