My 3.5 Yr. daughter does not want to go to pre-school as she does not have friends. She used to go to pre-school when she was 2 Yr. 9 mo.. and she had no issues as she had a friend who is our neighbour. Now, her friend is in another class so she doesn't have any friends. She went to pre-school for first week and then she refuses to go to pre-school. After spending lot of time with her, I finally came to know the reason " I don't have any friends. No body talks with me".
What can we do? We are trying to make her understand that if she goes to school she will have new friends but she is not ready to go.
Any advice?
Thanks a bunch.
- Worried mom.
2006-09-18 05:43:54 · 11 answers · asked by Worried Mom 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
My son was similar when he was four. It really sort of resolved its self. The only thing I did differently was I encouraged him to start saying hello to the other kids while waiting for the class to start. He didn't seem to understand how just saying hello can begin a friendship so once we got that sorted out he started to make alot of friends.
2006-09-18 05:54:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her about other things she's doing at school and ask about what other kids did that day. The ones she seems interested in, ask her if she'd like to have them come over to your house sometime to play. One on one is sometimes easier then trying to find a new best friend among 20 other kids. As far as the "nobody talks to me" thing, have you asked if she talks to someone first? or maybe she's feeling it's too quiet at a certain time but it's not really talking time and she's just used to having her friend next to her to giggle to. Another option is for you to go take part in her class if you're able to. Be a classroom helper and notice some kids that you think she'd like and talking to her about them would lead you into the playdates chat as well. Good luck!
2006-09-18 12:50:32 · answer #2 · answered by ore2nc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to the teacher. My 4 year old just started a preschool where he did not know anyone, it didn't help that he is very shy. The first week was horrible. But he has a good teacher who has really worked with him. We are now in the 6th week of school and he loves it.
You need to check into how involved the teacher is. Is she trying to work with your daughter and ease her fears and shy-nest? You can only do so much at home. Your daughter needs to be comfortable with the school and teacher.
2006-09-18 13:12:52 · answer #3 · answered by gabbien 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain to her that not everyone is going to like everyone else but if she doesn't go back to school how is she going to meet new friends. Talk to her and let her know that she needs to the other kids in class a chance to get to know her and they can't do that if she isn't there. Good Luck. I know how heart breaking it is to have your little girl feel that way. Just let her know that sometimes it take s a Little while for people to warm up and get to know others.
2006-09-19 14:07:27 · answer #4 · answered by Diana H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you take her to preschool, ask to stay with her for 15 minutes. Ask her if you can make new friends together. (at that age you are still a "cool" mom). Get her and yourself introduced to a group of children... sometimes this involves setting your interests aside and being silly for that sake of your child :) Good luck.
2006-09-18 12:50:37 · answer #5 · answered by Sarah C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
who is the parent here? she is 3 and a half and you need to make her understand that she needs to go to school to meet people, new friends.....im amazed that she even thinks like that at three and a half. fix that problem or i can see serious self esteem issues coming up. are yours ok? good luck with all that...
2006-09-18 12:48:34 · answer #6 · answered by mcharmd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her sometimes you have to do things you dont want be its for your own good after a couple of days shell make friends alot of kids go into school with no friends.shell be alright
2006-09-18 12:46:11 · answer #7 · answered by live,laugh,love 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that there are going to be other kids there who don't know anyone, and they'll be looking for friends, so if she goes and talks to people, she can make friends with them.
2006-09-18 12:47:42 · answer #8 · answered by Amanda 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her teachers
they should encourage group activities and make sure no child is left out.
2006-09-18 12:49:52 · answer #9 · answered by Suzie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take back your position as "mother"
2006-09-18 12:48:44 · answer #10 · answered by karen j 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋