The major problem is that when him and i are together, we just joke around most of the time because we are so close, its just hard to tell whether he is being serious or not
I dont want to embarass him
I dont want to embarass myself
I just want to ask casually, but how should i bring it up?
I cant just ask him incase he doesnt like me in that way, which would really make me feel like a fool
I've already made my friend ask him and the feedback was unsure, couldnt distinguish whether he was joking or not
So how do i ask?
2006-09-18 05:31:23 · 13 answers · asked by Miss Terious 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes, when it comes to girls that he likes, he is VERY shy - so i know he wont have guts to let me know directly, he'll just drop unsure hints.
2006-09-18 05:35:27 · update #1
baby girl, just ask him to see a movie with you. but you have to do it face to face. it's a chance you have to take. besides, seeing a movie is just a friendly date. if you end up going out, get more information out from him as much as you can. first sum up all your courage and ask him. otherwise you won't know.
2006-09-18 05:35:56 · answer #1 · answered by harmony 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't ask him at all. You tell him directly and honestly how you feel about him. And if he says he feels the same, then good for you. If he says he doesn't or gives you the runaround, which means he doesn't, then you know what you have to do. You have to keep your distance from him and stop being his friend. I know it sounds drastic and harsh, but think about it. You're just going to fall more in love with this guy if you are still his friend, so the best thing for you to do is to get out. And if you are in love with him, you're really not his friend anyway. Trust me on this. I just went through it. It hurts alot, but sometimes it's better to just let go.
2006-09-18 05:37:03 · answer #2 · answered by Yen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depending on your age and what you two usually do together this may/may not work...but I always think getting drunk helps!
Then you can have a bit of a flirt...he will be more relaxed, and more likely to do something/say something.
But the thing someone else said - about asking him if he likes anyone...that's quite good, cos you can tell alot by his reaction. Just be careful how you say it, incase he does like you but thinks your not interested cos you're asking him about other girls!
It's very tricky and complicated isn't it? But fun too!
Good luck - hope it works out - but you may as well go for it - you only regret what you don't do x
2006-09-18 05:50:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It could be that he, like me, is looking for you to hunt for your catch - i.e. him.
Some men are confident enough when it comes to casual friendships with women, but there are very few women in their lives with whom they will place their complete trust. They will let you in just so far, but as far as really getting to know them goes, there's this barrier of intimacy beyond which there is no go, and that is deliberate.
It's kind of a test, as it were. It's a test to see whether or not you're prepared to be serious with him. And that, in its way, is another way of him letting you know that he does, indeed, fancy you.
It's a "you first" thing. You've got to nail your colours to the mast first, show him that you're interested in exploring a deeper relationship with him, because you feel that a deep relationship can bring meaning to both your lives.
So, if you can, take him to one side, and find a place where you and he can be close, and in private. And just ask him whether he just values you as a friend, or whether or not he wants to be more than a friend.
I hope you're lucky. He definitely sounds like he could be one lucky guy himself, if he opens his eyes and realises just what he means to you, and what you can mean to him.
2006-09-18 06:02:05 · answer #4 · answered by fiat_knox 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to have a serious discussion about it at some point. Why not go for a walk or for dinner and tell him how feel about him and ask him how he feels about you. Better to find out now than spend your time going after someone who isn't interested in you in that way!
2006-09-18 05:34:39 · answer #5 · answered by Fluffy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him the truth. You've developed feelings for him. The worst that can happen is he says he doesn't like you that way but if your as close as you say you are, then that hopefully shouldn't affect your friendship. Good Luck!
2006-09-18 05:37:32 · answer #6 · answered by Mary R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just ask him frankly and straight to the point. if u wanna know how he feel about u,just go to that point.
man is different from woman,he want something right on the point.
and there is nothing embrarass about being frankly and right to what u wanna know.
2006-09-18 05:36:41 · answer #7 · answered by kikk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe don't ask, just enjoy what you have and wait and see. sometimes people feel like they should do something but you can just sit back and enjoy the ride. if it is meant to be he will eventually realise and things will naturally evolve into something more...
2006-09-18 05:36:19 · answer #8 · answered by Loobyloo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he does he will let you know...unless he is very shy men should mvke the first move
2006-09-18 05:33:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just got for the kill girl, kiss him and see if he kisses u back. Good luck x
2006-09-18 06:29:55 · answer #10 · answered by jayne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋