well let start off saying i met this guy in june of 05 well we have been together 1year and 5 months today sept18 that is the year and 5 months. He asked me to marry him on july 4th 06 he plays mine games with me all the time yes we live together ever since day 1.He is 29 now and i will be 34 in 2 weeks could that b the diffrents. He is so high strung in sex but not me anymore WHY?
2006-09-18 05:24:28 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
sorry for miss spelled words was going to fast i guess.
2006-09-18 06:02:30 · update #1
why buy the cow when the milks free ??
2006-09-18 05:26:40 · answer #1 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You've lived together since "day 1" -- not good, my friend! I'm a huge fan of saving sex until marriage. Until you've known a guy for a few months, you don't really KNOW him at all, so to jump into living together so quickly really puts you at a disadvantage of ever having him as your husband. Think about it - why should he stand before God and promise to honor, respect and cherish you now? You've been together for over a year and yes, he's asked you to marry him, but there's been no wedding. Sounds to me like you have nothing but a physical relationship - time to put on the brakes and let him know you want more. Here's what I would do (as tough as it seems):
#1 Ask him sweetly to move out so that you can begin your relationship again
#2 Tell him you long to be dated - he needs to pick you up at the door and treat you like a queen!
#3 Stick to the "no sex" rule this time and spend time together getting to truly know each other
#4 Build your relationship on LOVE and trust this time - not LUST
If he won't comply and walks away, let him go! God bless!!!
2006-09-18 12:54:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your sentence structure is abysmal. It is a shame that you are 34 years old and your main focus is how to get someone to marry you.
You should consider returning to school and working on yourself. So much of what you are doing is dependent on what he wants.
What do you want? What things are best for you?
Sex is secondary.
Focus on yourself.
Food for thought...he would have been "playing mind games" not "mine games".
The word is difference not differents.
2006-09-18 12:53:35 · answer #3 · answered by goldenlifev 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like maybe you rush into relationship to quickly. In this case the guy moves in right away and then a year later asks you to marry him probably because you had been hinting that this was needed in order to keep the relationship going. If he is really playing mind games with you and things don't seem right then you need to end this and move on. Maybe you need to consider dating an older guy who is more stable and interested in more than just sex with you. I think your ready for a real relationship that is all about building a future.
2006-09-18 12:30:31 · answer #4 · answered by rkrell 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, my friend, I have a similar problem when it comes to men. I assume it's because somebody hurt you big time in past and maybe you don't want to "give yourself" completely so you wouldn't feel pain again? Trust me, it happens under self-concience. I don't know... it's just a thought. At least I know that's how things work out in my brain... :)
p.s. it's not that big differents, and happy birthday a little earlier!
2006-09-18 12:34:27 · answer #5 · answered by Shica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's the age difference. I think part of the problem is that you didn't get to know each other before you moved in together. I think you both need some space to decide what you really want.
2006-09-18 12:27:37 · answer #6 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you get to hot to quick ,i think thats your intention to begin with you are just looking to play .. A nd i dont think i can anawer it no better than your first answer..he wore it out get out get exercise and pretend helps.and a good bath dont hurt anything.. and to intentionally wash it out dont hurt . somewomen thinks cause it smells like fish- dead- thats the normal ,itt is to a certain extent.clear up the infect and take care of it for a while .thats just my thought .i havent even been out in a good many days.i get hot easy also which dont need to be ,
2006-09-18 12:54:52 · answer #7 · answered by deerolmind 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can barely get through the broken English, with that said, you might want to ask someone in your native tongue. It will be easier for them to understand.
That aside, don't marry someone who will string you along. If you aren't happy now do you think you will be when married? No.
2006-09-18 12:32:11 · answer #8 · answered by Laura 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It could be that you two have a communication problem. I know that you and I do. I can hardly make any sense out of your spelling and incorrect sentence construction.
2006-09-18 12:39:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This problem can best be handled either by yourselves, or by appropriately competent and experienced marriage counselor.
2006-09-18 13:23:03 · answer #10 · answered by Sam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A relationship that is built on sex is due for failure. I there anything else that you like about him and will he go out and find sex else where.
2006-09-18 12:33:40 · answer #11 · answered by rastus7742 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋