self concious ! ! !?

Question

quite soon i an going to have sex with my boyfriend for the first time we have talked about it for a long time and are both very sure its what we want. i am really excited and looking forward to it however i am sort of selfconcious about being fully naked infront of him. i mean i have a nice body it is tonned and a nice shape but i am just worried he may find something unattractive about it. i have been naked infront of him b4 but it was quite dark and it was only for a minute or 2. please help how can i get over this? serious answers only please

Answer 1

Really, he's not going to be looking at you thinking, wow, I wish she had bigger feet/longer hair/bigger ****/longer legs/etc/etc. He's going to be thinking "I'm getting laid! I'm getting laid!"

He knows what you look like already, get over it. OR have sex in candlelight. EVERYONE looks sexy in candlelight. (Even me and I don't have a nice body, just parts of it are nice!)

Answer 2

It is only natural that you feel this way the first time, That goes for anything you do first time.

My suggestion is to focus on the moment and let it happen naturally, If you need to dim the lights to feel more comfortable then do that. I'm sure that if he truly loves you he will accept you as a total package an enjoy the pleasure you bring him.

Just focus on your positives, You said you have a nice toned shape, well if that's true than you don't have anything to worry about body wise. I'm sure he will be just as nervous as you.

Just dim the lights and lightly kiss each others lips and you will naturally progress into the moment of passion.

Good Luck Sensual girl "The name says it all"

Answer 3

Having sex with someone is about a lot more than what your body looks like naked.
You sound really young.
It sounds like your little voice is screaming to you that you are not ready. Listen.
You will be very disappointed if you are trying to please him, and he is not trying to please you. I didn't hear any hesitation that he might not meet YOUR expectations.
HE is going to be happy to be getting a naked girl laying next to him, ready to do what he wants. It would be a RARE fella who would complain, unless you have two heads or only one big breast or something similar.Even that might be a turn-on.
Having sex CAN BE an expression of love and caring between TWO people who are ready, willing and able to delight THE OTHER PERSON. Or it can be a cattle call, a crash of bodies to relieve "pressure" with no interest in having a "relationship."
YOU!!!DECIDE what you want.

Answer 4

Well, keep in mind that you can only be you and I know that you have nothing to be worried about because I think that you should know that you are only doing the best with what you have. So use that and know that he is there for you. Hey It is what it is, let go and have fun in knowing that you can do this. I know you can, because you make things happen. Your ego is that thing that keeps you safe. It keeps you from doing wild things and going out on limbs so you don't get hurt. Grab life and these situations you think you don't have an answer to and run. Problems,... No. They are situations you don't have an answer to just yet. You always figure out something don't you?
Cheers darlin.
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Answer 5

You are so very young to start being sexually active. I beg you to wait! If you don't then you will just get over it in the heat of passion. Believe me, he won't care if you have a scar going down your entire middle. All he wants is the sex, no matter what you look like! All I can say is how many women have you heard were sorry they gave it up so young? No body is ever sorry they waited! It's a very mental thing not just physical!

Answer 6

Well if you are positive that this is what you want to do, you should make sure you are safe 1st of all use condom's and know about his sexual history. About feeling self conscious if you are not completely comfortable with him you probably should not have sex but you can try this,stand in front of a full length mirror completely naked and look at yourself study your body get comfortable with it, and tell yourself "I look pretty good" this is what I have and I gotta work it! (I had to do this myself) I'm sure your a great looking girl. good luck and remember if he doesn't like it there is always someone else who will! ONLY do it if you really trully feel it is right! DO NOT have sex because you feel pressured by your boyfriend! your innocence is special, plus there are alot more teen virgins than people think! it may seem like everyones doing it but not me and my friends!
p.s "Being sexy does'nt mean you have to have sex!"
thanks
*prettythea90*

Answer 7

I'm serious.... your self conciousness is the least you have to be worried about...
The United States has the highest rates of teen pregnancy and births in the western industrialized world. Thirty-four percent of young women become pregnant at least once before they reach the age of 20 -- about 820,000 a year. Eight in ten of these pregnancies are unintended and 81 percent are to unmarried teens. Some girls are lucky or practice safe sex EVERY TIME..NO EXCEPTIONS.....
Some realize this and have limited their sexual activities to oral sex.... they do not get pregnant, but still risk disease.
The others are much wiser like you and remain virgins...
All young people need information that will help them protect their sexual health. Postponing sexual activity is good advice for all teens, no matter what their sexual orientation.

The younger a teenaged girl is when she has sex for the first time, the more likely she is to have had unwanted or non-voluntary sex. Close to four in ten girls who had first intercourse at 13 or 14 report it was either non-voluntary or unwanted.

Teen mothers are less likely to complete high school (only one-third receive a high school diploma) and only 1.5% have a college degree by age 30.7 Teen mothers are more likely to end up on welfare (nearly 80 percent of unmarried teen mothers end up on welfare).8

The children of teenage mothers have lower birth weights9, are more likely to perform poorly in school10, and are at greater risk of abuse and neglect.11

The sons of teen mothers are 13 percent more likely to end up in prison while teen daughters are 22 percent more likely to become teen mothers themselves.

Answer 8

We are all some what self conscious, especially when naked in front of someone we care about. Remember, none of us is perfect. We all have flaws and that is just a part of being human. When a man loves a woman he doesn't focus on the flaws, he sees her as beautiful regardless and instead sees those flaws as part of what makes her unique and special. So relax, and don't worry about it. If you worry about or bring it up then you will ruin the moment. Instead be confident and focus on loving each other for who you are.

Answer 9

Honey don't worry he's going to be too busy looking at all the great assets you have to be looking at you for a flaw....... Besides you guys are going to be too busy getting it on and paying no attetion to anything else... it's a very special time in your life, and if he loves you(which i'm sure he does) then you both have to make this a beautiful moment together... Think positive.. use protection..

Answer 10

Nature is wise. When guys are aroused they lose almost completely any hability to see small things such as some celulitis or varicose veins here or there (not saying that you have them, just an example). Anyway you must worry about other things: preventing diseases and unwanted pregnancy. Put A LOT of thought and work on it , ok?

Answer 11

My girlfriend had the same problem, please don't worry men see the good before the bad and the most attractive thing in a woman is confidence so just go with the flow and enjoy yourself! Hang ups about your body will take away from the pleasure of it good luck and don't worry!!