Im still in contact with my ex's parents & they see my boys every 2nd wkend. The last time they came to visit, my sons were bathing and when I invited them in I said " the boys are bathing..." meaning they will be out soon. I was abit surprised when my sons grandfather who is in his mid fourties went into the bathroom to say hello to my boys while they were bathing. He stayed in there chatting to them for a few minutes. I was in there also so nothing serious happened it was all very innocent! Im just wondering if this seems abit odd to anyone else or am I being paranoid??? I reinforced to my kids that no one should ever touch there "middle bits" except for them and they are educated about that & Im certain that this was all very innocent but when are kids to old to have other people see them naked?
2006-09-18 05:08:47 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
As long as the kids are aware of who/when/where is proper touching, they'll let you know when they no longer feel comfortable having someone see them in that situation.
2006-09-18 05:16:57 · answer #1 · answered by ♫☼♥ ≈ Debbi ≈ ♥☼♫ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
while this is all innocent as you said and trust me your boys will definitely let you know when they want you and grandpa out. if your boys are still taking a bath together then they really haven't hit the need for that kind of privacy yet. However make sure that they know that they can talk to you about anything that makes them uncomfortable even if it is other people coming into the bathroom. You may want to say something very casually to your ex and see what he feel but don't make a big deal about it. you don't want to scare them unnecessarily either about their grandpa.
2006-09-18 05:24:54 · answer #2 · answered by no 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not crossing the line right now as your boys are still 4 and 5. They're still young and don't think of that as anything. If they're still comfortable bathing together, it should be okay. When they become shy about it, then that's when its wrong for your son's grandfather to walk in. Don't worry!
2006-09-18 05:15:29 · answer #3 · answered by blue_bee 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think if it was not there grandpa, or dad, or any older male figure, then it might be different. But my mom and aunt will go in and talk to my girls(4 and 5) while they are in the tub. But I can understand that if you are not comfortable then mabey you should not let it happen again. If you are asking this question concerned then things should change. you should not have to be concerned. for any reason. They would have acted different if they were bothered. Like covering up there parts.
2006-09-18 05:16:53 · answer #4 · answered by sr22racing 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with what he did. What it they were visiting him and he had to give them a bath? If they were in their teens it might be a problem but not at 4 or 5. Lighten up. There is enough perversion in the world without imagining more.
2006-09-18 05:14:15 · answer #5 · answered by groomingdiva_pgh 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't see any issues with it, but it's sounds like it's odd for you to have other people, relatives or not, just walk in on your sons like that. Even if it's not odd for your sons yet, and they'll let you know, it still odd for you and if it's uncomfortable for you then don't let it happen. I do think it's a little odd he couldn't just wait for them to get out of the tub, going in there just to chit chat is different than having to give them a bath. I think if there's really not a reason for him going in there, then he shouldn't be. He could have waited in my opinion. It doesn't mean he's going to molest them or anything but just no reason for it.
2006-09-18 05:24:03 · answer #6 · answered by melashell 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Not odd at all. And I am very sensitive to anything that sounds unusual where a child is concerned. You should teach them reasonable modesty. Being in the tub in front of Grandpa shouldn't be concerning. Nudity shouldn't be shameful or sexualized.
2006-09-18 05:19:30 · answer #7 · answered by georgia b 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont think its odd. The boys will let you know when they dont want you to see them. My son was about 6 or 7 when he decided he wanted to be left alone while bathing. I respected his right to decide that. Only thing I would not let him lock the bathroom door til he was older.
2006-09-18 05:15:59 · answer #8 · answered by mnwomen 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
holy over reaction batman!
I think you are totally being paranoid. No one touched anyone. They spend every other weekend there - do you not think they have a bath every now and again? Take a deep breath honey - and relax.
2006-09-18 05:21:50 · answer #9 · answered by firehorsetwo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would only worry about it if the boys said something about it making them uncomfortable.
As for the lady who's father sat and had a bm while talking to the kids in the tub, ewwww..
2006-09-18 05:14:30 · answer #10 · answered by chuckufarley2a 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋