She just doesn't listen. I don't believe it is anything I have done. However, her brain seems to be going a mile a minute. She is contantly moving. Ants in the pants! What are some things I can do with her to help her listening skills? Need some mature answers. Thanks for your help.
2006-09-18 05:07:34 · 23 answers · asked by nikki 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I am only going on what I know from my pediatrician adult child who has a 3 year old. They don't allow TV unless he asks for a particular "Noggin" or something. Books are his favorite things....She has been reading since he was 4 months old. He has quite a library with his favorites. She also sings to him a lot and he sings a lot. They cook together almost every day....real food....yesterday they made brownies and he was so excited. It is never too late to add activities, but fussing to the child will never work......also, some chldren are just little haywires...my daughter was (the now pediatrician). Probably a mother's day out program or a little Christian pre-school 2 or 3 mornings a week will bring miracles because they want to "do" what the other kids are doing....like listening to a story or listening to directions for an art project....most of all, mom, don't panic. They are all little individuals with special personalities.
2006-09-18 05:20:32 · answer #1 · answered by Cassie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is totally normal and her brain IS going a mile a minute. I have a 4 year old (as of May 30th) and she is just now coming out of that stage. It takes them some time to slow down and listen to you. Try to only say what you want her to do. Then when you are done asking her ask "Are you listening to mommy?" or Did you hear what I said?" Be patient though. That is the one thing that parents need to do. She id normal and she is just a kid. Remember EVERYTHING has to be learned. You sound like you are a very good mom. Keep up the good work, it's hard.
2006-09-18 12:20:09 · answer #2 · answered by JenM 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, so many answers! Listening skills are important. The true and one thing that children are looking for when they don't listen or are naughty, is your attention. Adult activities, like practicing cutting, screwing a small screw into a piece of wood, drying dishes, planting flowers, brushing the dog, etc. or anything that challenges them will work. They will need to ask you how to do these things. Unlike a game, where rules can be broken and unlike toys, these things are things they see you do and are very interesting to them. Give it a try, I swear by it. Also, it's great to have a helper around the house! :) Good luck.
2006-09-18 12:59:54 · answer #3 · answered by Sarah C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
talk normal to her. explain to her why you don't want her doing a certain thing in a way she can understand (NO baby talk!). three year old's understand a lot more than we realize, sometimes. try to think about how she learns. is she a visual learner or does she learn by action? knowing that can also help determine why she is acting out.
when you are disciplining her, get down on her level so she feels like you really want her to hear what you are saying, rather than standing 2 feet above her...
give her one warning and that is it. after that, she is disciplined. there should be no question in her mind about a consequence.
Example: "if you pull the dog's tail again, you will go into the corner"
that way she can think whether she really wants to touch it again.
when she does listen, praise her and make her feel special!
2006-09-18 12:28:00 · answer #4 · answered by ♥sweet♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to change some of her habits. Set aside some 'quiet time' everyday. During this time get both of you to the same level - look her straight in the eyes and talk with her - besides, aren't you the parent? If you don't change her habits now - it'll only get worse. Learn to say NO once in a while - it's a very easy word to say but most people have a very difficult time saying it - they just don't want to be the 'bad guy'. Guess what...a child will respect you more if you show them who the parent is.
2006-09-18 12:53:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you find the answer, I'd like it!! Seriously, you are not alone. It's the age. You just need to be patient and make sure you get her attention. If she's over stimulated, remove the stimulus. I have to sometimes turn the TV off, make her look at me, etc. to make sure she's listening. My best solution is to get right in front of her, make her look at me and then repeat what I said so that I know she heard me. Sometimes I have to remind her, but usually that seems to work.
GOOD LUCK!!
2006-09-18 12:12:55 · answer #6 · answered by Jane M 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Start her on Cod Liver Oil. It is scientifically proven that consuming Cod Liver Oil helps in developing the child's brain and aids in getting him/her to pay attention. Obviously, however, that serves as a supplement to the other advises answered here such as reading to her more, making her an participant in conversations, etc. Try Cod Liver Oil, you'll see the difference (kids might not like the tasteless ones so perhaps you want to start her with the orange flavoured ones)
2006-09-18 12:21:21 · answer #7 · answered by lordbulba 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have a 4-1/2 year old who is constantly on the go. When I notice he is not listening to me, I go over to him and kneel down so that I am on his level and make eye contact and then talk to him. Hope this helps.
2006-09-18 13:58:50 · answer #8 · answered by Mary 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The principal characteristics of ADHD are inattention, hyperactivity, and impulsivity. These symptoms appear early in a child's life. Because many normal children may have these symptoms, but at a low level, or the symptoms may be caused by another disorder, it is important that the child receive a thorough examination and appropriate diagnosis by a well-qualified professional.
2006-09-18 12:14:09 · answer #9 · answered by tampico 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would start by asking her to touch her ear when she can hear you. I know it sounds crazy..but, it works. everytime you need to tell her something..say in a singsong voice "touch ur ears if u can hear mommy" then after she does that...talk to her in a child voice and use small talk then ask her to repeat what you have said. Then I would just play little listening games with her like simon says and redlight, greenlight...those will help her improve with listening. but, for now..I would ask her to repeat everything I said..that way you will know that she heard you and then you will know how to reprimand her upon her actions. Just hang in there, it will change but you will have to be consistent. Good luck and God bless..
2006-09-18 12:19:47 · answer #10 · answered by T&E 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋