My 19 month old son spent the weekend with his grandma. He came home this morning and a little while after she left he started to get cranky and fuss and cry. I feel like he didn't miss me at all and that he's not happy being home. What could be the problem? Has this ever happened to you?
2006-09-18 04:42:48 · 17 answers · asked by mommy_2_little_man 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
In "What to expect the toddler years," they had a nice section on this very thing. They explained that your child actually feels MORE comfortable with you and therefore will let his/her feelings out. He may have felt cranky/sad/tired when gone, but held it in because he was unsure of his surroundings. Now that he's home, he knows he can let you know how he's feeling, knowing you care.
2006-09-18 04:49:11 · answer #1 · answered by becky l 1 · 5⤊ 1⤋
I felt the same way for awhile with my baby spending time with my mom! But I just realized that she doesn't leave his side! She is on the floor playing with him constantly and carrying him around all the time! I know I have stuff to do and I can't do that with him all the time! He still cries and stuff but he is getting better! And find out what she feeds him and if he took a nap or not! Those things can also reflect you childs behavior when he comes home!! Not to mention you are his mama! He is most comfortable around you! So he can easily show his true feelings and emotions when he is around you! It may be a stage and it will pass!! Or talk to his Grandma and tell her your concerns so that you can maybe eliminate or narrow down what the problems might be! Good Luck!!!
2006-09-18 12:15:23 · answer #2 · answered by mistyblue7404 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is very common, especially when kids go to their grandparents. Ever heard a parent say that their kids are better when they aren't around. Could be he didn't get enough sleep this weekend. Could be his routine was messed up. With a 19 month old it could be anything. Give him a day or two and he'll be back to his normal self. By the way, he's still too young to really miss you. Of course he's happy to be home. Try laying him down for a nap.
2006-09-18 11:53:45 · answer #3 · answered by Fool in the Rain 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like Grandma spoiled him over the weekend and he's not used to the change and realizes who the boss is. I have this problem 3 days a week when I come home to my 4 year old after my Father In Law has been watching her all day.
2006-09-18 11:55:38 · answer #4 · answered by jevic 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Don't worry. May just be a bit tired from all the excitement at gran's. Most kids act one way around other people and complete opposite around mum. Mum is a safe place.
Our youngest will sometimes scream the house down, but just as her da opens the door, she wipes her face and puts a smile on. She knows what side of the bread her butters on and what she can get away with and she's not quite 1 1/2 yrs old.
2006-09-18 12:12:16 · answer #5 · answered by auld mom 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am a grandma. We have the same problems with my 4 grand children. There are a few possibilities. #1 Grandparents tend to have a little more patience. Years of experience using our kids as guinea pigs!!!! Made us learn. #2 Grandparents tend to drop everything and do nothing but play, make cookies, etc. No need for discipline usually since we are so busy playing #3 Back to #2, parents have the task of being the disciplinarians so it's a rude awakening to go back to reality. I do discipline my grand children when they need it though. My grand daughter is especially attached since my kids live on my property. But then there are the days she wants nothing to do with us and asks only for her mom and dad. It's normal.
2006-09-18 11:56:56 · answer #6 · answered by jelly-bean 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Your son has had a big weekend at grandmas..A big long weekend..He was at a differnt place with differnt rules...Everything was differnt...It may not seem to differnt to you but he is a little guy and to him all of it was differnt..Now that he is home everything has changed again..But back to what he is use to...No matter if grandma lives next door or around the world to him it is going to seem like a big tirp..How do you feel when you fist get home from vacation?? Most of us need a mini vacation after our vacation to get back into the swing of things...Same thing with him just a little differnt...It happens to all of us...
2006-09-18 11:57:55 · answer #7 · answered by Sarah G 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That kind of happend to me but Im not saying that that happend to your son,,,, When I was like 15 years old my mom sent me with my grandmother for my vacation and when I was there my grandmother told me things that my mom never told me about my father,,, my mom always told me that it was kind of her fault my father left her but my grandmother told me the truth,,,,, before that I was always kind of mad at my mom after that I kind of got the picture,,,, I was 2 1/2 months with my grandmother and when it was time to go back I kind of missed it,,, I dint want to go back because of the new friends I had made there,,, those where the most happy times of my teenage years,,,, maybe your son met someone spacial or maybe he missed that his grandmother is alone and he helped over there,,,, take him to lunch or if he goes to school tell him not to go school that you have something plan for the two of you today suprise him,,,, then when you are in lunch ask him how was your trip,,,, and tell hi if he wants to visit grandma more often?
2006-09-22 10:40:30 · answer #8 · answered by Airforcepink 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grandma probably spoiled him! You know, that's what grandparents are for and all. Don't worry, I'm sure he missed you, but just had a good time with his grandma. I hope you enjoyed the free time as well.
2006-09-18 14:59:30 · answer #9 · answered by GeminiGirl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
find out what his grandma does that they have such a good time while they're there, and invite your son to do the same. then tell him when he gets to see grandma again and in the meantime plan fun things to do, like doing some fingerpainting to give to grandma or baking cookies for her.
2006-09-18 11:49:31 · answer #10 · answered by Mizz G 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋