ok so my ex boyfriend recently told me hes in love with his current girlfriend who moved in a week after we broke up and its only been a couple months we are trying to remain friends but its kinda hard to hear that stuff you think he is in a relationship now based on lust and he is trying to make me jealous? or maybe just trying to tell himself he is happy?why do guys do this?
2006-09-18 04:37:45 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It could be a combination of the two. He might want a ris eout of you, but maybe telling you this is some kind reassurance for himself. He did seem to jump into his new relationship, so maybe things aren't as rosy as they appear or he would like to make you think.
2006-09-18 04:43:31 · answer #1 · answered by not meant to be tamed 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm guessing that his "love" he feels for her is one of two things:
1) It's jsut that "new-car smell" of a relationship, just wait until he finds out more about her...
OR
2) He really is trying to make you jealous.
You should tell him that if you two want to remain friends, he's got to stop talking about that stuff becasue it's only hurting you. You're still raw about it, right? If he respects your wishes and shuts up about her (for a while at least), then he really does want to remain friends. If he doesn't.... Then he doesn't care about you very much anymore.
Guys do this... well, they do it because they're not too good with feelings. I know there are so very many men who are sensitive who would rebuke this, but the truth is (having once been a guy like this), a lot of men have trouble with these inner feelings. They're compulsive and it sucks, but .... It's how they're bred.
Talk to him, that's all I've got to say really.
2006-09-18 11:44:54 · answer #2 · answered by alchemicalstann 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know why guys do this, but they have done this to me as well. What I have learned from it is that I need that two month break from seeing them and talking to them after the breakup. It's hard and it hurts, but after that time, I am so much less sensitive especially if I have made something good come from life in that time.. like working out or decluttering or whatever makes you feel EXCELLENT about yourself.. then, when I feel I can deal with that person (cause I am friends with MANY ex's) I go and deal with them. Sure, it DOES still hurt to hear them saying they're in love and whatever.. but try to not take it personally like you werent enough, instead, realize why they werent the one for YOU. There has got to be things you didnt like or annoyed you about them.. Then fantasize about the PERFECT person for you and how happy you would be with them!
Some (most in my experience, but there's always exceptions!) guys tend to latch to the next woman quickly. I figure they have this instinct to find another woman as they are lost without someone there to care for them!
Dont fret though. Why would you want someone who's not TOTALLY into YOU!? That would be worse pain to go though than the break up initially!
2006-09-18 11:46:45 · answer #3 · answered by senacia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys do it cuz women let them do it! Think about it...he wouldn't have nobody to play house with if some woman who didn't know her self worth hadn't jumped into the crib with him so soon! It's hard to remain real friends with someone you've had a relationship with. It's best to leave it alone and move on with your life. This dude looks like he's trying to have a spare lined up in case this one goes sour. You're better off!
2006-09-18 11:43:52 · answer #4 · answered by meillee44 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you JUST a friend? It looks to me like you still see him as a boyfriend in your head even though this is not the case. He could be doing this to make you jealous, or he could be doing this to get over you. Did you break up with him? If you did, he is making you jealous maybe to win you back. Or he could be moving on with his life. If he has moved on, you will NEVER EVER have another chance at him again. And if you did break up with him, you might want to think why you did so you don't make the same mistake in the future.
If however he broke up with you, he would not care to make you jealous. In this case, he would be over you. He is just moving on with his life, and even though you are a friend, he is not making you jealous. He is probably not in relapse either; he is merely moving on.
Hope this help!
2006-09-18 11:44:31 · answer #5 · answered by +TheEndIsInSight+ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He was cheating on you, plain and simple. No guy would ever have a girl move in with him if he only knew her for a week. Move on, the guy's a jerk, he's just trying to keep you around in case the current girl doesn't work out.
2006-09-18 11:41:00 · answer #6 · answered by tbayxxxv 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he may be in love but i think he has been cheating on you for the girl to move in a week after you broke up with him otherwise its either lust or she is a serious whore.move on don't be friends its a waste of time.
2006-09-18 11:46:11 · answer #7 · answered by Eric 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is doing this because of human nature. He has not yet found true happiness or love yet. He may believe he has but he will change his mind again. I don't believe he is trying to make you jealous.
If you can't deal with it then go make a new friend.
Best of luck to you
2006-09-18 11:42:24 · answer #8 · answered by Peanut 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For him,it`s over...you are not lovers anymore,just friends...
you are a person he can trust and he tells you this things because he is happy,and wants you to be happy for him aswell...
I don`t really think that there are chances for him to say it if it wasn`t true...
I think you should move on,try not to meet him a wile,cause it hurts,and you can`t forget him when you see him every day...
and when you are over it,and you have someone aswell,then meet him and tell him how happy you are...
2006-09-18 11:45:30 · answer #9 · answered by donatella 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dam your story sounds like mine! i lived with my ex and we broke up i moved out and 2 weeks later his new girl was living there with him..now it may have played out to be more like your story...except that i put a restraining order against his ***...he was harrassing me for a few weeks after the break-up...now it's been like 5 months and the order is up in a week...i'm hoping he continues to leave me a lone though...but i hear from his freinds that he still loves me and only moved that chic in to help pay the bills and to make me jealous. i think restraining orders should be used on just about every breakup...helps you to move on.
2006-09-18 11:47:32 · answer #10 · answered by tigerlily 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋