can anyone tell me how i can get my 6 year old to sleep in her bedrrom?

Question

i'm 29 been married 10 years my lil girl sleeps with hubby and i she always have but i think she need to be sleeping in her room, my hubby and i both don't sleep good at nite but she will not have anything to do with sleeping in her room, what can i do to get her out of my bed and into her's?

Answer 1

Help her decorate her room to make it more appealing.
Keep a chart of the days she remains in her own room. Have a system in place that rewards her for not leaving her room for 7 days in a row. When she accomplishes that, give her a reward.
The reward should be something you already discussed with her so it is meaningful to her.
One you tuck her into HER bed, explain gently but firmly that she will be sleeping there from now on.
If she comes into your room, say nothing; simply take her gently by the hand and walk her back to HER room. As often as she comes into your room over the next several nights - this may take some time - immediately walk her back to her room. Don't have a conversation or try to bribe or coerce; the less said the better. Each morning remind her about the chart and the rewards she will receive when she begins staying in her own room.
If you and your husband decide to have another child, don't make the same mistake. Make the transition from parents' bed to child's bed much earlier.

Answer 2

Kuddos to you for co-sleeping. It is truly a beneficial environment for you and your family to bond, feel secure and sleep well.
But, as you said, your sleep is beginning to suffer, and it is okay to want to move her to her own room.
Notice that with co-sleeping, everyone feels secure. Now that your dear daughter has been instructed to go to her own room, where is is quiet, and lonely, she may be feeling a bit of anxiety. It is understandable.
The other posters mentioned decorating her room. That is a fantastic idea. Save up some money and take her on a shopping trip to pick out new bedding, wall art, curtains,etc. Maybe even make things together to put in her room. Making this unknown space more "user friendly" will help.
Also, if that doesn't work. You can gradually help her move out by first putting her mattress on the floor in your room (if room permits). Then create a sticker chart- for every night she sleeps on her own bed (in your room) she gets a sticker. after 2 weeks, move the mattress into her room and do the chart again. At the end of each week, reward her with something she loves, a new set of crayons, a movie, whatever she enjoys.
While doing this, involve her, letting her make some choices as to the rules of the game and reassure her that your bed is a good place for comfort, too.
Another idea, once she is in her room, is let her have a sleepover with a girlfriend or two in her own special room! Of course, they may be up half the night- but not in your room.

I hope this helps
All my best~

Answer 3

I had to do this, Go to there bed with them...read a book, let them go to sleep and then leave the room...tell them after a few weeks that you have been leaving the room and how very proud of them you are that they have been sleeping alone. Then I would stop laying down but still read a book...then tell my son okay I will be sitting at the door in your room. I did that for a few weeks, then I moved to the sofa. I would go and check on him every 10 min or so...if he was sleeping I would go to bed. it seems like a lot of trouble but this really worked for me. I so still however have to sit in the living room every night still...but I am okay with that...his bedtime is 8 so I can be ready for bed by 9. I was single for 7 yrs and my son would sleep in my bed, when I remarried I had to get him out of the bed, and I did, all the steps above. I tell him every morning how proud I am of him. Good Luck to you.

Answer 4

DON'T force her and don't demand it. She'll get even more clingy and it will make it harder, plus she loves you towo and will feel pushed out. Here's something that dfinitely worked for my daughter (she was turning 5):
Tell her that for her 7th birthday that she's getting a very special big-girl gift. Get her excited and used to the idea before the birthday (as little as a week, or as long as 6 months), mention it whenever it seems right. Only say it with excitement, b/c she''l pick on your view of how she sould feel about this big change.
Get her some very inexpensive netting and install it over her bed. It doesn't have to be fancy even stapled to the cieling in a decorative way would work. Then make her 7th birthday party extra special and make it so she feel all grown and ready to go to her new room. If she's anything like my daughter, she'll flip out when she sees the "canopy" over her bed and want to sleep in it. Hope that helps. It worked for us .

Answer 5

You're just going to have in make her do it. It will be hard, since you let her sleep with you for so long (Why do parents do this?!) but there is no secret way to make it happen easily. Maybe make a deal with her - offer some reward if she can do it for a month or something like that? Buy her some fancy bed sheets or stuffed animals that will make her room seem far better than your room? Good luck.

Answer 6

tell her you think she is a big girl now, so she is going to do big girl things. Like sleeping alone. Make her room an enjoyable place to sleep with a comfy bed and nice sheets that she likes. If she has been sleeping with you this long she obviously likes your bed. Make hers as close to yours as possible. If you have 300 count sheets dont give her 150's that are rough. Maybe let her pick out how she wants her routine to go, and do it. If she feels in control, she may be more likely to get into her bed and not yours.

good luck

Answer 7

I use to have this problem. You ever watched Super Nanny? I enjoy sleeping with my husband at night. It our time at night and in the morning to cuddle etc. I make my kids sleep in there own beds. It took along time to get my 3 year old to do this. One night My husband and I must have took him back to his bed 80 times. Through out the night he would keep coming in our room. This makes you really tired but after a week or 2 your child will get the hang of it. It is so well worth it. You deserve this time alone without a leg in ur back. Just tell her that is where she is going to sleep from now on. Keep taking her back and she will get it! Trust me you will be glad you did this!

Answer 8

You need to be consistant in making her go into her room. When she comes out then put her back in. Leave a nite light and drink nearby. She is way too old to be sleeping with you. You aren't a bad parent to make her sleep in her own room. She will of course rebel and weep and throw fits but just keep sending her back to her room.

Answer 9

why, is she scared? if she is, find out what she's scared of and do something creative to overcome that.

e.g. if she's scared of monsters, before going to bed you can say a prayer with her to ask God's angels to keep the monsters away from her bedroom as she sleeps (it may sound silly to adults but it works for the kid). since I was raised in a Christian home, my mother always told me that i don't have to be afraid because Jesus has defeated all the monsters--I have Jesus and so the monsters can't get near me because they're scared of Jesus.

tuck her in with a nice bedtime story and wait until she falls asleep (but don't lie down coz she'll feel you creeping out).

then have some kind of visual remedy for your little girl. for instance, you can buy her a cute waterspray bottle, decorate it with glass paint and fill it with some yummy bubble bath solution and glitter. tell her, "when you wake up in the middle of the night and you're scared, say 'go away monster' and spray this bottle twice in the air. the monster will smell the perfume and go away, then you can go back to sleep."

finally, resist the temptation to comfort her in the middle of the night. go to your room and lock the door. if she calls, don't answer. i know it will be painful at first, but it's the only way she can get used to it. answer it, and you'll make it ten times more difficult for both of you than it has to be.

Answer 10

You might want to read a book called "Good Night Sleep Tight" by Kim West. It works with sleeping problems in kids infant to school age, so there is a chapter that would tell you how to work with your daughter. It has worked wonders for my 2 year old who was also a co-sleeper. The methods are gentle and don't involve leaving your child to cry for hours at a time. E-mail me if you need someone to vent to! Good luck!