How do you accept your childs bad grades?

Question

dropped from A to B not bad.

Answer 1

You need to establish whether they really are bad.

The important factor is that your child is attaining the best grades they can.

If there has been a drop to a standard below the known level of ability, discuss it with him/her, then formulate a realistic strategy to regain the lost ground.

Give lots of encouragement!!

Best wishes!

Answer 2

You first need to understand why he/she is getting those bad grades be you can accept them. Some kids just start the school year off well, while others do. Some just aren't doing the work or paying attention... and some... just can't do the work. None are anything to be worried about as they are all fixable... it's just that the actions to fix them are very different and need to be handled quite differently.


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Dropped from an A to B? Getting B's are not bad... if you start pressuring the child to get A's, you're doing more harm than good. Letting the child know that A's and B's are perfectly acceptable while C's and lower are not, would be a much better approach.

When I was in school, my best friend was a straight A student for years. One marking period he got two B's, high one's too... not even a full point from an A. His parent grinded on him so bad that he stopped hanging out with friends in order to study, started staying up late to do extra work, and ended up burning out by his junior year. He got real bad before he got better. Another friend generally got A's and B's. He got a couple C's one marking period... his dad smacked him on the back of the head (lightly ofcourse), and told him that A's and B's are fine... NO C's... the next marking period he got mostly A's and only 2 B's.

Most may say that this is due to personality issues than anything else but, parents actions and reactions shape their children's personalities. I think simply telling your child that good grades don't only show up as A's is a good way to keep your child at ease, relaxed, and focused.

Answer 3

Well, you don't have to accept them at all.

First of all, you need to sit down and discuss why the grades are low. Is your child not doing the work, or do they not understand the work, or can they not see the board... problems can be from procrastination, a possible learning disorder, a bad teacher, a vision or hearing problem...

If you suspect a vision or hearing problem, get them checked by your doctor immediately. Issues like that are easily treated and you will see an almost immediate increase their ability to do the work. I know, I have bad vision that was not diagnosed until Kindergarten.

If it is a problem with the teacher, or with other kids in the class, you should meet with the teacher and principle, and be ready to request a change in class for your child.

If it is that your child does not understand the work, get a tutor. Even someplace like Sylvan Learning Centers is good (but expensive), or the school may have a list of tutors. Better yet, tutor your child yourself if you are able.

If your child is simply procrastinating and not doing the work, meet with the teacher and your child, set clear expectations and follow through - no television until homework is done, and then check the homework yourself.

If you suspect a learning disability (like ADHD or dyslexia or something) meet with the teacher and they can help have your child tested.

Most importantly, let your child know how important good grades are, and that you are their partner and their helper to achieve good grades. Do not accept anything less than their best work. Very few kids get straight A's constantly, so don't expect perfection, just their best.

Answer 4

You don't. Why are you giving up on him? Sit him down, figure out the problem and deal with it. Bad grades for a person that has no job and has everything in life provided for him is not acceptable.

Also, see if there are any learning problems, speech, hearing problems.

Answer 5

Pam's right. You don't accept them. You try to help the child get better grades. Talk to the teachers. Make sure he's doing his homework. Monitor him as much as possible. Good luck.

Answer 6

We sit down and discuss what went wrong with the grades and ways that we can both work together to improve them.

Answer 7

You don't you get him/her a tutor.
Talk to your school and see if there are any after school class that he/ she can take. This is your child's future. If he/she can not learn in school when they are out on their own are they going to get a good paying job? They need the education now. Please get them the help they need.

Answer 8

Tell them they are stupid. I think that it will motivate them.