Only me I swear; I had to have a bridesmaid drop out because she is pregnant, my other friend is going through a nasty divorce and my fiances sister wont do it because she's "too old" (40) - nice right. Anyway I've run out of girls to ask and now the wedding party is off by one on my side, how exactly am I to work this now? any suggestions?
2006-09-18 03:59:12 · 23 answers · asked by Jersey Style 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
NO I didn't make my friend drop out because she got pregnant she dropped out on her own. Jesus! I'm not a mean person!
2006-09-18 05:12:43 · update #1
What a bunch of bitches some of you are, I originally asked his sister and she said no, not after the other girl dropped out. His brother who is 41 is in it too. OKAY
2006-09-18 05:16:32 · update #2
I've been to weddings were the parties were uneven. There was one more groomsmen then their were bridesmaids at this one wedding. I don't it's that big of a deal, really. The one bridesmaid just walked in with two groomsmen and they all walked in last. If you just leave it alone, it's one last thing you have to deal with and you avoid the situation of making someone feel like the only reason you asked them to be in your wedding is because someone dropped out. You know? Good luck!
2006-09-18 04:06:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about it. It's your day and the people standing next to you should be the people closest to you (those that can afford it and are comfortable w/ the role of bridesmaid, etc.). There is no need to recruit others. (Unless you want to consider "junior bridesmaids" - a great way to include younger cousins, older daughters of some of your friends, etc.)
For the processional, try having all the groomsmen stand up front w/ your husband-to-be, that way each bridesmaid will walk down the aisle by herself - so it won't be as obvious.
It's tough to advise on the recessional - because I don't know the "story" w/ each person, but I'd probably look closely at the group and see who you can pair up. Maybe have the best man and bridesmaid stick together and for the rest of the bridal party just pair them up in any way (who cares if two guys walk out of the church together - they don't need to hold hands or dance or anything?!)
When introducing people at the reception - try doing all of the groomsmen individually (except the best man) first, then the bridesmaids (except the maid of honor) - then do the honor attendants as a couple --- then the new Mister and Misses.
Play around with it all, but don't worry about it. It is very common to have uneven wedding parties and I think it is much classier to have an uneven number than to "recruit" new best buddies for the occasion.
Good luck!
2006-09-18 11:15:17 · answer #2 · answered by Darby 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This doesn't have to be a problem at all! If you are having the bridesmaids walk in one by one in the procession, just have the last bridesmaid escorted by two groomsmen on the way out. I was in a wedding last fall where the bride did this and it worked out very well.
Anyone who is sitting at the ceremony, counting the number of people standing up there and getting pissy about the numbers being uneven is not attending your wedding for the right reason.
2006-09-18 11:15:15 · answer #3 · answered by Church Music Girl 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Don't ask anyone else. If you don't have the people you really want up there you are just using someone to fill space. So what if it's uneven, your photographer can do different pictures that don't showcase "couples" in regards to the bridal party, no one looks at them anyway during the ceremony :)
If you have a child to invite a as a flowergirl that would certainly even things out but only if you really feel you have to.
Who came up with the rule it had to be even? Seriously, your pictures will be fine if you hire a professional photographer and tell them the situation. They are very smart, talented people and can offer many alternative photographs. Also, don't have a bridal party dance at the reception. This is getting old anyway and most brides don't.
2006-09-18 11:07:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I am having the same problem. I want a small wedding party, and 2 of the 4 people my hubby originally wanted for one reason or aother have objected. What I did is rearranged things so that the two extras on my side have different, but equally important, roles in the wedding. My friend will be bringing up the unity candle (instead of leaving it up there), and the other decided that she wanted to be my own assistant.
Its hard to do sometimes, but your friends and family will understand. Last resort would be to get new bridesmaids.
Good luck!
2006-09-18 12:29:06 · answer #5 · answered by glorymomof3 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Did your bridesmaid drop out on her own? Does she not feel comfortable because she's pregnant? I do think that it's okay if one of your bridesmaids is pregnant. I actually will have a pregnant bridesmaid in my wedding party. If you're okay with her being in the wedding party, why not just make a few alterations on the dress or have her wear a different dress in the same color? But if you do decide not to have her in the wedding party and cannot find anyone to "replace" her spot, it is okay to have fewer bridesmaids than groomsmen. You could have two flower girls in that case too.
2006-09-18 11:51:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I too had an uneven wedding party due to a meddling mother in law (who I love now) but, I was lucky enough to have a 12 year old girl as a bridesmaid, and I demoted her to an "honorary flower girl." That way the procession wouldn't be off and she got all the perks of a bridesmaid she just had to walk by herself. If possible, you can convince your fiances' sister to be a "Matron of Honor" if she really wants to stick herself in the "too old" category... there's a way to beat her at her own game! At any rate, don't worry about it too much... if this is the only thing that goes wrong about your wedding day, start smiling, because it could be worse! good luck and congratulations!
2006-09-18 12:38:21 · answer #7 · answered by superrix83 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Not a problem. Let the groomsmen that takes the mother of groom to seat move to stand at front & wait for rest of party.
Then continue the wedding party. The bride & flower girl stand out more than ringbearer & groom so pictures will not notice the difference in numbers. As you leave - the groomman walks alone
to seperate wedding party & family.
If it really bothers you add a 2nd flower girl or a junior bridesmaid.
My daughter had 3 flower girls & a Junior Bridemaid ( ages 10-16). This is a good way to add family member or close friens child. Then your numbers match - good luck!
2006-09-18 11:12:07 · answer #8 · answered by Wolfpacker 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Weddings are stressful enough without worrying about something like this!
Who cares if it's not even? Wouldn't you rather have people who love you and support you regardless of age or a big tummy?
No one will even notice that there's one less bridesmaid!!! The last wedding I was in, we all walked in by ourselves anyway- we bridesmaids loved it! A little special attention just for us! The men walked in first one by one, and then the ladies. It was great and the photos are awesome.
You can have the best man accompany the groom on his walk, so it evens out. You can have two men escort the maid of honor. You can have one of the bridesmaids escort the flower girl. There's so many options, make it special! Ask your bridesmaids, too, they'll have PLENTY of ideas, trust me!
Don't stress! All the attention will be on you, anyway!
Congratulations!
2006-09-18 11:09:18 · answer #9 · answered by Elizabeth S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about the number, just don't make them stand in line like at traditional weddings.
I have seen the bridal party stand off to the side as a group and behind the minister as a group. Tall in the back, short in the front. Works well and looks great in the pictures. Have them all walk up and back alone not escorted. Stagger them by gender. It works out fine.
2006-09-18 14:05:51 · answer #10 · answered by exclusiveindigo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋