if you found out your b/f ex was at his house what would you do?

Question

i found out my b/f ex was at his house and stayed the night.

Answer 1

Well first how did you find out? If he told you then you know he could be trusted. If her didnt tell you maybe he thought that you would be hurt or over react when it wasnt anything behind the visit and just didnt want to say anything. I had a ex boyfriend we had dated for years he knew my family and friends sometime we would ask he other for advice. Do you trust him,Has he given you a reason to feel that he hasnt gotten over this woman? Wait until you know the full story which you cant get while your mad. You might say the wrong thing and you become the ex.

Answer 2

Hello..... If the ex was staying the night then more has happened than just hanging out.

But if you trust your boyfriend and he says that nothing happened that would be your judgement call.....

But I would allow ex's to hangout, but the limit has been crossed when the other stays the entire night!

Answer 3

How did you find out? Did he tell you? Or did you find out on your own?

I was in a situation like that with my late husband, before we were married, of course. An ex- girlfriend of his "just happened" to find herself in his neighborhood at 1am with no way home. I was on the phone with him when she called. He told me when he hung up from her what she told him and that he invited her to stay until the morning, until she could catch a bus home. Again, he told me all of this before she actually showed up at his house.

I lived about 5 minutes from him, walking distance. I was about 16 at the time (he was years older), with a strict curfew, and a mother who enforced the curfew down to the minute. I didn't believe in sneaking out. I kept calling my boyfriend ever few minutes to find out what he and his ex were doing. I called like every 2-3 minutes until finally he got tired of it and stopped answering his phone. When he stopped answering, I panicked because I knew that unless I kept reminding him that I was his girlfriend, he would forget and sleep with his ex. It was almost 2am by the time I had the nerve to walk over to my boyfriend's house. When I left my house, I was literally shaking like a frightened puppy. By the time I got to my boyfriends' house, I had built up so much anger that I got rid of the shakes and exchanged 'em for a pipe I found laying in the street. I was most certainly going to make his ex's head bleed. Finally, once I got to his house, I saw that he was downstairs on his couch while he let her have his bed upstairs. I would've thought it was a set- up to make me believe nothing was going on. But my boyfriend had no idea I was going to show up at his house, so it didn't seem likely that his intentions were foul. He honestly just wanted to help a friend. I got myself all riled up and highly embarrassed, for nothing.

Look at the big picture. Has there been other things that you question about your boyfriend? Outside of this, has he lied or cheated on you? If not, I think the safe thing would be to keep your eyes open for communication being your boyfriend and his ex. You can't accuse him of something you don't know he did. If there's real doubt on whether or not you can trust him, take some time apart. Fact is, you can't spend too much mental energy worrying about what someone else is doing or will do. You have no real tie to him, he's not your husband. And, since you guys don't live together, he doesn't owe you anything.. that goes vice versa too.

Answer 4

I would ask him why she was there and if this going to be an on-going thing. If so, let him know that this will bother you and if it were to continue that you would have to leave.

I refuse to deal with any of my ex's bullshit lines or my b/f ex's for that matter.

They are ex's for a reason.

Answer 5

your boyfriend doesn't trust you enough to tell you the truth.
I mean, if she was in transit and just needed a place to sleep he would have told you, right?
unless he figured you'd chuck a mental.
you will find out soon enough if he wants to get back together with her. finding out if he's two-timing may be more difficult.
I suggest you forget about the sleepover. You and him aren't yet committed enough to be living together so you don't really have the right to be limiting his activities.

Answer 6

You mean you're EX- boyfriends ex- girlfriend spent the night at his house.
You just found out that he's no good.. leave him.

Answer 7

um I wouldnt feel too good about it, but I guess it comes down to trust. Not me though, I would be asking all sorts of questions, So what time did you go to bed, where did you sleep , where did she sleep. etc lol

Answer 8

Dump girl!

Answer 9

Sounds like you don't have a boyfriend anymore.

Answer 10

Would depend on why she/he were there. If it was an overnight-er then well that needs no explanation.