The crunchy granola sect here say that we must hold the baby during bottle feeding in order to make them feel warm and love and bonded to us. However, since my daughter has learned to crawl expeditiously, walk a little, and is more independent...she wants to hold her bottle herself and drink with her toys sitting beside us, or sometimes in her room where she'll sip and stop to play.
She won't tolerate being held during a bottle during the day, and she only wants this at night at bedtime. So, what I want to know is can anyone pull a study out from somewhere citing the dangers of my girl's early independence? Also, should I hold her despite the fact she doesn't want to be held? Even if she hits and thrashes to get free so she can drink on her own?
2006-09-18 03:26:26 · 17 answers · asked by Goddess of Nuts PBUH 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
lol. somewhere a le leche leader is crying.
I'd say if she doesnt want to be held then dont hold her. lol.
Iam sure the breast feeding hoopla mothers would suggest wrapping her in a blanket and MAKING her enjoy the bonding time. lol.
2006-09-18 03:28:30 · answer #1 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How old is she? She sounds independent like my youngest daughter. I know bonding is so important, but I also thought development was too, and eye/hand coordination was a part of developing. I always considered holding the bottle to be a big "first step" and encouraged it. Of course, I didn't leave my babies alone holding a bottle in a crib feeding themselves, but I don't see a problem with letting her hold her bottle during daytime feedings.
As long as you think you get enough "cuddle" time, you should be fine.
My daughter is the same way, she will isolate herself at times and then at other times she's very loving and clingy.
She's three now and she's not having any problems other than being very independent so I have to keep an eye on her.
Also, it might be time to switch to sippy cups. My daughter took well to sippy cups and eating on her own. She's been weaned off the bottle for as long as I can remember. I didn't push her development, either. She just loved doing things herself.
My pediatrician said it was great and the only thing was to make sure she got enough fluids in her at feedings.
2006-09-18 03:40:43 · answer #2 · answered by Gloria H 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO.
Don't fight with her.
She'll eat when she's hungry.
No baby has ever starved themselves. Sipping may be a problem but if she's sitting on her and drinking the whole bottle that sounds fine. If she stops a little ways through just sit her back down in the middle of her toys and hand her the bottle again saying 'more'. But if she really doesn't want more than don't let her sip it later. Just give her another snack later when she's hungry.
2006-09-18 03:42:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, don't force her. Let her be independent. She'll come to you if she wants to be held during the day.
There are so many other ways to bond with your baby. Take some time out and sit down on the floor and play with her.
It's good that she'd becoming independent on her own. I think you will have an easier time when it comes to having to put her in school.
2006-09-18 03:33:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son who's 20 weeks previous is like this. He pulls faraway from the bottle even as he's feeding even regardless of the reality that he loves his nutrition. i desirous to take the bottle correct faraway from him and placed him down for a couple of minutes. He receives very go when I try this yet when I didnt shall we be there forver. So after I easily have finished that he then takes something of his feed no difficulty. He also pulls faraway from it if he has wind, so I make positive thats not the priority first! might want to be worth a try....they quickly study!!
2016-11-27 21:52:00 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter was only 3 months old when she refused to be held for a bottle. I put her in her bouncy seat and held the bottle for her. She broke from the bottle really easy and now drinks from a cup with a lid and straw and is 16 months old. She's a happy well adjusted baby and is very smart. She is interactive and loving with me and anyone else who wants to play with her.
2006-09-18 03:42:00 · answer #6 · answered by momoftwo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she doesnt want to be held, then dont hold her.. When she wants to be loved and held, she will come to you.. She is independent now, and wants to do her own thing. Get used to it.. The holding days are over. Now you just need to let go, and watch her like a hawk! Good luck
2006-09-18 03:30:27 · answer #7 · answered by sshhmmee2000 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Independence is not a bad thing. It doesn't sound like you daughter is suffering for love and attention. Let her drink from her bottle independently if she wants. I would think that you'd only make things worse if you hold her against her will.
2006-09-18 03:34:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The crunchy granola sect ? What is this .. a poor idea of a joke ? Don't struggle with your baby. How is it going to make her feel loved when you are forcing her to be held ? Good Luck.
2006-09-18 03:29:32 · answer #9 · answered by tysavage2001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her be, she will learn to trust you if you give her what she wants. It is good that she is learning some independence!!!! If you make her sit still and be held when she does not want to be then she is going to associate cuddling with not being fun! Hold her when she wants it leave her alone when she doesn't.
2006-09-18 03:34:49 · answer #10 · answered by rye252000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she doesn't want to be held, then don't hold her. Don't worry about what anyone says. You know your daughter better than anyone in the entire world. Forget the studies. You are the best mother she will ever have. Enjoy your baby!!
2006-09-18 03:29:53 · answer #11 · answered by ginger13 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋