I have a 13 month old daughter who is pretty much a typical baby except that she has a temper!! I know that babies will be babies and have fits but she will hit, push me away, yell, fall out, kick, throw things and will just not listen. Her teacher even told me that she was mean. What should I do to break this habit? Can some babies be just naturally mean? Will she grow up to be mean?
I am 22 years old and I am a first time mother. Your help will be grateful! Thanks
2006-09-18 03:09:43 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
13 months is old enough to be learning what NO means. Sounds like she just hasnt learned it yet.
2006-09-18 03:12:27 · answer #1 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
She is not mean. She is frustrated. Having a teacher for her at 13 months may contribute to her frustration. She is learning by nature as fast as is possible. People trying to control their babies instead of learning from them is the cause of most of the problems babies have. The teacher saying the baby is mean is a clue that the teacher has no understanding of babies and she is probably what's causing your problem.
2006-09-18 10:22:51 · answer #2 · answered by beast 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Have you or anyone else spoiled her? Because this is like my eldest son. Since he have medicle issues he really got spoiled more than he would get disciplined. So by this happening he don't really listens to me and he fuss and fights. Now its different when his father is around because his dad do not let his disablity get in the way. So now its time for you to take action. Start taking away things that she cherishes, give her time outs, and don't reward her for doing nothing or just being bad. Now another thing is that she might she want the attention and that is the way she shows it. Through anger.
2006-09-22 04:42:46 · answer #3 · answered by sweetlee725 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dr. Phil had an episode about this on Thursday I think it was.
You need to ignore this bad behaviour. If you give her attention while she's acting like this, she will continue. Put her in a time out and walk away. Go back to her after a few minutes.
2006-09-18 10:23:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have never heard of a 13 month old having a teacher before so that is something new to me.
However, ths is a phase that she will grow out of or you just have to be more of a parent and tell her no means no!!!
If you let your child push you over all the time she will be resentful to you as she gets older.
Discipline is something I don't recommend (physical) but verbal is good, just don't call her down (name calling).
Best of luck to you, I hope this helped you some.
2006-09-18 10:22:48 · answer #5 · answered by Renee25 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
First I would make sure it's not nothing physical....by getting a check up with your pediatrician......All children at that age are coming into there own independence......Ignoring in probably the best thing for fits....If she is hitting....tell her no and put her where she wont hit like her crib....same as throwing tell her no thats bad and put her in crib......then take her out...if whe does someting bad.....again....do it again..........Whatever it is that you do make sure it is consitant that is the key......eventually she will associate that if she does that she will have to go sit in the crib or the play pen......but you have to be faithful everytime
2006-09-18 10:22:14 · answer #6 · answered by outahere122963 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All I can suggest is to try to ignore the bad behaviour and give her lots of attention when she is nicely behaved. When she does misbehave get down to her level (so you are eye to eye ) explain what she is doing is not nice because... e.g it hurts. Once you have explained it is not nice just try and ignore. If she is not getting a reaction then she should eventually stop. When she has stopped and is being nice give her loads of attention and praise. Hope things get better for you soon.
2006-09-18 10:13:54 · answer #7 · answered by heli 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
i use to have a child that did that, i had to get down on the ground and scream and kick just like she did, and she never did it again.
i think she though i was crazy, mind you i did this in the middle of walmart!!
I would give her a time out. just put her in her room and let her have her fit!
sometimes it's that they are just tired or over stimulated, or just that they see this behavior from some other kids and repeat it.
but stand firm on this.
2006-09-22 10:04:48 · answer #8 · answered by mother of 7! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your pediatrician about it. A book that has helped thousands of parents is Baby and Child Care by Dr. Benjamin Spock. It is extremely helpful.
2006-09-18 10:18:24 · answer #9 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have found that ignoring the temper tantrums helps. Just make sure that she can't hurt herself whie she is having a fit. Also reward her good behavior with lots of hugs and praise.
2006-09-18 10:12:58 · answer #10 · answered by Christina W 2 · 7⤊ 0⤋