A few weeks back, my boyfriend and I had this huge fight and slipped up that it's over. When I wanted to recant what I said, he then said it was over (we've dated for almost 3 years though it was semi long distance). I wanted to work through my problems but he didn't want to.
I wanted to take a little break to see if he will come around but then I met this guy who is too good to be true. He and I went out a few times and already he's done some much in the few dates we had than what my ex and I did throughout the relationship. He already making me forget my ex and if it continues, I'm going to fall for him.
The other night, my ex left a message saying he does misses me, still loves me but needed some time because he's hurt. But during the period, I noticing the small things and wondering if I can tolerate it again. I still love him but not too sure if I should take him back.
So my question is... should I continue to pursue what I have with the new guy or take the ex back?
2006-09-18 02:55:39 · 23 answers · asked by Bibi 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Fall,baby,fall!
2006-09-18 02:57:53 · answer #1 · answered by lauren m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
3 years is a lot of time,and I can really understand you why you stil ask this question...but,as you said,you did things with this new guy,what you haven`t done with your ex in 3 years...you say it is to good to be true,why?You have the right to be happy aswell,and as I see,you get very good along with the new guy,so take the "risk",forget about your ex,and live your life,as you like it,love doesn`t mean you have to accept things that you dislike...tolerance is important,but I think if you wanted some time on your own,it means you weren`t happy in this relationship anymore,so in the first weeks with your ex again,it might look everything ok,but after that he will start doing it again,and that forever...you can not change someone,and if you think you can`t accept these things,then go girl,and fall for the other,this is a sing that you should let the old one...
2006-09-18 03:11:10 · answer #2 · answered by donatella 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This seems like a no-brainer - You dated your ex for 3 years and there was no talk of marriage. Translation - he does not love you, you are simply someone that is "safe". Move on he may miss you but the two of you are not a match and it is not fair to him to pretend you are. As for the new man - give him a try you never know. Just have enough respect for yourself and him to call it quits if you come to the realization that it is not working out. Just a side note: When i first started dating my husband I thought he was "to good to be true" and I was wrong because he is "true" and we are very happy together :-) I hope this new man works out for you, have a great day
2006-09-18 03:04:53 · answer #3 · answered by B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you see yourself with your ex for the rest of your life or do you think you can live without him? New relationships are always great in the beginning, and you will always see what your ex never did in the new one. Make sure you know the true guy. In new relationships they do try to impress you. But it soon fades, especially after 3 years. So just sit back and make a list of the positives and negatives of the choice you want to make and from there you can actually see what you want to do.
2006-09-18 03:23:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tempting to go back...but do people benefit from going back to their old jobs?
Does walking backwards get you anywhere?
Go forward. I don't know if the new guy is any good. Can't say, neither can you since you barely know each other. But..consider this....you know what is wrong with your ex.
Yeah, he misses you. Anyone would. But he wants to get together again just because he misses you. Not a real good reason.
So get to know the new guy. Even if you miss the ex. Move forward. Get a new place in life.
Don't go back to the old job. You got promoted. Take advance of it.
2006-09-18 03:00:09 · answer #5 · answered by kishoti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no gurl no matter how long yall been together u never go back in reverse, cuz if it didnt work out the first time its not going to work out on the second and so on due to the fact that noone is going to change for anyone else. and now u met someone new get to know him dont fall inlove to soon. just give it some time get to know people, enjoy being single for a little while. your ex will always want you back. you dont know what you have till its too late.
2006-09-18 03:17:02 · answer #6 · answered by LiL MaMa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Old relationships are valuable only if you learn from them. They afford you the opportunity to grow and learn from mistakes made. Take the new guy and apply the lessons learned from the old one. If your old relationship was really meant to be, then this new guy will flake or not work out for some reason. But do try something with him. He might be the best slip up you'll ever have. 'Sides....it's fun to learn new things and new people. Enjoy yourself. Good luck.
2006-09-18 03:03:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you even asking this question Honey? I mean if you already have started a really nice relationship and you really like this guy why go back to the fighting?
Continue with the new guy and have a great time.
God Bless
2006-09-18 03:05:46 · answer #8 · answered by cinson1999 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok.. if the hot gorgeous guy also has an same feeling to you, i imagine you need to inform him that you in basic terms broke up and favor some circumstances to rebound. tell him that he's very valuable guy and also you've feeling about him too. So, perhaps try to be pals for a lengthy time period and the bypass to the subsequent step. about your ex, dishonest is amazingly confusing to overlook and forgive. once he cheats you, he will cheat you again or you've a doubt it fairly is he dishonest me? are you able to triumph over this sense? To me, if he/she is my impressive chum, he/she will be in a position to not cheat me... I in basic terms can say that you do not prefer to get offended at your chum. do not waste the capacity on the valueless difficulty/human beings...
2016-11-27 21:49:39 · answer #9 · answered by bartelt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's a reason this guy is your "ex". Why would you want to go back to someone that you broke up with? Sounds like you happy with this new guy.
You can't worry about your ex's feelings. You have to do what makes you happy because in the end, your happiness is all that matters.
2006-09-18 02:59:56 · answer #10 · answered by bad_dog76 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never go back... always move forward. Im SO HAPPY that I listen to my own advice, I dont even want to THINK about If I had gone back to my ex, instead of staying with the man Im with now... I love him so much and He's opened my eyes to so much. Good luck.
2006-09-18 03:01:53 · answer #11 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋