You are 16-17 and your sister is 14. She has been blaming and yelling at you that she doesn’t have as much privacy as you did when you were 14. When you were 14, your parents signed her up to a afterschool homework program from 3-6. Therefore, you had the house to yourself for 3 hrs. Now she is 14 and don’t get the house to herself for 3 hrs and expect you to not be home from 3-6 so she can have the house to herself for 3-6. You refuse because it wasn’t your fault that she had to be in a afterschool program. She say “You are a unfair sister. If I had a little sister, I would give her privacy when she want it. I will be a very understanding big sister, unlike you.” You feel bad about it because she is your sister, you love her and don’t want her to get upset. You are a sister that love her the most, would do anything for her to be happy and want more than ever for her to say you are a fair and nice person. Would you leave the house from 3-6 just so that she would be happy?
2006-09-18 02:49:18 · 13 answers · asked by youngwoman 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
She want the house for 3 hrs because when you were her age, you had the house for 3 hours
2006-09-18 03:08:15 · update #1
No. she is acting like a spoiled brat and if you give into her she will always be bossing you around. Why does she want the house all to herself anyway? Doesn't she have her own room or some other place in the house that she can go to have her privacy? Don't give in.
2006-09-18 02:53:34 · answer #1 · answered by Jon s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what the problem is...the thing is, tell the younger sister, LIFE is NEVER FAIR. You don't always get what you want and you have to work with what you have. Just because the older one was was able to experience something doesn't mean she's entitled to it as well. If for anything, she should talk to the parents, and shouldn't be yelling and yakking at her older sis. It's not like the older sis can force herself to leave the house at any given time whenever she demands it. Also, the older sis has to ask herself, there might be a reason why she is in the house--maybe younger sis sister isn't mature to be alone at 14?
2006-09-18 16:08:32 · answer #2 · answered by the_memory_of_ashes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The good question is why she wants to be alone. Find out why. Spend time with her-having fun, not doing homework. You should have common interests. After you find out the REAL reason why she wants to be alone (I used 2 be like that, because I smoked in secret). Asses the situation, and if you think it's OK, then U could disappear maybe 2-3 days per week so she can be on her own.
2006-09-18 09:54:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I would not leave the house... I am the oldest sibling and my sister always was talking about how it was unfair that I got things like the house to myself when she was in school functions and things like that... It is part of life though... sometimes the oldest sibling gets things because they are older that the younger may never get... like in your case... the house to yourself... but then again, the younger one sometimes get things that we dont... it isn't unfair... it is just how things work out... tell her to grow up or tell her that she gets some things that you dont... you two both get treated the same for the most part but different because of age.
2006-09-18 09:54:26 · answer #4 · answered by Michelle23 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would want to know what is so important that she needs to be alone for three hours each day. It sounds like she could get into trouble. So no I wouldn't leave the house so she could be alone. Life isn't always fair and this is a great time to teach her that.
2006-09-18 09:53:25 · answer #5 · answered by cinson1999 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I would try to find out what she was planning on doing between these hours that she could not do with someone else in the house
2006-09-18 09:52:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you share a room? If not, she can have all the privacy she wants in her room.
My mum was a stay at home mum and I never had 3 hours to myself ever.
2006-09-18 09:51:55 · answer #7 · answered by sarah071267 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heck no! Although, I would give her some space and let her enjoy that.
That is how we handled that situation at our house.
2006-09-18 10:03:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is tough, tell her to get over it! My little bro was that way until I straightened him out. He had his oppurtunities he just didn't recognize them!
Good luck!
2006-09-18 09:53:50 · answer #9 · answered by Redeft 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
speak to her and find the reason why she needs the house for three hours.decide upon her reason.
2006-09-18 10:05:31 · answer #10 · answered by vaidhee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋