how do i get over the loss of a loved one?

Question

i reacently lost my baby neice who i loved like my own she was 7 weeks old and i cant stop the pain from hurting i miss her so much has any one got any tips on how to get over something like this please help

Answer 1

I am so sorry to hear of your loss. Last year I lost my baby daughter, she was only a few hours old. The anger I felt at the world was indescribable, especially when I thought of people that were cruel to children or when I thought of women abusing drugs and alcohol during pregnancy, because I did everything by the book and this precious little gift was taken from us. The only thing I can say sweetheart, is that you do not really get over it, the pain gets easier. You will never forget your Niece. Try and think of her as very special, a wee angel who will always be with you. I know that when my special girls 1st birthday came, my husband and I were dreading it, but we decided to make it happy and put some lovely bright flowers at her grave and took a private time to remember her. National baby Loss awareness Day is October 15th, when people all over UK light a candle and let go of balloons, at organised events or in private. We took part privately last year and so did many of our friends and family, I found it very comforting.

My thoughts are with you and the parents of your niece.
www.babyloss-awareness.com

Answer 2

im very sorry for your loss.i lost my unborn baby .and i can tell u that time doesnt heal all wounds but it makes it better and easier to handle the pain.and it helps a little when u think about the place your baby neice is now, a good place where she wont be treated wrong.nobody knows why something takes lives and especially young lives,but nobody dies without a reason.it is a very painfull and hard time,but she wouldnt want anybody to be sad,im shure.and when u think the pain is almost killing u then do something that she would have liked. i know all that is no comfort for u but maybe it is a little help..

Answer 3

First of all, let me express how tragic your loss is and how sorry I feel to hear of your pain. Others have told you the truth, that you never do get over the death of a loved one, you just learn to live your life around the fact that they're gone. Time helps, but in the case of death, it doesn't heal. There is an outstanding brochure entitled "When Someone You Love Dies" published by Jehovah's Witnesses. Put aside any prejudged ideas about their religion (if you have negative ideas about them) and obtain this beautiful brochure. No matter who or what you are spiritually, this brochure will validate your intense emotions and bring you some comfort and hope. It's free, by the way. Just write and request it. 25 Columbia Heights, Brooklyn, NY 11201-2483.

Answer 4

I lost my Father alamost 1 year ago , while i was 6 months Pregnant , .. It's a Very very hard thing to over come , when you lose someone So very close you. Crying helps , you must get it all out , never hold thoses tears in, just let them flow , Time will Heal all , an it seems to take forever I know. If your like me , an crying just dont seem to work , Go talk to Someone , they have many Free Mental Health places for people to just go talk an let it out. I tell ya Talking to someone , outside of the family Helps alot. It gives you a chance to just let it all out. I hope I may have been of some help.

Hang in there Honey. I am very sorry for you loss.

Answer 5

Try to do selfless things. This shall heal you, besides time is the greatest healer. I lost my father in my arms and it took me nearly 3 years to recover and I was doing all selfless tasks during this time, hope you can recover in weeks only. The more time you spend with someone deeper is the pain of loss. Life goes on happen what may, just look around and do something which dont concerns you, but makes a positive change for someone else.

Answer 6

gosh - how sad. the truth is you need to grieve -dont bottle it up , let it out. talk to people- those in a similar situation will have a better understanding and empathy for what your going through.
and the real truth is that while time will help there will always be some pain , thats what happens when you truly love someone- you will always love and miss them. lost my mom 14 years ago and i still think of what might of been and how mom never met my wonderfull partner or saw my two beautiful daughters. life goes on and is very precious. seize the day.

Answer 7

I am sorry for your loss, that has to be so hard....just know that time does wonders with healing and just know its time that will take away the worst of this pain you feel. Let out what you feel and take the time to grieve. Dont lose yourself in the whole grieving process either, try doing things for yourself for comfort (not eating, drinking etc) but something like a nice walk or something you enjoy. Remember the good things you did get to share and know that she is in a safe and loving place.
Take care

Answer 8

I`m so sorry for your loss....(hugs)

Five Stages Of Grief
Denial and Isolation.
At first, we tend to deny the loss has taken place, and may withdraw from our usual social contacts. This stage may last a few moments, or longer.
Anger.
The grieving person may then be furious at the person who inflicted the hurt (even if she's dead), or at the world, for letting it happen. He may be angry with himself for letting the event take place, even if, realistically, nothing could have stopped it.
Bargaining.
Now the grieving person may make bargains with God, asking, "If I do this, will you take away the loss?"
Depression.
The person feels numb, although anger and sadness may remain underneath.
Acceptance.
This is when the anger, sadness and mourning have tapered off. The person simply accepts the reality of the loss.
Grief And Stress
During grief, it is common to have many conflicting feelings. Sorrow, anger, loneliness, sadness, shame, anxiety, and guilt often accompany serious losses. Having so many strong feelings can be very stressful.

Yet denying the feelings, and failing to work through the five stages of grief, is harder on the body and mind than going through them. When people suggest "looking on the bright side," or other ways of cutting off difficult feelings, the grieving person may feel pressured to hide or deny these emotions. Then it will take longer for healing to take place.

Recovering From Grief
Grieving and its stresses pass more quickly, with good self-care habits. It helps to have a close circle of family or friends. It also helps to eat a balanced diet, drink enough non-alcoholic fluids, get exercise and rest.

Most people are unprepared for grief, since so often, tragedy strikes suddenly, without warning. If good self-care habits are always practiced, it helps the person to deal with the pain and shock of loss until acceptance is reached.

Answer 9

Time, honey. There's really nothing but time to heal that wound. After awhile, it won't hurt so much to remember her, and then finally it will be pleasant to remember the good things, and the bad will fade to a mild regret.

I lost My Steve nine months ago, and it was just the other day I was talking to a friend of mine whose husband is a POW in the drug war, who is expected home in December. She was saying how bad she missed her husband. I said, I miss mine, too, but the difference is he's not coming back. I started to cry, and she hugged me, and we both realized that was the first time I had said that out loud. No, he's not coming back. It's not a question of whether or not I can face it; it is a fact.

Answer 10

There is no one way to grieve, every person goes thru the stages of grief differently and at their own pace.

How To Find A Grief Support Group
Call your telephone operator and ask for the numbers for your local mental health association and your local suicide prevention center. Both types of agency have good grief referral lists. You need not be suicidal to get a grief referral from a suicide prevention center.
Use the Yellow Pages and call hospitals and hospices near you. Ask to speak with the Bereavement Coordinator, Social Worker, or Chaplain's Office to get a local grief referral. Many hospitals and hospices provide grief support to clients for up to one year following a death and offer groups to the general public.
If you are mourning the death of a child, check the national office of the Compassionate Friends to see if there is a group near you.

God Bless!