Alot of you have helped me realize things and I want to thank you. I've been trying to figure out why I feel on edge w/every guy I've dated since I left my ex. Since he hit me I think I'm afraid EVERY guy I'm with will do that. It's stupid because I KNOW that isn't true. That's the only thing I can think of. I can't think why else I'd be on edge. Do you think THAT'S what it could be? That I just have it in my head to think all men are abusive?
2006-09-18 02:32:26 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Actually very few men are abusive. The truth is that men, real men, HATE guys that abuse. In my circle of friends it has been made abundantly clear that should any man abuse any of the women (wives, daughters, nieces, cousins) "belonging" to anyone in our group, the best they can hope for is to eat through a straw for the rest of their lives; the worst... well lets just say that the Pacific is a big ocean and concrete is cheap.
So you need to find a MAN but don't push him away with your past issues.
2006-09-18 02:40:22 · answer #1 · answered by David P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The truth is you're not ready for a relationship yet 'cause you has been hurt in the last. Why?.... because not only you has been striken but also you reach the bottom as person or woman. If the circumstances arrive until this situation, it's because he and you became in objects from each other, I mean he saw you like a thing that he could use however he wanted. That is wrong and you realized in a good moment, but not for that reason you must try another relationship until you get find yourself again, 'cause you first should overcome this fear of being seen like your ex saw you and the only way is remembering who really you are and show to every body who really you are and this take some time. you don't need someone that makes you feel good. you first need feel yourself well inside for making feel good someone else.
2006-09-18 09:59:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well at least you've taken the first step, and that's leaving that scumbag of an ex boyfriend. I'm sure it's only natural to be a bit concerned because you certainly wouldn't wanna deal with that again.
At the same time, you'll never be truly happy with a man until you can fully trust him. You may need a little time to yourself to sort things out. In time you should get over that fear. If not you may need to speak to a professional about your fear.
2006-09-18 09:42:52 · answer #3 · answered by bad_dog76 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've dated quite a few girls and I never hit any of them. EVER. I had a couple of friends who were abusive to their girls, but once I found out about it I never felt the same way about them again. I don't understand men who can do things like that. It's really disturbing for me to try and break that down. Anyway, all men aren't like that. I know tons of nice guys. In fact, men who abuse are not the majority.
2006-09-18 09:35:51 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope not all men are abusive.. but unfortunately some are.. u r not to blame if u fell that way because of what u may have experienced in the past.. try not to get into a situation where it could lead to physical abuse.. take ur time to know the person first and ... if it happens again.. just let go...dont wait around to be it again.. but hey give the guys a chance.. not all fingers are the same size..
2006-09-18 09:35:45 · answer #5 · answered by vikram m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course thats what it could be,Cant really blame you for feeling that wya. You have every right to feel like that. It will take you time to find the right man and to know that not everyone will do that to do. Just keep saing in your head over and over again,,not every man will do that to me. Give someone a chance,,,and take your time with the person you are getting to know. Dont settle for any man. You should be able to tell from his actions right off if he is a good person or not. Dont get involved with someone who drinks,,or does drugs. Go to places where you know there will be good people. Not any bar rooms or things like that. I hope you find a good man and wish you the best of luck. Just give someone a chance.
2006-09-18 09:41:35 · answer #6 · answered by michelle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like its time to be just YOU for a while. Leave men out of the picture until you have discovered just what a great catch you are.
Once you've gotten that into your head, this will shine thru in your confidence and attract only the good guys.
2006-09-18 09:34:27 · answer #7 · answered by koleebear 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry that you had to go through that experience, but thankfully you were able to get out of the relationship and move on. As far as the trust issue goes, it will take some time. Hopefully you will find someone who will treat you special and you both will have a happy life together. Good luck.
2006-09-18 09:37:58 · answer #8 · answered by loser 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It makes alot of sense. Trust is a hard thing to develop especially since yours was compromised so terribly. Someone you loved and trusted crushed your spirit and world when they violated that trust by hitting you. It takes time to readjust, but hang in there eventually you will regain your feeling of trust with the right person.
Good luck!
2006-09-18 09:40:50 · answer #9 · answered by Redeft 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once you've been in a relationship like to it's hard to get it out of your mind. It will probably take you some time to realize that all men aren't like that but just be patient. All good things come to those who wait. Good Luck in your future.
2006-09-18 10:29:37 · answer #10 · answered by Sexy-n-Hot 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋