If you've been cheated on do you ever get over it? How do I help reasure the guy I like that I really care for him?
2006-09-18 02:31:04 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
okay I didn't cheat...an ex did thanks sorry for the poor wording
2006-09-18 02:34:46 · update #1
I've been cheated on more times then I remember. Can't give up hope that someone's out there for me who won't screw me over. How do I get over it? By realizing that she's the one with the problem if she can't come to me and talk to me like an adult about her unhappiness in the relationship so I'd have a chance to possibly fix it. I can't change someone else's way of handling challenging situations. I see their cheating as a good sign that they weren't the right person. That I was lucky she showed her true colors this early and that no mistakes were made by marrying her since she's obviously not worth my time. Now, as for reassuring your man, simply be a good and devoted girlfriend and he'll naturally relax and settle into the fact that you're not going anywhere. Keep open lines of communication with him at all times. Voice your opinions and unhappiness when you feel them so he sees that the communication lines are really being used. That's it's not all wine and roses. Prove to him through your actions that you want to be with him and only him. This (after time) will put him as ease and show him you're worth that risk of investing emotion and love.
2006-09-18 02:39:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me take if from some one who knows it really hurts. I mean alot. I think the only thing you can do is be there for him at all times. Reasure him that you will always be there for him. Don't give him any reason to belive you are cheating on him. NO mysterious phone calls. Same with mail and emails. Let him know every one you talk too. Let him look at any thing he wants too. Tell him you are an open book. Do every thing it takes to get him to trust you. Trust me that is the only way I will ever trust my girlfriends again. I still can't get her off my mind
2006-09-18 02:35:47 · answer #2 · answered by unkown 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every relationship is different and you need to reasure the guy you like that you and him deserve a chance. you didnt say wheather it was him or you that had been cheated on, put time will heal and you will learn to trust again, it is horrible that it happened and of course, only natural that you think it will happen again, but you also have to live and to live is to love, so just knock down those walls and go for it!! :)
Good luck!
2006-09-18 02:35:58 · answer #3 · answered by Debbie H 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to fill in a bit more detail if you want a decent answer: Were you the one cheated on? Did the cheating occur in this relationship? Those two questions by themselves are major factors for your second question, and there are a lot of other things that may make a difference in answering both questions.
2006-09-18 02:36:14 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If someone cheated on me I would have a really hard time getting over it....I don't know that you will ever really get over it. But If I love them and chose to forgive and get over it then you can't every bring it up again since you chose to forgive them. By staying with someone that has cheated on you I believe shows how much you care of them right there. No need to give any extra than that.
2006-09-18 02:35:16 · answer #5 · answered by rhodes727 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't get over it, but I get past it by ignoring it. Just pretending like "it's" (the memory) not there. Give him full access to your phone, phone messages, text messages, e-mail, passwords to voicemail, e-mail, AIM, etc. Also, make sure he knows where you are and who you're with at all times.
SHOW HIM YOU CARE. THAT YOUR SORRY. THAT IT WONT HAPPEN AGAIN. Also, don't annoy the **** out of him, give him space if he needs it, but make sure you say something like, "It doesn't matter how long you need space for, I'll be here if you're ever ready to get past this with me."
Also, don't cheat ever again. What were you thinking?
2006-09-18 02:36:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be open and honest with each other. It really depends if the person wants to get over it. It takes work and lot of time and patience. Just be patient with him. He'll see he cant trust you.
2006-09-18 02:34:56 · answer #7 · answered by trackie1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been cheated on in the past. It does hurt. To be honest....the only thing that helped me was to move on with someone else. This may sound crazy.....but that was what helped me to remove him from my brain!!!!
2006-09-18 02:37:22 · answer #8 · answered by lilQT 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can forgive but you will never ever forget. Messing around can really mess with a persons head. its not so much the deed as it is the after affects on a person's mind
2006-09-18 02:34:14 · answer #9 · answered by janice28 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some of us can get over it. i keep on getting cheat on by women. and when i find out i dump them. just make sure that you dont cheat on him, cool it on the flirting(only do that with him) make sure that you show him that he is the only one for you.
2006-09-18 02:35:56 · answer #10 · answered by party_2_hearty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋