Guys if you were dating a girl and found out that she was a virgin and wanted to save sex for marriage what would you think? And if you liked her but it was still early on in the relationship how long would you wait for her?
2006-09-18 02:17:58 · 13 answers · asked by sweet kisses 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if i truely loved, respected and honestly cared for the woman, i would be patient and understanding as well as respectful of her decision, not to say that it would not be hard on me or her, but those tensions can be handeled by other means (take matters into his own hands) while waiting for the wedding night and truely having something special.
2006-09-18 02:24:12 · answer #1 · answered by grim_reaper_69 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hate to be cold about this...
... and yon Women of Yahoo Answers can hate me forever...
... but HELL NO.
Simple explanation, really: clash of beliefs.
My belief system states that sex is an expression of love. Not like a hug, or a kiss, or a free grope; Sex is the ULTIMATE expression of love. Shared with someone you care about, there is no doubt when the act is complete about what her feelings are.
Anyone who's had 1-nighters can verify for you that the ONS makes you feel nice, but actual "lovemaking" takes you to a place that you would do whatever it took to remain there.
And that's the problem with waiting: Whether out of fear (he'll get what he wants and leave me, *just like all the others* boo hoo hoo) or religious values (red flag #1), in the end it would frustrate me because I "believe" that I must share of myself wih this person I care so deeply about, but she "believes" she needs a contract and a gold/platinum-clad guarantee before allowing an offering at the temple.
See? Clash of beliefs.
Another thing: The behavior she exhibits here will (and probably does) extend into other parts of her interactions with you. Which is good when you're a church, but very bad when you're being berated for going out drinking with the guys. For the 17th time.
So, you see: HELL NO. And I'm not sorry. Why should I be?
2006-09-18 02:43:52 · answer #2 · answered by kagetatewaki 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'd say she's doing it right. I would want to have sex but waiting for someone I love makes it worth the wait. If she decides not to wait then how do you know how many others she has done this with. Or how many after marriage?
2006-09-18 02:41:54 · answer #3 · answered by roppster 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does she accept you for who you are?
Do you have similar ideas about what kind of life style you both want ?
does she love you ?
do you love her ?
If the answers are yes
then wait forever
While you are waiting you could have fun, get to know each other and practise being kind to each other
People have different morals.
I am not saying one set of morals is better than another
but if someone tries to get you to act differently than what your morals tell you then it is a sign of disrespect. They are using you
this works both ways.
If you just want to get laid then do both of you
a favour and move on.
By the way it is the woman who usually decides if the relationship becomes sexual and she will do it in her own strange way.
2006-09-18 02:32:44 · answer #4 · answered by stillness 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd marry her right away. Since I already 'like her' and she's saving 'sex for marriage'. There is nothing like 'still early' in a relationship.
2006-09-18 03:22:41 · answer #5 · answered by WEBBADGER 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would wait because I respect her and if the it goes to that point. Then, I would marry her. I don't really care about sex in a relationship.
2006-09-18 02:21:07 · answer #6 · answered by Berties 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd wait until she was ready. If you want a relationship to last, you both have to be willing to give and take, and respect each others wishes. I'd never force a woman to have sex with me if she wasn't ready
2006-09-18 02:20:26 · answer #7 · answered by bad_dog76 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Naz, I already answered your other virgin Q. Look, if you're with the right guy, he'll respect your virginity and you by being as patient as you need him to be. if he rushes or pressures and pushes, then he's not worth your time. Good luck.
2006-09-18 02:29:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is patient... besides, sex 2day is the same sex 20 years later...u can wait...whats the rush?
2006-09-18 02:21:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you really love her and if you 2 click... wait for her as long as it takes.
2006-09-18 02:20:02 · answer #10 · answered by A K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋