Just want to know your opinion?

Question

I am going to the doctor soon but I would just like to hear other's opinions. I have been married for 9 months and have been on birth control for about about 11 months. Last night we were with friends and I just got really angry for no reason, couldn't say a word to anyone and just needed to be alone. I went and sat in the bathroom for a while and then started crying. This has happened a few times before. I also have feelings of hate toward myself, I never feel good enough or pretty enough. Lately I have been crying about once a week, but I think I cried every night this past weekend. My husband is wonderful to me and just concerned. What could be wrong w/ me?!? I need help because this could make our marriage hell and destroy friendships....

I also have had no sexual drive in the past few months which also gets me down.

Leadbelly...I'm hurt that you would say that about a wonderful man you have never met! My husband is an amazing and faithful man!

Answer 1

It could be depression, but my first guess would be the birth control. Your doctor may need to change the dosage you're on. Each different type of pill has different amounts of estrogen and you may just need a lower dose. I was on the depo-provera shot right after my son was born and it wreaked havoc on me and my relationships with husband, family and friends. I had violent mood swings, suicidal thoughts and cried at the drop of a hat. I finally got off of it and was amazed at the difference. I couldn't take the pill either, as even the lowest dose of estrogen would cause migraines after I had taken it for 2-3 weeks. You may be one that just can't tolerate the pill, in which case you may need to start considering other forms of birth control. Remember too that a new marriage can be stressful, even a great one! It takes time to learn to live with someone else. Either way, definitely see your doctor and tell them everything that's going on with you, don't be embarrassed about anything, that's what they're there for. He/she's the only one that's going to be able to help you figure out what's really going on. I wish you the best, as NO ONE should have to suffer like that.

Just another thought, I did this and it really helped to figure out what was going on with me. Even after getting off the pill and shot I still had bad days, not nearly as often, but still had them. Start keeping a journal - you don't necessarily have to write down all your deep dark thoughts, but keep track of your good days and bad days. You may start to notice a pattern. With mine I started to notice my really bad days were right before I'd start each month. It makes a huge difference just realizing what's going on with your body. Increased hormone levels will play hell with your emotions and state of mind. Knowing this and being able to expect it would help me put things in perspective. When having one of those days I could tell myself, "OK, I know what's going on, just don't do or say anything stupid, get through today and tomorrow will be better". I would even warn my husband when I got up that morning that this was a bad day and that way he understood and wouldn't take anything I might say or do too seriously (he usually just tried to stay out of my way completely ). It can often be hard to undo something you've said or done when they don't understand that you're not completely in control. The journal will also help when talking to your doctor, as they can get a better idea of your individual cycle and when/if hormones may be out of whack.

Whatever you do, don't listen to leadbelly!! Paranoia is a phsyciatric problem too! Maybe they should get help!! I've had some REEEALLY BAD relationships in the past and even I wouldn't jump to that conclusion!!! Get a life leadbelly - why do you feel the need to kick a person when they're down? That's just cruel!!!

Answer 2

Side effects from most birth control pills set in at six to nine months after starting. Which birth control pill you are taking is important. I have heard horror stories about Depo-Provera (the shot) and Norplant (the implants). I have some friends who had problems with Ortho Tri-cyclen, as did I. I also had major problems with Estro-step. So far, the lower dosage pills seem to have less effect on the body.

You should talk to your gyno about this ASAP. The sooner you get this med out of your body, the better. I have taken Yasmin and Seasonale, and had zero problems with either. Seasonale will probably not be covered by any health insurance provider. Each pack has 91 active pills, so you menstruate once every three months. Heaven. There is also a new low dose pill out there that has 25 active pills, so you menstruate once a month, but only for like three days. Not bad.

Answer 3

As first person said, sounds like classic depression.

You need to understand that depression is NOT simply a feeling of the blues, something you can just shake off with a nice day out. It *can* be that, but clinical depression is really biochemical. It *might* come about from circumstances, but even if it does, the effect IS biochemical, and it needs to be treated biochemically, i.e. with proper medication.

I was depressed for years before I even knew it, and even after I realized it and saw a psychologist, I resisted the suggestion that I take meds - because that would mean there was something wrong with me! But when I finally told a close, long-time friend - who is a neurologist - he explained what was happening and why medication is a corrective treatment and NOT an indication of weakness. I went with it and was amazed at the positive change in the quality of my life.

You DO need to see that doctor, but don't dwell on "what-ifs" - this was probably going to happen somewhere, somehow, sometime. Your husband is not to blame, your friends are not to blame, and you are not to blame. This is a biochemical illness that is TREATABLE. Do what you have to do that is positive, constructive, forward-moving.

Good luck!

Answer 4

You could be suffering from depression, which in your case would likely be due to a chemical imbalance as opposed to a "reactive depression". And hormones [birth control] could very well trigger such an imbalance, even after being on it for 11 months.
Sometimes, too, depression can creep up so slowly that you may not notice anything is "wrong" until it gets to a point where, you can't keep your emotions in check.

The first thing you should do is IMMEDIATELY go to see your doctor; something like this is not going to just go away and going to your doctor "Soon" may not be soon enough.

Take care and Good luck!

Answer 5

I think people can feel free to have the opinion that they want. They should be able to express there opinion, and those who listen (which should be lots of people) should have an open mind, and maybe change there opinion. Some opinions may not turn into anything, but it doesnt mean there worthless. Even if nobody treasures your opinion, you should. Its what makes you who you are.

Answer 6

im on Yasmin b/c and its a steady dose of hormones b/c like ortho tri cylen are three different doses of hormones that imbalance's your emotions. did this start when you got on the pill? try to change that first before assuming you have some kind of mental problem, epically if you dint have a history of being depressed why now when you just got married it should be the happiest time for you. my advice go to the gyno and change the pill. good luck.

Answer 7

judged by my own past,i think that you are probably suffering from depression. the things you described are all definite symptoms.one strange thing about the crying is some times you will not know why you are crying. you are not an alien of some kind. the are lots of us. see your doctor or look in the phone book under mental health. the sooner the better.you are not nuts, this is mostly a chemical problem.
good luck.

Answer 8

you sound depressed, and you should tell your doctor. there are medications that can help you. i'm glad you have a supportive husband. don't feel bad about being depressed, as that's just another guilt trip that you don't need, and depression is common. get the help you need, so that you can enjoy your life, and this wonderful guy you are married to. best of luck to you.

Answer 9

it's very interesting.
you will probably be treated as though you have a psychiatric problem, evem though it is known that the pill can produce side effects in some women.
as well, being on the pill can adversely affect your digestion.
and what if you are picking up on some deeper vibe from your husband? I mean that despite whatever you think about your relationship, it could be that he's on an entirely different wavelength. I'm just being paranoid, I know, but let's consider that he's nice to you because you're the back-up. he actually spends most of his time figuring out how to bed other women??

Answer 10

some birth control products will cause depressive symptoms in some people, i had the same problem once. tell the doctor who prescribed the product your concerns, he should be able to give you one that agrees better with your brain chemistry.