family members but not of the same generation as u i.e. ur brother, sister or cousin but with sum1 a generation older or 2 generations older like aunty, uncle, grandad, grandma etc. what are the consequences. u both disagreed totally and had kind of a verbal attack on each other. what happens now? any1 had any1 of these?
2006-09-18 02:07:13 · 14 answers · asked by allgiggles1984 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Yeah my aunt and I had one of those one time. She thought divorce was wrong, especially mine. Then she got a divorce. I thought about calling her up and asking her, "How would you like your crow? Fried or BBQ'd?" I said nothing though, I think she knew what I was thinking and we never discussed it again.
2006-09-18 02:16:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
All the time. If you don't want the relationship to be strained, don't get too worked up, and listen to what they have to say. And afterwards let them know that your point of view doesn't affect how much you love them.
I have a debate with my parents everyday, and atleast once a week it gets pretty heated...but in the end we understand that we have different views and it'll never be the same. So we talk about things that we do agree upon to lighten the mood, like, "Can't wait until the weather cools a little!".
2006-09-18 02:10:56 · answer #2 · answered by happyfarah88 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. The difference of opinions between generations is startling.
The problem is that you develop your morals etc, young in life in your teens, you tend to stick with these throughout your life.
If you are a teenager now, your attitudes towards things, i.e sex, drugs, politics, religion will differ greatly from those of your parents or grandparents. There are no wrongs or rights in these arguments, just a differing opinion because of the generation gap.
For example, I am in my 30's and have 2 young children, who probably become sexually active in the next decade, this not a problem for me as hopefully I will, with my wife have educated them to be responsible to the risks and dangers and consequences. But when I was a teenager, the attitude of my parents towards sex, was, not before marriage and it was a taboo subject in the house.In my mind set, They were wrong,however, they were not wrong, as this was quite normal thinking from parents from that generation. Opinions change with each generation, as I said before there are no wrongs and rights. Everyone is free to their opinions, but the generation of your upbringing bears strongly on those because the world changes everyday,
Its best in these circumstances to acknowledge the other persons opinion, but agree to disagree if you feel strongly enough on the subject of debate.
2006-09-18 02:25:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah with grandads uncles and parents, if they enter into a debate then they should also be adult enough to accept a differing opinion is what I think if they need to sulk for a bit let them sulk that generally is a sign of accepting they were wrong but don't want to admit it. Be adult yourself and make the first move to smooth things over if it got a bit out of hand
2006-09-18 02:19:14 · answer #4 · answered by crownose 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah I have....
I always argue with my Grandad. We are both very similar and there is always a clash of personality when we are together.
We normally sulk for a day or two then are back to bein best buddies.
If you are arguing with a family member dont worry about it to much. Its normal to argue with your loved ones. Just as long as it dosnt get to out of hand.
BUT remember you should never be to stubborn when family is concerned. We all sulk and have the ump for a day or two, but never let it get out of hand.
There is nufin more important then family.
2006-09-18 02:30:28 · answer #5 · answered by MOUTHY 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yep, with my mum loads. She gives my little brother everything he wants. He runs rings around her and me and the rest of my brothers and sister are usually the ones that lose out so when I miss out me and my mum, as you put it, have a heated discussion. It always ends up with me not getting what I want, me storming off and after a while my mum says sorry, me still not getting what I want. That's family life for you though. My older brother is so lucky he is escaping!
2006-09-18 02:15:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Apologize! What ever it was about it's just not important enough to cause trouble in the family.
Simply say "I am sorry that this went so far, We are both adults (assuming that you actually are) we both have points of view and we are both entitled to them, but its no reason that we can't get along."
Humility is a good thing
2006-09-18 02:13:06 · answer #7 · answered by David P 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
of course, isnt everyone related to someone who is ignorant or bigoted? beyond a reasoned debate i dont think theres much point in getting too heated about it though. nobody ever changed my mind by shouting or abusing me and i doubt i will ever change someone elses mind that way. if you want to influence someones point of view, try to illuminate the situation so they may or may not choose to discover it for themselves.
2006-09-18 02:11:27 · answer #8 · answered by duncan 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I did. But I was ten years old and so quite stupid at the time. I said sorry and I never made that mistake again.
2006-09-18 02:12:24 · answer #9 · answered by DrSH 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope respect is the order of the day
2006-09-18 02:09:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋