i really liked him, we had a great time together, hed take me out all the time etc when he visited... but then hardly ever heard from him when he went home.. then he emailed me saying we wernt seeing each other.. that really hurt me...
i have just told him im happy to see him again but i wont sleep with him as im worth more than that, and now am feeling bit sad.. i really liked him and could imagine him being the father of my children...
2006-09-18 01:45:58 · 30 answers · asked by meow22 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
hey! i love sex and if we were together then no problem.. but not while he still classes himself as single.... im worth more than a **** buddy!!
i think you should read the question first you idiot!!!
2006-09-18 01:49:29 · update #1
no i wasnt trying to trap him, he acted like he wanted a relationship, taking me out for posh meals, and acted really interested in me.. we made plans to meet up sagain which we did then after 4months is when he sent me that email saying we wernt seeing each other...!!!
2006-09-18 01:52:42 · update #2
hes 28 and works in finance in london, i know im glad i have out my foot down.. just cant help feeling a bit sad about it all... nice to have possitive comments!
2006-09-18 01:54:41 · update #3
sorry but i love sex and would do it all the time with someone who respects me and wants to be with me... i ment im worth more than him arranging to see me every 3 weekends for sex and not hearing from him during the week... unless hes horny and want text sex!
2006-09-18 02:00:04 · update #4
Walk away and keep your dignity in tact. If he doesn't want to see you again (with or without sex) then he's not worth it. You had it in mind that he might be a good father to your children but clearly he wasn't on the same page as you. Move on and date someone who will be the right guy. You're wasting your time with this one and staying sad about it won't change the situation and will only delay you finding happiness.
2006-09-18 01:54:44 · answer #1 · answered by Iknowsomestuff 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Feeling sad is to be expected, but if all he wanted you for was sex then I think you did the right thing. I think you would be a LOT sadder how many months or years down the line when he breaks up with you anyway and you not only have made more ties to break with him, but you have wasted all that time with him when you could have found someone who really loved you. And imagine how much worse you would feel if you did end up having children and he left you anyway.
I'm sorry that you had to go through this, and I hope that the next guy you find is a better catch. And no offense, but I think you should also use this as an object lesson to be more selective about who you get involved with - you may not have seen this coming, but maybe you might have been able to get to know him better first.
2006-09-18 08:56:44 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Course you feel sad, you pictured a future with him and now its been taken away so you're left with a bit of a gap. However, in the long run, after some pampering and choccies (in moderation of course) you'll be back out there and meet someone who gives you everything you need rather than someone who you know is only a 'make do for now' choice. Good luck and don't worry about feeling blue, its natural
2006-09-18 09:21:04 · answer #3 · answered by seaside_girl_03 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're feeling sad because it didn't work out. That's normal. We all have dreams.
You told him to get lost because he wouldn't commit to anything other than having sex. Good. You are worth more than that. You want someone to love you, care about you - all the things we all want. To me it sounds like there's someone else in the background. He's not good enough to be the father of your children.
2006-09-18 09:17:15 · answer #4 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HI, The same happened to me. The difference is that my guy is a coward. He avoids me and don't take my calls. What I did, I stopped calling him, although it hurts and i'm sad. But you know what i'm so much worth it. I'm trying to set up my mind and think that he wasn't the right guy for. I'm sure that you will find somebody that will love you. Sex is nt bad but when all they want is sex we better run from this relationships. It is sad but you will get over it.
2006-09-18 10:33:39 · answer #5 · answered by princess22 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't want to be harsh but could they of been another person in his life before you met him as you mentioned no contact when he went home.. And he was meeting you occasionally for sex ... You have made your self clear to him & that the doors open if he changes his mind. So time for you to start looking for other potential man who will give you and your children a sercure furture!
2006-09-18 09:14:34 · answer #6 · answered by sandra+3... 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bravo to you. You're doing exactly the right thing. You are worth more then "friends with benefits". Of course, you feel sad. Even though he only wants one thing from you there was still the attention from someone. Start looking around for someone who will respect your worth. Well done.
2006-09-18 09:00:44 · answer #7 · answered by JB 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look baby, he can wine and dine you and makes you feel good, and your feeling like you are on cloud 9, if you refused sex, why do you feel bad, you should be proud of yourself that you have put your foot down, if this guy cares, he will respect your decision, men tend to like to eat their double chocolate cake and forget it tomorrow, where we like to think it was special. You do not want this type of man to be the father of your children, to bring children into this world, if you are a couple there should be love and respect for one another, and not to be treated this way, you have a good head on your shoulders, don't back down, if this guy feels for your he will be there for you, and if it doesn't workout it is not meant to be, i know it hurts, but you have to say to yourself that this is reality, be strong, try and talk to him, at least you know you have tried. Good luck.
2006-09-18 09:24:16 · answer #8 · answered by Ruksana P 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dear I wonder how you still havent understood that for Men the strongest urge is to download thier sperm. But some men have more sensitivity than that which varies with the woman. If he doesnt like you then he cant like you. Just forget him. Dont make a big deal out of one physical intimacy. Your chemistry needs to match with the man for him to like you. You will know when it does. Best luck.
2006-09-18 08:57:37 · answer #9 · answered by romantic_v 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bravo,I wish there was more of you out there that wouldn`t give out as so many others do.
You get more respect from not giving out and letting people know your not just in it for the sex,unlike many,mostly due to peer pressure,or sad to be alone,but they end up sad and alone anyway,once the other has got what they wanted.
2006-09-18 09:29:22 · answer #10 · answered by asmoothrider 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋