I can't let it go. He left me - I didn't leave him. That's whats getting to me I think!
I can't believe he dumped me. I can't let it go. I want him to want me back again. I've been trying to get in contact for over a year now (feels like two years...). I can't move on with my life. Am I just a sad stalker or have others felt this way?
2006-09-18 01:37:58 · 28 answers · asked by Easy Rider 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We have all felt like this at some time or another...
Counselling helped me... plus the new love of my life that saved me from self-destruction.
Don't despair... time does truly heal all wounds and generally what is left is a better you that can select the good times that you shared and separate them from the pain that you are experiencing now.
It's usually answers that we require... and when we don't get them or have them, it tears us apart and won't let us move on with our lives...
Sadly not everything has an answer... and it is probably boosting the ego of the guy for him to think that you are still pining after him... Don't give him that satisfaction any longer....
2006-09-18 01:48:02 · answer #1 · answered by jonti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to move on honey and forget him,you can probably only remember the good bits of your relationship now....you forget the bad parts first apparently,you are not a sad stalker you are going through an unhappy part of your life unfortunately right now BUT Life is for living to the maximum and there are plenty of genuine people out there,so what are you waiting for ??? stay focused and try to move on....you are worth more than brooding over someone who most probably already has..xx
2006-09-18 08:49:04 · answer #2 · answered by Joeline 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rejection always hurts because it makes you analyse everything about the whole relationship and almost re live it with rose tinted glasses day by day in your mind. Its hard to escape, especially if the reasons are not always clear why they left. try to focus on the facts he left you, the relationship didn't work and it ended, he hasn't contacted you because he doesn't want to and is happy. this hurts but also helps, also think of any relationships you had and ended where the other person chased you afterwards and how that made you feel towards them and why you didn't respond. that gives you an insight on how you are portraying yourself to this ex you have put on a pedestal. you will get over it and the longer you torture yourself over it the longer it will be before you meet someone else who will sweep you off your feet. good luck!
2006-09-18 08:56:14 · answer #3 · answered by crownose 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you have allowed yourself to let it go. It is completely natural for us to want to be wanted, we have all been there. But you have to move on with your life and stop looking back on this, it has been a year now and you have to realise that it is not going to happen. I have 2 bits of advice for you, firstly understand that you don't need anyone to let you know how special you are, you have to know it for yourself. If you do that then break-ups will not be able to shake your self confidence. Secondly, dating is supposed to be fun, there is nothing wrong with you, the two of you just were not compatible. Don't take things like that personally, just take it in stride and move on.
2006-09-18 09:44:05 · answer #4 · answered by Richard C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if its been going on for a year then yeah I think you may have a small problem - you need to think seriously why you want him back - is it coz you miss him and really love him, or is it just that you cant handle the fact he dumped you! Would you be happy back with him?
Whatever the answer I dont think you're gona get him back - a years a long time - I think just do your best to forget about him and move on
2006-09-18 08:44:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You HAVE to let go. It's not the end of the world yet, is it? Why can't you let go? Just because he left you, you feel it's not justified? It hurts your ego, right? Your ego is yourself. Because you are looking inward, that's why you can't let go! All this dissatisfaction within you is hurting you mentally and physically.
Go on and start a new chapter of your life. Close the last chapter, so that your life can resume. You will feel happier and healthier.
2006-09-18 09:30:16 · answer #6 · answered by G.T. L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know what ?? he is an idiot and u r better off without him ..
you know I've been there and he dumped me and 6 months i tried to get over him and i almost did it but i saw him again and all the feelings were pouring back but u know what i lov myself more than i love him and sometimes in life u have to let go of something that is dear to u but it is for Ur own good ..
stop living in the past and have fun ,,,,
the world is filled with great guys ( if not smart at least good looking and funny )
to hell with Ur ex .....
2006-09-18 09:03:23 · answer #7 · answered by Rand.M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let it go ... Although it's always sad and hard for anyone after a break-up, you have to eventually get on with your life
Go out with friends, drink, dance, shop ... anything that will make you feel better ... Just accept he's not coming back and that there's probably someone better for you out there somewhere
2006-09-18 09:13:57 · answer #8 · answered by Marinersfan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with you, except a slight arrogance. Basically you don't need to get over him, (now don't take this the wrong way) you have to get over yourself. Everyone gets dumped. You just have to get over it AND MOVE ON. Ok, he dumped you. So what? It's his problem, his loss. Like I said, there is nothing wrong with you. No confidence lost right?
2006-09-18 09:08:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let it go babe dont waste your time when you should be out having fun. You will meet someone one day that will treat you like a queen. But move on a year is a long time...........good luck
2006-09-18 10:26:03 · answer #10 · answered by dizzymooo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋