Why are the Catholic Church so controlling and uncaring?

Question

There are 2 specific incidences:
My Grandparents have been going to the same church, twice a week, for over 50 years, this is their social circle, friends, a complete way of life. 3 years ago my grandma became very ill, she has been unable to visit the church and in 3 years not one person, even the priest has phoned, been round, offered to help. Nothing.
Another friend was unable to go to church as she was caring for her sick mother. The priests 'support' for her, was to tell her that she better get her mother to convert before she died, otherwise she would burn in hell. Just what you want to hear when your non-religious mother is dying.
What a caring religion, wonder why followers are turning away? Any thoughts?

Answer 1

Because control is power and power is what they want.

All the Catholic church cares about is oppressing people, gaining power and forcing their biggoted views on the world.


I personally can't understand why any woman is a member of the catholic church as to follow it's teachings you must believe that your place is in the home and that you are a second class citizen compared to a man.

All religion is the same, it is about control.

Answer 2

As a Catholic, I feel I have to respond.

If the priest did indeed say so, then he is a failure as a priest and completely wrong. There are many things you can do and should do to rectify this situation such as talk to another priest, bishop, etc... Or you can write a letter, e-mail, to them or even the Vatican. Rest assured that it will be read and taken seriously.
Below I have given you some links that you can look at and get the answers/help you need and deserve.
I will conclude with the point that you should not base your opinion of the Catholic Church on one priest as the Catholic Church is made up of over 1 billion people.

Good luck and God bless.

Answer 3

Well,
1st.. the Catholic Church is not a religion, it is a denomination and your right, a lot of Catholic's are leaving the church because of the politics and the "uber religiousness".

I think that a lot of church's in a lot of denominations get a bad rap for this sort of thing.

(not specifically directed at you)

People in the congregations expect the church to keep them on their toes if they aren't in attendance.

In reality, most church's, especially the larger ones, don't keep attendance records. (Some will argure, whatever)

I understand the frustration. We all think that we are the center of our church and we think that if we aren't there that people will notice. I have learned though through experience that most people are only really concerned with themselves and they don't think about an absence.

In my church, we have over 26 thousand members... about 2 thousand attend services. Our Senior pastor tells us straight up... if you are sick, are absent, are unable to come, and you need us, please call. There are numbers and people available to us 24 hours a day... and I can tell you that if they know about it. If someone tells them, they are there.

As far as the whole idea of trying to talk about salvation to someone who has a relative that is a non believer that is dying.. I know how rough some "reliogious" people can be. They get pretty blunt and it will spin you on your heels and make your mouth drop. Ive seen it.

Likely though, the person that is saying it so bluntly has the best intentions but stinks at their delivery. While it is something that should be a topic of conversation, because it is so important it is a delicate matter and again from experience I think the majority of people just don't think about the way they come accross and the way that it may be received.

I have seen exactly what you are talking about at a lot of churches. Personally, I found that I was more comfortable at a non denominational church.

The non denominational churchs are I think more current with the population, more up to date, not too stuck on habits and they teach a lot more.

I wish you the best of luck and please please please don't take offence at what I have said.

Hugs!

Answer 4

I feel sorry for the pain that you are experiencing and describing. I think that it's important to try to remember that the actions of a few people, even if they're priests doesn't mean that all the people involved in the Catholic church are like that. I hope you get some better experiences for yourself, your mother, your fiend and all in the future.
By the way, although I practise a religion, I'm not a Catholic, I'm not even a Christian, so I'm not trying to give you a line to pacify or convert you.

good luck

Answer 5

Because it is an organisation designed to control people. It is all about power. Of course you do have individuals in it that help people but the fact that they claim to be christians etc does not make them better people so you should not expect anything from the church and you wont be disappointed
Quite incidentally I know of a "person" who was ordained as a roman catholic priest and once you are a ordained you are priest for the rest of your life. He or now she has had a sex change and is a pagan priestess. So the same person is a christian priest and a pagan priestess

Answer 6

Priests are human and you have good one and bad ones. In our little village it would not happen.
It would not have happened with our priest or (to give an example) Mother Teresa and many other good catholics.
In stead of complaining at Yahoo that the Catholic Church is uncaring you should better inform the priests hierarchical chiefs that your priest is not doing his Christian duty. But it is easier to condemn a whole institute instead of doing something practically about what is going wrong, ain't it ?

Answer 7

First of all, you are an outsider and have no right to be making judgements on a faith community you are not in.

Secondly, if you wish to make assumptions, then so can I. You are projecting your lack of of support for your grandmother on to the Church out of guilt.

As a Catholic, the main reason your grandmother has no visitors as you claim is because no one is aware that she is at home. That is your responsibility to make them aware, not the priest. It's people like you who condemn the priest for not knowing everything at all times automatically.

Thirdly, your fabricated story shows a very dark hole. No priest would condemn anyone to hell for not converting to Catholicism. It is totally contrary to basic Catholic teaching. Those are hateful inventions made up by anti-Catholic bigots.

So are you a clever manipulating Seventh Day Adventist, or a Jehovah's Witless or some other cult that sprang out of Protestantism, using yahoo Q&A as a platform for your hate propaganda?

Answer 8

sorry but I'm shocked that any church should act in this way i am a Catholic and i know that the church i go to that the priest does his best to visit ppl who are ill in there homes and the bread is taken to them on a Sunday after mass ..... if the person is just unable to get to the church because they are unable to walk we have a mini bus that collects them for which mass they would like to attend .... did your family tell the church how ill she was and that she would like a blessing and as for her friends it looks like they weren't friends in the 1st place .......hope your grandmother is doing well

Answer 9

I'm not all that familiar with the catholic church but I do know that the behavior you speak of isn't very holy. Perhaps you should try a new church, one that is like a family? I know at my church we are all very supportive of each other and my pastor is awesome when it somes to the needs of his church. Maybe you just haven't found the right church?

Answer 10

They are not true people of God. They should help everyone and anyone that needs it. Weather they are Catholic or not. God would want them to help everyone, and try to show them the way to God at the same time. God doesn't want them to turn anyone away. I think your Grandmother needs a new religion. That may sound bad but she can find true Christians someone else. Hope your Grandmother is o.k., and the other lady's mother.