The urge is strong when your obsessed
2006-09-18 01:25:53 · 13 answers · asked by bigpumpdaddy 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Not sure im having that problem my self.....maybe try working the thinking in that you have other important things in your life going on as well, that need to be ssen to and deal with......that or keeping a picture close at hand that you can look at really helps too.....you dont miss the person as much when you arent with them then....i mean you arent able to hear their voice, but its a start....i keep a pic on my desk at all times of my sweetheart....and i get a nice surprise when im looking at it and he calls me.......good luck hope some of these remedies work for you.....<3
2006-09-18 01:33:36 · answer #1 · answered by Mintjulip 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be sure to not tie up all your interests in the person you are obsessed with. Demand more of yourself by setting resonable limits on time with the person/number of times you call, etc. Being smitten with someone can have them on your mind 24/7 and is perfectly normal, but when you act on each thought, you can overwhelm them and make them want to run. Work on your own interests and activities. Exercise, learn a new activity you can later share with them, etc. Smothering someone will get you the opposite of what you are trying to have, so it is worth working on. I am glad you are willing to look at yourself and act on your insights. Good for you!
2006-09-18 01:31:56 · answer #2 · answered by whereRyou? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend is clingy. He tries to dictate my life, or at least it feels that way. Easiest way to not e clingy is date a clingy person and you'll be turned off to the clingy act. I used to be clingy with my ex. and now I can see why it sucks.
Being clingy is nice to some extent but then it can get annoying. I understand if you really love the person. So try to talk to them less, and if you are really clingy call at night when the days over and you arent interrupting his/her daily activities.
Then try to see them a limited amount of times a year. Me and my boyfriend got comfortable seeing eachother everyday of the summer and when we both went to our colleges, we complained and argued and hurt eachother over having to adjust.
Trust the one you love. If you trust em you will be like aw, I now she/he loves me and misses me. And with that trust you will be able to cope with not talking to them for a while, becuase you will be ok with them not being in contact.
If this person isn't in a relationship with you, then call em once a day max, and see them once or twice a week max, so that you dont get too attached and clingy.
Remember, being clingy gets old quickly, and if you stop all of the sudden you'll worry your lover. So ease in and out of the clingyness.
Good luck, I know you can control your attraction.
2006-09-18 01:33:59 · answer #3 · answered by sherman 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
By getting a bit distracted with other things in life, like hobbies, friends, sports, movies etc. The less you concentrate on the object of your attention, the less you'll be clingy towards them.
2006-09-18 01:33:08 · answer #4 · answered by DrSH 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can say that again, Buddy. Try to be cool and in control. Hold on to your horses. I know it's easier said than done. More often than not I fail in that aspect as well. But you'll get better in time. It's just a matter of mind conditioning and practice. That's what I tell myself.
2006-09-18 01:29:38 · answer #5 · answered by MARY ROSE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly what you mean. I guess just try and treat him like you would a guy you're tired off. Im trying to act un-clingy and yet i think im losing him. (read my question on my profile 'what would hurt more')
I wish you luck though.
2006-09-18 01:31:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just STOP IT!...............you have conquered half the problem knowing that you are...............
I saw a sketch on TV where Bob Newhart was on Saturday Night Live or Madd TV, where he played a psychiatrist (of course) and told the patient that he could cure them in 5 minutes............to every problem that the patient brought up, Newhart responded "STOP IT" in a loud and stern voice............I use that now.............Thanks for reminding me. Try it.
2006-09-18 01:32:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
clingy's already a bad thing... add obsession 2 dat & ur in a deep sh!t...
better learn 2 trust ur partner... otherwise, ul b alone
2006-09-18 01:33:28 · answer #8 · answered by 2D1iLuV 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ok using the word obsessed is your first problem. No one likes to hear that
2006-09-18 01:28:03 · answer #9 · answered by malorieks 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I like to rub myself down with a fabric softener sheet, seems to do the trick.
2006-09-18 01:34:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋