in a club or bar, whats the best way to approach a girl who's with a group of friends?
2006-09-18 01:17:11 · 42 answers · asked by Jamieson 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just walk up to her and ask her if she wants to dance. Don't be afraid to talk to her in front of her friends, that will just make her feel uncomfortable and not interested. If you show that you are comfortable and confident, then she will be more likely to take you up on a dance.
2006-09-18 01:22:43 · answer #1 · answered by Snow 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That's tough... I'm a girl and if I was approaching a guy, I'd rather wait until he's alone or just with one or 2 friends. Other than that, it depends what the girls are doing. Is it a huge group? Are they really confined? If they're just sitting at the bar and talking, just approach them and introduce yourself! If they look like they're seriously partying, wait till they calm down a little.
2006-09-18 01:21:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Walk up and completely blank her friends let her an everyone else know that she is all you are interested in , if a friend says something answer without looking away from her , talk to her as if your alone , say something like "your beautiful and I could never forgive myself if I didn't at least offer to buy you a drink"
regardless of what she thinks of you , she'll love the attention and the fact that all her friends are watching ,
If she declines , shrug and walk away , don't look at her again ,
in her mind she'll want it to happen again and will probably try to attract your attention , if she does then you'll get the chance to know her ,
if she doesn't then you can forget about her .
2006-09-18 01:34:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Just walk up and say hello and start a conversation. be sure to acknowledge her friends. say "hi how are you all doing tonight. be sure to include all her friends in the conversation. don't ignore them but talk to her just a little more so she knows it's her you are interested in. I did this with a guy and it worked but his friend got the hint that I wasn't rude but that it was his friend I was interested in. I got the guy. Actually he did this with me and I included his friend. I've been in SOOOO many situations where people have ignored me when they were picking up girls and It's made me feel like you know what so include friends in the conversation no matter how good the connection is. She'll see that her group is important to you and you will look like a REALLY cool guy and get major brownie points for compassion and socialization! remember, you may end up seeing those people again. It's important that if she's with men as well, that you talk to them like they are freinds and NOT competition for her. She WILL pick up on that! Do NOT start anything petty. Assume they are her cousins or other male relatives unless they basically start making out wih he right in front of you or someone says something. She'll show more interest if you are secure in your masculinity and relate to them in a way that say says you are secure enough in yourself that you can be with a bunch of guys in any way (physicial or psycological) in front of a beautiful girl and not start a fight over her. She's going to be watching your behavior with interest because she doesn't know you and she knows you are trying to pick her up and how you react to the men in her presence will make a diffference in your success. This is where alot of men fail. Don't be too wimpy either. Just go over and be yourself. If you buy her a drink be sure to ask what she'd like and not assume she likes what she's drinking. Say something like, "would you recommend that?"
2006-09-18 01:30:06 · answer #4 · answered by leeanndemon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever you do - dont try what happened to my friend the other night when we were in a bar - spill a drink all over her! Honestly! What is wrong with guys like that?!
My answer to you would be get eye contact then after a minute or so, see if she fancies a drink or go over and speak to her. Compliment her on something, like her outfit. Us girls love compliments - but not cheesy ones! Just be yourself.
2006-09-18 01:20:51 · answer #5 · answered by **Holly** 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have to be a very brave man to approach a girl when she's with a group of friends! I'd geta waiter to send a drink over to her - safer lol
2006-09-18 01:20:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
this works about 90% of the time. It has to be timed right too..walk by her from a little distance , make eye contact , mouth the words and point to the dance floor saying"do you want to dance" this way no one knows if u were rejected because u stayed at a distance. It hurts your chances if other girls see you be rejected by someone else.
2006-09-18 01:42:55 · answer #7 · answered by bigpumpdaddy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just walk up to and say hi. It's not hard. Then, just tell her can I talk to you for a minute. If, she say yes then talk to her. Let her know that you want to get to know her. Tell her you think she's pretty. Ask can you take her out one day on a date and see how things go from there. If, she doesn't want to talk to then just back off and go find somebody else. If, she doesn't want to talk to you it's because A.) She has a man and she doesn't want to mess up her relationship with him or B.) She's just not interested in what you have to say to her.
2006-09-18 01:25:21 · answer #8 · answered by DeOsher L 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Offer 2 buy her a drink or pretend u've lost sumthin then they'll wanna help u find it the perfect way 2 break the ice!!
2006-09-18 01:19:40 · answer #9 · answered by 13Special 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Follow your instinct, just be yourself and sincere, don't try to be a smart one. Whatever are your feelings your facial and body expression will show. There are no shortcuts or tips a hundred per cent right. Go ahead nice and easy and looking in her eyes.
Good luck.
2006-09-18 01:41:50 · answer #10 · answered by Greatest 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋