Why do youth bully?

Answer 1

Some kids feel the need to bully other, because they seem to attract more friends if they're nasty to other kids.

Read this short story of mine to understand it more:

A Fatal Wish

There once was a girl called Susie Spatt. She was clever and very pretty but very, very nasty. So nasty that everyone wanted to be her friend, after all it was better to be her friend than one of her many victims.
Once back in primary school a new boy arrived half way through the term. He was short with red hair and wore glasses and, obviously, had no friends yet. ‘Gus,’ Susie christened him. ‘Gus, Gus, Gus,’ she said.
‘That’s not my name, my name is... ’ the poor boy said.
‘Gus!’ she spat back. ‘Gus, Gus, Gus.-Yuk! Short for Disgusting! Ha!’ Susie cackled. Her group of pretend friends laughed dully, but they didn’t seem to enjoy the insult as much as Susie did. Susie picked up a clean tissue from the tissue box in her classroom and wiped ‘Gus’s’ arm with it.
‘Yuk! It’s been contaminated with your disgustingness!’ she said and dropped the still perfectly clean tissue immediately in to the bin. After that, everything the new boy touched was not ever allowed to be touched or had to be cleaned thoroughly before it could be used again.
After this day, Susie was dubbed as ‘Insane Susie’ by her school mates- only when Susie wasn’t in range and able to hear you that you could refer to her in those terms. Susie’s mother worried about her behaviour and talked to Susie’s father but he insisted it was all part of growing up. Anyway Susie was getting good grades in school and there had been no complaints from any of her teachers.
It was a Tuesday, today was Susie’s maths test. She made sure she left home early so that she could find a quiet corner in the playground to revise over her books. Susie always made sure she was the best at everything. It reinforced her power over her classmates and added more power especially over her teacher which was imperative for her protection from punishment.
Susie turned up the path towards the school gates. She carried on walking whilst studying her books, but ahead, out of the corner of her eye, she spotted a large black beetle scuttling across the path.
‘Yuk!’ she said. Susie stopped, looked for something to squash it with but found nothing. The beetle stopped moving completely, she lifted her foot instead to kill it.
‘Please don’t,’ the beetle said.
‘What?’ Susie replied.
‘Please don’t, I’ll give you three wishes if you don’t’ the beetle pleaded.
‘Oh yeah, where’s your magic wand?’ Susie Spatt said spitefully with a scowl on her face.
‘Try me,’ the beetle said, ‘If you don’t you’ll never know what you missed.’
‘Ok,’ said Susie. She always loved a competition arguing, that if you didn’t enter you couldn’t possibly win. Even if the beetle was lying she could always squash him anyway.
‘All right, I wish I had pierced ears and small gold earrings like a famous celebrity.’ Susie said, her mother had never let her have her ears pierced, she felt strongly that Susie should wait until she was older and was firm about the whole thing and would not be bribed. But now-she felt her ears gently-now she had them anyway. She looked around and found the beetle had disappeared.
It was then she realised what enormous power she had. I can find a cure for cancer, she thought. I can make sure everyone have enough to eat and a house to live in. I can even stop wars. Could she? Could the beetle really grant wishes like that?
Susie Spatt thought for a moment, then said, ‘my second wish is: I wish I had a pair of roller-skates.’ Her feet flew up in front of her and she fell sharply on to her backside. ‘Not here, stupid! At home in the cupboard in my bedroom!’ she shouted. The skates disappeared, she made a mental note to check when she got home but there was no doubt that the beetle was able to grant wishes. She picked herself up. I can get my own back on people, she thought. All her fine ideas about saving the world had left her. I can be captain of every school team; I can come first in all exams. I can have anything-anything-I want.
Susie Spatt giggled to herself. She had read fairy stories when she was smaller and she knew exactly what her third wish would be. After all, she would need lots of wishes if she was going to do everything she wanted.
It was then she heard the school bell ringing. She was late. She would never make it in time but she did and slid in to her place as her form teacher waited, and then called her name.
‘Thought you’d decided to give it a miss,’ said a voice behind her.
‘What do you mean?’ she was panting, trying to recover her breath.
‘The maths test. Thought you weren’t going to bother.’
Susie Spatt’s heart sank. The beetle made her late and she hadn’t had time to study.
‘Oh no!’ she groaned. ‘I’ll blow it. Oh, I wish I was dead’.

Answer 2

YOUTHS bully for only one reason, it's the testosterone and inexperience! The causes are because of a 20,000 + year old way of life! Its to be with the "in crowd".

The bullies are no different to the caveman of old time, when groups of men lived together (with their women & offspring) and hunted in groups, hunting for food mainly, but also rivalry between "tribes" to ensure the winners get the best and the top pick of food and fertile women.

The bullies and the testosterone go hand in hand, though the majority of us men when youths had the testosterone, did not have the need to show off, by bullying others to prove we were "au fait" with the workings of present day society.

Someone said it was to prove something or that they were missing something in their lives, and both are true, as well as the NEED to PROVE they are stronger.

As time progresses, the majority of bullies realise, whilst still at school or within a year or two of leaving that they took the wrong path, learned that this is not the way to lead their lives, some do not.

Those BULLIES that dont move on in their lives but remain bullies.... well you will see they are prone to have a brutish looking dog by their side (their fellow-bullies during school days have moved on in their lives so this bully needs reassurance by having this dog by him, its the only thing that listens to him and makes him feel like a "master"....), and he usually wears some TRIBAL motif, being either a skinhead (National Front type) or White supremacist or takes his school bullying into his relationship by abusing his partner, worse still but equally unacceptable is then his children........

LOW SELF ESTEEM and problem parents who abused their children, well that is another story, closely related to too much testosterone bully-types, they bully in return for the years of torment they suffered.

What's the answer? I really dont have it, only to say LOVE and PEACE with DIGNITY and help the less fortunate & this is probably the best forward & probably a way out of this cycle.

Answer 3

Usually they are not happy with themselves so having power over others gives some sense of gratification. Somewhere in their life something happened. Where they weren't in control and didn't have the power to to change their circumstances. Trust me behind every bully there is a reason for their need to have that power over others because somewhere in their life they were hurt. In order for them to not feel that pain anymore they have learn to channel that anger and empower themselves through causing hurt and pain to others. Behind that shield of empowerment is a person who is in pain and hurting themselves. It can come from a dis-functional home life, abandonment, abuse, feeling unloved or unwanted, and loneliness these are just a few things that would cause a child to become a bully. Things that they had no control over.

Answer 4

When I was in my teens back in 1900 and frozen stiff, It was the days of the Teds who when in a gang were hard nut bullies, get them on their own and they were scary pants.
I was 4ft 10in when I left school so you can guess how much bullying I got till one day they started on me I lost it and just went for the biggest of them, I took a beating but showed them I wasn't scared any more and I have never been bullied since.
Bullies are Bravado people and they do it to look big

Answer 5

Bullies are usually a victim of something theirselves and i suppose they pick on other kids to vent their anger , too look hard etc when deep down they are cowards ! My daughter has had an awful time of bullying at secondary school , don`t worry i got 2 kids charged by the police .

Answer 6

Better to be the bully than the victim...I think it has a lot to do with the way they're raised. I was never a bully because my father told me it's always better to walk away. Problem is, some of the bullies will beat you up anyway, so I'm teaching my son that he shouldn't fight unless he has no other choice. I have made it very clear to him that he should NEVER start a fight, that he has to be ready to get beaten if he gets in a fight, and that he should NEVER hit/kick someone who is down.

Answer 7

Bullies are Cowards who need to try to hurt someone else they feel is an easy target, to make themselves feel better. Usually the Bully is being or has been bullied themselves. Retaliation?

Answer 8

In my opinion I think most bullies are just very insecure and looking for approval from everybody else.

Answer 9

Its a part of growing up. I think every child has at least once in its lifetime bullied someone.

Answer 10

Different reasons...Low self esteem, To look "cool" in front of peers, Sometimes bad parenting, So as not to be picked on themselves, To be part of the "in" crowd. Do I agree with any of these reasons, absolutely not!

Answer 11

It's a form of showing off and when they get away with it and see they can even make illegal gains it becomes a way of life.