Some say I shud distract myself and will be easier to forget with other guys... still its fresh and I cant help thinking of him...
2006-09-18 00:41:14 · 17 answers · asked by Lex 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It helps sometimes, I found it liberating to go on a date with someone else because it made me feel like I can do whatever I want. It's like dating a guy that's against drugs and alcohol and taking a shot of vodka. It's like saying **** you, I can live my own life. I do not suggest dating seriously, just going on a few dates to ease whats on your mind. I deeply suggest not mentioning the fact that you just got out of a relationship, because they might question the relationship and stir some emotions in you. When I broke up with my ex, I stayed away from all that was familiar. I had friends that kept telling my sorry, and it hurt me when they'd say I can see it in your eyes that you are hurt. I broke it off, I wanted liberation from a stale relationship and I got it, why should my friends drag me down? So I took the time to catch up with friends I haven't talked to in a while and defered all sad feelings.
Dating right after is only ok if it's casual and you are not rushing into anything. You never wanna hear someone say that you are on the rebound or that you have rebounds.
2006-09-18 00:49:55 · answer #1 · answered by sherman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it is easier getting over the split by dating someone soon after, it is a distraction..................but it's only a rebound thing and wont' last. So if you keen on having a fling, then why not........but just be safe. If you not keen on any rebound relationships, then take your time. Time is a good healer. I've done the rebound thing before, and it was nice bec it lifted my self esteem.........the only prob is.......those relationships are only good for a short while. I met and fell in love with the man I though I'd spend the rest of my life with, and well almost a year ago we split... it's been really hard, but time is a good healer. There's still days where I miss him and long for the days when we were together, but that's something that's now of the past and our future is still ahead of us. At the end of the day it's your choice, and it depends on how you felt for that person.......a fling is a good distraction which will prob lift your spirits, but at the end of the day....you also dont' want to string along someone innocent for them to land up getting hurt.
2006-09-18 07:52:03 · answer #2 · answered by liz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I recently had someone I needed to get over, and tried dating other women as a way to forget about her. It didn't really work, though. The other women distracted me from the rejection a little, but all the what-ifs and if-onlys remained on my mind, and I just couldn't give my full attention to the new relationships. In one case, the woman I was seeing was on the rebound herself, so it wasn't too much of a problem, but in the other case, I kind of hurt someone, which I regret. Don't do that.
I'd say you're better off taking some to time to heal before seeing others. Break-ups are like hangovers -- they simply take a while to get out of your system, and you can't speed up the process. Focus on hobbies and friends for a while, and take time to recenter yourself before seeing someone new.
2006-09-18 08:48:53 · answer #3 · answered by Blenderhead 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give yourself a couple of months before dating so your ex doesn't have anything negative to say about you. Just focus on you right now. Hang out with your friends. Do things you like to do. Enjoy your time alone and then you can worry about dating someone new. You'll feel sad for awhile but eventually this too will pass. Good luck
2006-09-18 07:48:31 · answer #4 · answered by Here I am 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dating other may be one way of looking at getting over someone else, but you have to be careful that you are not coming across as someone who is just dating for the sake of dating. There is nothing wrong with simply taking some qualtiy time for yourself as well, and really deciding what you want in a relationship or a friendship.
2006-09-18 07:45:41 · answer #5 · answered by Kinnley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe me that is totally me because me and my boyfriend split up all I did was think about him he said just leave me alone I was like okay and then a week later I asked him If he wanted to be friends and he told my sister I regret breaking up with her so now we are dating again... WERE also going to homecoming together So I'd say hang on and be strong if he doesn't come around there is other fish in the sea
2006-09-18 07:45:35 · answer #6 · answered by caramel_hispanic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is, even though it doesn't sound right. There is always the risk of hurting your next bf or the rebound guy becuase he'll sooner or later realize that you went out with him just to be oblivious of the pain of a break-up.
2006-09-18 07:46:50 · answer #7 · answered by gameplan_xtreme 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's what they say but I think that's pretty much just a cover up. It's not good to try to replace someone so fast. I think you would be more successful if you found other things to occupy your time first. Like a hobby
2006-09-18 07:44:15 · answer #8 · answered by Sasha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it's not you are just fooling you'r self if you are dating after a split up.
2006-09-18 07:49:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
not necessarily dating other people... but i strongly recommend a couple of no-strings-attached pashes with new boys - it definitely clears the head, and allows a more easy transition to start dating new boys more seriously!
2006-09-18 07:44:13 · answer #10 · answered by kitty_mitty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋