i am 16 and my dad is not really a dad, and the man i looked up to as a father figure my uncle and suposively a Godly man has been doing drugs again. he doesnt even care enough about his family to stop.
2006-09-18 00:08:34 · 9 answers · asked by iunyashaxkagome 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
my cousins dont even know yet. and my aunt is really pridefull. also i cant go with him anywhere because he cant come back to the house also we never seemed to be that close but i still worry about him.
2006-09-18 00:16:33 · update #1
u and urself. Is it really important to look to someone.
If it is I am here!
2006-09-18 00:10:36 · answer #1 · answered by strange_raga 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps it's not that your uncle doesn't not care enough about his family to stop, but instead can't stop. Sometimes family interventions help those who need help. If this doesn't work, and talking to him hasn't either, you need to distance yourself from your uncle until he's clean. It will only lead to heartache if you continue to try and have a relationship with him. Is there someone in your family who could put your uncle in a rehabilitation place?
As to who do you look to, does it matter that your dad is not really your dad? Do you have a good relationship with him anyways? If so, talk to him. If not, then how about a cousin, or another uncle? Sometimes a member of your church can be helpful if given the chance.
Good luck.
2006-09-18 00:19:21 · answer #2 · answered by Laurie K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes when people are on drugs they can't stop. it's really hard for the family. my brother was a heroin addict and died from it. my mum's an alcoholic, so I know what i'm talking about.
it's hard when the people you should look up to as a young person are not worthy of your respect. we all need role models, whatever age we are. people to inspire and help us to be better people.
there is a sense in which you need to look to yourself but that's not really enough. all I know is that role models who are sports stars or film stars are pitiful. when I was a your age (makes me sound really old - I'm 33) there were a couple of men in my local church who were really great guys. i used to spend time with their families and doing other stuff. it was really good. yes, i had friends my own age, but some of those men, two I think of in particular, have really influenced me. when i go back home to see my mum, i make sure i find them and talk to them - even go out for a drink with them. they're almost like surrogate parents and i value their advice even today (my dad's died 12 years ago).
so my advice would be :
- don't be too hard on the people who've let you down. you may feel angry and insecure - as i did - but they are only human beings, just like you. best not to abandon them as this will only make their problems worse.
- find some role models, some people who will invest some time in you and give you good advice. just make sure that they are happy to do this and that they are not wierdos.
choose carefully.
hope this helps.
chris.
2006-09-18 00:22:18 · answer #3 · answered by PastorChris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aww...ur 16 now and old enough to decide, drugs make people uncaring and selfish, have ya got good friends you could talk to or a teacher?...in a few yrs ya`ll be ready to branch out on ur own in the meantime maybe you could plan your on future and make sure drugs dont have a part in it...i wish ya loads of luck!
2006-09-18 00:17:17 · answer #4 · answered by dreamer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have a close friend whose parent you trust? I'd start there.......parents of friends, guidance counselors, teachers. These people can have a huge influence on your life. You are obviously smart enough to know right from wrong and when someone is helping or hurting you. So look around you and see who in your circle is trustworthy.
2006-09-18 00:16:18 · answer #5 · answered by paintgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look to God & yourself, you have such inner strength you might not know it yet. I grew up with a father, my mom is a single parent. I got my strength from watching her try to deal with life & the redicule from people. But I'm ok with it now, I looked to God. Good luck
2006-09-18 00:15:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it sounds like you are really going through it. Stay strong! Keep your faith and try to talk to your uncle and suggest treatment. Tell him if he goes to counseling, you'll go with him. I think you also need a counselor to talk to, get your feelings out. Don't stress and repress...Get it out!
2006-09-18 00:13:19 · answer #7 · answered by heatherlynnmorrow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awhhhh honey. Get a good education and learn about what wise men have taught us.
The yahoo answers men will also do what they can for you.
2006-09-18 00:13:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
where are your own parents? you need to go to school and talk with your teacher.
2006-09-18 00:27:22 · answer #9 · answered by julie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋