theyre really upset wit him n he doesnt know wat to do to make them feel better.
2006-09-17 23:45:33 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
he can't get out
2006-09-17 23:51:06 · update #1
If his parents are really upset, it's because they love and care about him very much, about his safety and well being. to make them feel better is to talk to them, thank them for being concerned and ask for their help to get out of the gang. Kids go to gangs when they are lacking something in their lives and feel they have to prove something of themselves to others. Wouldn't it be nice to have gangs that went around doing good deeds all the time, helping people instead of hurting people. Cleaning up your communities. I know, not what you wanted to hear, but the world would be such a nicer place to live in.
2006-09-17 23:55:39 · answer #1 · answered by Tammy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is he feeling guilty now when his parents have found out? If this is what he wants then he should have it.He should realise that the parents are upset because they are worried about what will happen to him.
If he really wants to make it better then he should prove himself by being responsible for his life and the only way is to get out of the gang.
Being in the gang might seem like a cool thing but when something happens to him or someone that he cares for, then he will realise that being in a gang is not so cool after all........
2006-09-18 07:04:49 · answer #2 · answered by kart 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
His parents are upset because they know he can't just walk out, or they should know. They are more scared fror him than angry. He has two choices...get out (there are ways) or continue to live the way he is and I promise he'll see jail soon, maybe that will wake him up. But here's some info...
You can walk away from gangs
For most gang members, the gang they belong to meets some kind of need in their life: for safety, love, excitement or money. When a gang member learns that he or she can meet these needs in other ways, the gang may lose its appeal, and this person may decide to walk away from the gang life. However, being a gang member is far more dangerous than the typical dangers faced by most of today's teenagers. For that reason, the issue for many gang members is not if they will decide to stop being a gang member. The issue is whether they will live long enough to make that decision.
Make a plan for getting out:
When gang members decide that they want to leave the gang, there are a few simple steps they can follow:
Never tell the gang that you plan to leave. You may be beaten or even killed.
Begin spending your time doing other things. Instead of spending time hanging out with your gang friends, find something else to do during that time. Look around. There are possibilities everywhere: sports, recreation centers, Boys and Girls Clubs, arts programs, drama, school activities, and even spending time with your family.
Try to stop looking like a gangster. For many gang members, dressing down makes them feel safe because other people are afraid of the way they look. As you begin to believe in yourself, you will find that you don't need to make other people feel afraid in order to feel good about yourself. Stop wearing the clothes that you think have a gang meaning.
Find other things to say, other things to do, and other people to do them with. (HINT: This is much easier if you stop dressing like a gang member first.) Stop hanging out with gang members, talking like a gang member, and acting like a gang member.
Get good at making excuses. Your parents can probably help you with this, but if not, try asking a teacher for help or maybe just an older friend. Some former gang members have said that when they started trying to leave the gang, they stopped taking phone calls from their gang friends, or had their family members tell friends from the gang that they were busy or involved in some other activity
Find people who will support you and believe in you
Getting out of a gang isn't easy, but it can be done. Young people across America make the decision to have a better life every day. Find people, especially adults, who think that you are special and will keep telling you that. In your mind, think of a supportive adult wherever you go (school, neighborhood, rec center) that you can touch base with if you have a problem or need to talk. Then use these people to help support you as you change with good advice and assistance. Finally, begin believing in your power to change. Gangs are a dead-end street. No matter who you are, what you have done, or where you live, you deserve better.
2006-09-18 07:16:45 · answer #3 · answered by heatherlynnmorrow 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get out of that gang and get a better life. He should do his best to make something of himself to make his parents proud.
2006-09-18 06:50:05 · answer #4 · answered by dgrainger77 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should stop sneaking around his parents , first.
Second he should get out of the gang and with time his parents will be more at ease and it will be the thing of the past.
This is a good thing for him.
2006-09-18 06:50:55 · answer #5 · answered by chiara 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he should try and not fall in2 any trouble , leave the gang , make them happy by helping @ home , he should not go out of the house for sumtime , if he ahs a prob,he shud ask it.why r u asking ?or u shud consult him and give him ur own suggestions.ok?now dont go about askin questions for ur frndz
2006-09-18 06:52:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
er wat sorta gang im in one but my parents are kool wid it if he's in a violent gang then he shud tell them he knows he was foolish hangin wid them and promise to change.
2006-09-18 06:51:35 · answer #7 · answered by lilarmygurl06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to a counselor he will definitely find a way out.
2006-09-18 06:49:47 · answer #8 · answered by journey2paradise 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kill his parents!haha
2006-09-18 06:47:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋