but now we are fighting all the time i was living in the middle east for 2 months while he was in south africa so we spent quite a long time apart from eachother all i wanna know is why we are fighting so much when we never used to?
2006-09-17 23:41:46 · 11 answers · asked by Julie! 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You're getting to know each other. It happens all the time and you're definitely not alone. Do you argue about petty things?
You never really get to know someone until you live with them. Both of you are going through a lifestyle change, and with that change comes some conflict.
If you want to stop arguing as much, try to make the arguments constructive, get to the root of the issue and come up with compromise. And sometimes you just need to agree to disagree. Don't make your arguments a "right or wrong" type of situation, it's not about winning.
If you can do these things, your relationship will become stronger. These are some of things that are considered work, when making a relationship last.
2006-09-18 02:33:51 · answer #1 · answered by -J 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You two are fighting because you guys are so comfortable around each other you can say whatever and anything to each other that sometimes it gets annoying and after it gets annoying you dislike it and then it starts from there. Always keep in mind that when you move in with your man thats when you really get to know him.. I mean..... The real him!! I've been there and I know how you feel. When you live together... And I will be honest you slowly get sick of each other, you and him see too much of each other and there's not a lot of lovely dovey like it use to be... Especially when it comes down to the love making... Maybe now that you two live together give him his time and give him the chance to miss you and you miss him. Let him crave and miss you back like it use to be... Moving out?? No.. Why should you? It's not like you moved in to be with him.... Well maybe you did, but the bottom line is, "That is your home too" You two will work things out... I wouldn't worry about it.... Good luck!
2006-09-18 07:10:14 · answer #2 · answered by Azn-lady 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because you are spending a lot more time together. It is very hard to live with someone. Especially when you aren't that used to each other. Just try to talk things out. It will get easier. You just have to be open and honest with each other and let one another know the things that bother you. Even the simpliest thing can escalate into something huge when you hold it in. Good luck to you both and try to make things work out.
2006-09-18 06:44:51 · answer #3 · answered by krisaquarius 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honey moon is over......If you've only lived together on and off it takes time and adjustment. Even newly married couples argue....they are setting boundaries and guidelines during the periods of adjusting to another person. Selfishness .....and Control....those are the Keys......that need to be established and broken down to compromise...If you can't do that...then what is the point? Relationships...living together or married have to have a compromise boundary!....without that the relationship is doomed!
2006-09-18 06:47:04 · answer #4 · answered by aunt_beeaa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you guys r fighting so much cause your spending so much time together. some of the things u do r going to annoy one and other. maybe you should move out but still be together then u can build ure relationship up
2006-09-18 06:45:27 · answer #5 · answered by badgirl 419 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its totally different when u are living together and the key is keeping the romance and excitment alive and try to understand how the other person is feeling and also how to deal with any mood changes, not easy i know in fact its very difficult when general life gets in the way
2006-09-18 06:45:52 · answer #6 · answered by johnny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because, u know each other better than before, and also life is not as simple as we think. if u love each other, have to accept that u r other characters and live with this. Love is not only joy, it's responsibility too.
2006-09-18 06:49:37 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in order to give a good answer i need the specific reasons of the fights and argues!! coz you may not be in love or there is a third person!!
2006-09-18 06:45:11 · answer #8 · answered by Lady Santa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
come on ...every couples fighting from time to time so don't worry " just find out a way to be nice !
2006-09-18 06:46:46 · answer #9 · answered by wolf 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
expectations give rise to all fighting .that's all which makes all marriages some how unhappy. so think what you are expecting from him and what are his expectations. sit together talk and sort out your problems.
2006-09-18 06:47:24 · answer #10 · answered by journey2paradise 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋