How long do I have to befriend her before I can tell her I want to go out with her - with a view to a serious relationship? I don't wanna spoil it you see....
2006-09-17 22:47:57 · 16 answers · asked by Sherriff J. Brown 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well it's marriage I'm after.
2006-09-18 00:00:46 · update #1
Just take it easy for now. You know, hang out, go for lunch, just be her friend for awhile and you'll learn how she feels about the relationship subject. If you get too serious too soon she'll either run or you could wind up making a mistake and getting your heart broke due to not getting to know one another well enough.
2006-09-17 22:55:26 · answer #1 · answered by Goin' for #3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you look desperate I guess she'll get the message. What do you mean by "serious relationship"? If you mean "sex" I suggest you work on becoming good friends first, sharing interests. In my day (I'm 85) a courtship might last two years - mine was longer before we were married, but it was worth waiting for, and the result today is children who grew up in such a loving environment.
2006-09-17 22:59:38 · answer #2 · answered by Malcolm 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just be her friend and see where it goes. If you like someone and it becomes clear they like you then you try going out. Don't go out with someone looking for a long term relationship or otherwise - just enjoy the time you have and see where it takes you.
2006-09-17 22:58:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell her how you feel...that way you will know sooner rather than later if it only friendship she wants.. and don't worry if she is a good friend you will not spoil the relationship
2006-09-17 22:56:11 · answer #4 · answered by javaman1992 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't waste time in befriending her, give her a clear picture of your intentions in time
2006-09-17 22:52:19 · answer #5 · answered by coolray 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell it to her. If you know her, you will know if it sensible to tell it to her or not. But without telling her, she might move on. The moment you tell her is very important. Tell her when you have been conversating for a while and when she is relaxed.
2006-09-17 23:10:22 · answer #6 · answered by bwet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends....sometimes while u are desperate the other one is more keen....so pls realize that the best policy is to judge ground realities on the ground rather than making plans from now.
2006-09-17 22:50:21 · answer #7 · answered by uknownotlove 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just go fot it and tell her your feeluings, the longer you keep it the more chance she will move into the friend zone and will always see you as her big brother type of friend.
2006-09-17 22:49:45 · answer #8 · answered by welshwife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just go out as friends at first and do heaps of fun things together then make your move
2006-09-17 22:50:06 · answer #9 · answered by PENELOPE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her talk to her like oh my ga guys are so clueless
2006-09-17 23:31:52 · answer #10 · answered by Blonde_o2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋