I love my partner very much, he is perfect in every way fo me. I have been with him for a year and ahalf in that time he has been in and out of work, none of which pays much. I on the other hand have a good carrer with a great salary, lately it seems as if he has given up. He says he wants a career not a poxy job for now. But i can't keep supporting us i have other bills to pay and my own needs. I don't pressure him MUCH and he does understand he needs a job but he hasn't got no gcse's and has just came out of prison in march. But that doesn't mean anyone should stereotype him because he is a good guy
2006-09-17 22:17:34 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell him to seek out career training. I am no expert in this, and you probably should ask around in the proper education or career forums about such things, but if he wants a career he needs to develop the necessary skills. You might start off by seeing if the department of corrections has any kind of programs for ex-prisoners... I have no idea if they do, but you would think they might because they don't want to have ex-cons going back to a life of crime, and they might provide some free help, because they know that an ex con is going to have a harder time finding a job than someone who doesn't have a criminal record.
Good luck.
2006-09-17 22:25:42 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard because he's been in prison and unfortunately, employers don't see what a lovely person he is, they just see the little box that he ticked on his application form saying yes, he has a previous conviction and then they see the other form from other people that don't have that little box ticked.
His best bet would be to do a home course and try and gain some qualifications, whilst working. He can't ask you to keep him whilst he's in education so this would be his best bet. It's still going to be hard getting a decent job because he still has a criminal record but with a bit of determination, there are places out there that would take him. Others have done it...there's nothing stopping him doing the same. Good Luck, you sound like you need a break.x
2006-09-17 22:28:55 · answer #2 · answered by mother knowledge 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a similar problem once. The thing is, if he won't take a 'poxy job' now, he won't take one in 2 months or 2 years time. You will be bled dry financially while this lazy man sits on his *** and gets more dependent and more depressed. He needs to make an effort for his own self-respect and if that means washing dishes or working in a bar because he can't go for a job that needs references, then that's what he should do.
2006-09-17 22:38:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are there any courses that he can go on?
Realistically; his time in prison will be limiting to his career if not terminal (Depending on what it was).
I don't envy you both the situation - but you need to be very supportive if you want the relationship to work but he does also need to get his A into G. I'm presuming that he has applied for any benefits to which he is due etc?
2006-09-17 22:22:00 · answer #4 · answered by Felidae 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Judging by your last question, if you go to prison yurself maybe he'll have no option but to get a job!
Realistically though, if you're having to support him while he doesn't work anyway, maybe you could support him whilst he undertakes some training which will help in get a better job in the future.
2006-09-17 22:26:03 · answer #5 · answered by lindsay 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him, get a job washing dishes or whatever until he can do better. If he isn't willing tell him he can move back in when he gets that great career going. That can take years and may never happen. Especially if he isn't a motivated enough person to do what he CAN do.
2006-09-17 22:27:10 · answer #6 · answered by Love is the principle thing 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your bf might beneift from some training. There are plenty of training poviders in the UK who can provide training and jobs in all sorts of subject. Contact your local Learning and Skills Coucil for a list of training providers. In the mean time, if you love him you should continue to support him emotionally - he sounds like he is going through a depression
2006-09-17 22:23:09 · answer #7 · answered by Fluffy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
KICK HIS ***
tell him your not supporting him any longer if he dont like it leave why should you look after him you aint his mommy he seriously needs to grow up dont let this looser drag u down unless you really do like being treated like a doormat
2006-09-17 22:25:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
perhaps he should look at getting some qualifications perhaps at evening classes, if he wants a career he needs some qualifications. go with him get a prospectus help him to decide, support him. good luck.
2006-09-17 22:21:09 · answer #9 · answered by Fallen Angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need help. Seek counsling because you will fall into a co-dependent pattern which will just be worse down the road.
2006-09-17 22:20:39 · answer #10 · answered by sup 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋