I LOVE HER, BUT SHE IS VERY SAD , WHY ? BECAUSE HER SISTER WAS BEING DIVORCED LAST MONTH ONLY, AND SHE IS NOW COMPARING ME ( HER BELOVED HUSBEND ) TO HER SISTER'S HUSBEND ....... !!! PLZ. ADVISE ME ????
2006-09-17 22:08:13 · 15 answers · asked by SAMER M 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
romantic dinner out on the town, perferably with a beautiful view. you could also write a letter expressing your feelings for her.
2006-09-17 22:13:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your wife might be thinking that if it could happen to her sister, it could happen to her, and on top of that she's sad and angry for what her sisters going threw so your damned if you do and damed if you don't. So you have to do things a little different this round.
1) Don't get mad when she is sad or even if she gets mad.
2)keep reminding her that you love her, and your grateful that she came into your life.
3) THANK HER for loving you.
4) everyman kiss her no matter what kiss her good bye and remind her that you love her.
5) hold each other as much as possible like you did when your relationship was new. Touch is very import en.
Call her once a day from work to say I love you.
kiss each other as much as possible and keep telling her over and over as well as showing her your feelings and don't forget to Touch each other.
She will see the effort , she will see that you still love her and always will.
She will remember who you are and how much she loves you too.
2006-09-18 07:31:40 · answer #2 · answered by looking4me 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is a continuous create between TWO people. If you are showing her by your caring actions, that you love her, then why would she need to compare you with the other man?? I don't quite follow that, though it is understood that she is upset on her sister's behalf. Tell her how much you care, with gestures, you know what she likes. Take to to dinner, in a nice restaurant sometimes; give her a gift wrapped box of chocolates, and send her a card occasionally, that says "I love you" or "thinking of you" - if you get creative there are a million ways to show how much you care. And by the way; she might need a little word to get her to see that YOU are not someone Else's husband; but HERS!
All the best with this!
2006-09-18 05:16:28 · answer #3 · answered by Bluebells21 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your wife is experiencing grief over the loss of her sisters marriage.
Give her time to grieve. If she can't pull out of it, take her to the doctor.
Reassure your wife that you are not like her sister's husband and that you love her very much.
Maybe bring her some flowers. Tell her that you understand her grief & that in time things will be looking up.
Maybe take a little trip.Just reassure her that you are there for her.
2006-09-18 05:17:10 · answer #4 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For you to encourage her faith in you, that she is not her sister and you are not the brother in law. What sort of things did you do for her when you were dating her that created the shine in her eyes? Take her down memory lane that the two of you have shared yet let her know that you both have a future to look forward to!!
2006-09-18 05:16:05 · answer #5 · answered by togo4thandprosper 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is sad for her sister and you didn't do anything so I don't understand why you want to give her a gift..yet now she is comparing you ..that is her sister doing..since she has a sorry marriage now she wants your wife to not be happy maybe..talk to your wife...rekindle the Love...maybe it is been awhile that both of you need time alone...go out..
2006-09-18 05:19:43 · answer #6 · answered by qdrama1956 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
get her a real nice card let her that you really love her then leave the card no the bed let her think about all day and when you get home give her a big kiss let you will ever do that to her she will pick up on that i Hope for you good luck to the both of you
2006-09-18 05:17:36 · answer #7 · answered by freeman3905@sbcglobal.net 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
now you are under the gun,it`s like you better be the one or you will be gone.
well first why is she so sad?
if you are the one making her sad,you better mix it,and don`t waste time.
if I were you,to safe face,i would pack my things and leave.what is the scents of being married if she isn`t happy,she wants out,give it to her.go find a new wife.
2006-09-18 05:15:08 · answer #8 · answered by julie 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Give her a million dollars or some flowers. If these two do not work try giving her a kiss and encouraging words like I love you.
2006-09-18 05:59:14 · answer #9 · answered by JoJoBa 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you just need to reasure her that everything is ok(if it is?)
be patient with her maybe it really jolted her reality.Take some time and go throught the photo album and remember good times if you have one. If you don't now is a good time to start.
2006-09-18 05:13:12 · answer #10 · answered by marilee w 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋