i love this guy for a year and even he loved me but a few days back he asked for a breakoff....the reason he gave me before is that he wants me to concentrate on my studies coz m in 12th and the last time we talked he told me that he has some family problems.....i still love him...i try calling him up everyday but he doesnt receive my calls....i love him very much...i dont know wats wrong with him....i'm 100% sure its not a case that he likes some other gurl....please help...i love him a lot and cant stop my tears whenevr i think abt him.....
2006-09-17 22:02:30 · 19 answers · asked by riya 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he is 4 yrs elder to me...
2006-09-17 22:03:50 · update #1
I hate to say this, I really do, but there doesn't seem like there is much you can do if he won't even take your calls. You could try writing him a letter or email.
I also have to say that from what you have said, it sounds like he is making excuses or not telling you the truth about his reasons. You don't break up with someone because you want them to study more- you might tell them that you want them to study harder and therefore won't see them as often, but if you really love them, you don't break up with them completely. Nor do you stop taking their calls.
As for family problems, I think that the same is true... but depending on how serious the problems are, he might not have time for a relationship. Still, it seems suspicious to me that he changed or added on to his original story, and both seem kind of questionable, though the family problems might be serious enough to warrant what he did, depending what they are. Still, I think if he truly loves you, he owes you more of an explanation, and more consideration. he might think he is doing the right thing, and maybe he even is, but he owes it to you to make sure you understand it.
2006-09-17 22:16:13 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You really need to concentrate on your studies. You are right around the corner from womanhood and having the responsibilities of becoming self supporting. It is an important step.
I also realize you are terribly hurt. You have to back off though, you cannot afford to let this consume you. Try hard and focus. Take it one day at a time. Dig hard and deep. Make the big picture(preparing yourself for adulthood) your primary focus. You don't want to fall apart now and put yourself in a declining stupor.
Leave him to his decision and things may still work out in your favor and for the best.
He may have let you down but you must not let yourself down!
2006-09-17 22:16:01 · answer #2 · answered by Robere 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Riya!
I am so very happy to know that ur guy cares so much for you, I said he was lucky, when we chatted; but you too are no less lucky. And he is right in saying that u shud concentrate on your studies.(I know its easier said than done) Send him a card, a small handmade one, wirte the following lines
SOME WORDS ARE THERE UNSAID , UNTOLD,
SOME WORDS UNHEARD WHICH LIPS CAN'T MOULD
I THOUGHT YOU COULD UNDERSTAND
AND WUD NEVER LEAVE MY HAND
BUT LEAVING ME ALONE , U KILL MY SOUL THIS WAY
OH LOVE! DON'T GIVE ME SUCH DISMAY.
Ask him to meet you for once. (bet he will come). just talk to him and ask him the true reason. But my dear friend if things don't go the way intended, don't do anything stupid. I am here whenever u need.
Sincerely
Raj(naam mein kya rakha hai?)
2006-09-17 23:53:13 · answer #3 · answered by Raj S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
may be possible that he has cheated u, may be possible that he loves u but he may be in trouble , or any other reason so that he can't be with u.
but i think that every thing should be cleared. so meet him and ask what's the reason? be brave and lovable. if u find that he is not with the Will to be with u any more.then......try to forget him, i know that it's so hard ,hard and hard.but see this is life "heart may be broken" don't make conditions in love.if u really love him and he is not happy with u then quit him, good for u both "adhura rista kisi ko bhi khusi nahi de sakta" and believe me time has all the keys. if he will refuge u,then thanks to god because he is not per fact for u.. love lasts for a life time u will get true love,,and then love ur love, love a person that really loves u,, don't spared ur true feelings on the wrong way..life is precious..
good luck,, my prayers are with u,,,take care. OK?
2006-09-17 22:25:52 · answer #4 · answered by mrugank_sap 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Riya,
as i go through your question, one thing i notice two things he is hiding something from you and communication gap between you.
see, you both are talking for the last one year you both are well known to each other. if he really love you he is try to give a break to for your exams yaar 12th is the gateway of your career. he is so caring of you. dear you should try to talk to him and tell him that he is not any disturabance in your study, actually your friend can motivate you for more study, he can help you
please call him or give me his email or mobile no so i can help you
2006-09-18 22:31:36 · answer #5 · answered by rohit sagar 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're young ... obviously he's pulling "it's not you, it's me". if he doesn't even want to answer your calls then he's definately breaking up with you. sometimes you just can't fix everything.
get on with your life, move on ... cause it's better to break your heart completely in a day then cry for a week, rather than breaking your heart slowly, painfully and cry every single moment and every single day. let him deal with his problems ... and for you, try not to think "what if", cause "what if" is a mental trap. you'd find someone better that won't leave you when problems smack him on the face. relationship is about sticking with each other, supporting & helping each other when there's problem ... not leaving the significant others when there's problem. don't waste your time for a loser .... good luck sweetie ....
2006-09-17 22:11:12 · answer #6 · answered by Tartlettes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh sweeti...i know it hurts but honestli...what i think is just bull ****...proove me wrong ok...do you think he will wait 4 you till you finish year 12.i dont know how long left you have got to go but this is what you have to ask him...hes not being a good bf cuz in relationships...you are always there 4 your partner..you should be helping and listnin to his problems and he should be helping you when he can..if he can with your school...REasoN___cuz u both love each other...he has problems with family..ask him..you r his gf..you love him and want to help if you can..why is he pushing you away..?
2006-09-17 22:09:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey riya,,after all this i waana say u if u love him then go onnnn ,tery ur level best , and i waana tell u one thing i have my friend shekhar ,u willl b surprise 2 knw tat her gf name is riya sharma ,she is from delhi ,they both love each other bt here riya said 2 break off as she waants 2 concerate on her studies ,bt my friend shekhar loves her even today ,he also cry at present he is in chandigarh doing engineering with me ,,y im telling u all this as its a same story , if u get my msg then mail me at sweet_priyanka23sharma@yahoo.co.in , i will wait 4 ur e mail. thanx
2006-09-19 20:14:21 · answer #8 · answered by sweet_priyanka23sharma 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
options:
maybe he loves u nomore
maybe he has some family problems like he said
maybe his parents have some objection or somethin
i did all i could to help u the choice is yours to choose an answer
best of luck!
2006-09-17 22:17:40 · answer #9 · answered by mark 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
RESPECT HIM, TELL HIM, CAN WE BE FRIENDS. HE MAY WANT U TO SUCCEED IN LIFE, SO CONCENTRATE ON YR STUDIES, THANK HIM FOR THAT, SEND AN SMS TO HIM AND DON'T CALL HIM EVERY OTHER DAY. IT IS SOMETIMES VERY PUSHY. BE PATIENT, TRY TO TALK ABOUT TANGIBLE THINGS, NOT ALWAYS ABOUT LOVE. YOU PUSH HIM TO MUCH AND HE WILL RETREAT. BELIEVE ME. GIVE HIM SOME BREATHING SPACE. GOOD LUCK TO YOU
2006-09-18 00:28:51 · answer #10 · answered by Kimosabe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋