after year of being together,my wife to be said she misses going out with her mate,i said ok she said that she will miss me more because we are always together.maybe it will spark our sex lives up,because i want her all the time she prefers 3 times a week,when we met she stopped going out with her mates because she preferred to stay in with me.
i love her and love her company,tell you truth i really prefer staying in with her.anyway,while she went out with her mates i went out with mine,we stay at each others friends houses for the night we meet back up after work.
my friend had some girl mates over,i got drunk on wine fell asleep on the sofa,when i woke up one of the women was giving me a *******,i came she swallowed.i feel so guilty do i tell my fiance,i never wanted to go out in the first place,need some advice people help,do i tell her the guilt is making me ill.
2006-09-17 21:56:30 · 47 answers · asked by jonas 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you probably need to tell her as it could get back to her another route and that would realy kill off your relationship.
2006-09-17 22:02:13 · answer #1 · answered by break 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you using the drink as an excuse? I personally would tell her cause if you don't then the guilt will eat away at you until you do. Anyway the truth will always come out in the end, and not always in the way you would want. Are you both sure that you want to get married? You say you love her, but are you in love with her? If you tell her then maybe you guys can work it out, maybe she might forgive you. But there is always the other side and maybe she might walk away. I know that i could not be in a relationship unless there was 100% honesty on both sides. What will be will be.
2006-09-17 22:05:35 · answer #2 · answered by Susie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be a man, and break up with your GF. tell her you are a no good loser, tell her you don't want to hurt her and that you have alowed something to happen that has proved to you that you are not ready for comitment. If you cared enough about her this would have never happen. PERIOD! Don't sweep it under the rug and don't tell her what happened (it would crush her either way) Break up with her and stay away because you want what is best for her. Stop being selfish and trying to have your cake and eat it too. Do you know that you didn't catch Herpies? Do you want to pass it to your GF? Any cheap B that would do that to/with you (either not knowing you or worse knowing you were engaged) has done it with a million others. Sheesh!
2006-09-17 22:18:19 · answer #3 · answered by Love is the principle thing 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From a woman and wife's point of view, I would need to know. My husband and I have a very honest relationship. It sounds as though you two have as well, otherwise you would not feel so guilty. My advice would be to tell her, it will be painful and it will be crap but you need to tell her. If it was last night then tell her tonight, if it was a few days ago, you need to tell her tonight as well but also point out that it was always your intention to tell her, you have left it a few days trying to find the right words to say it. You have to tell her and you have to tell her the truth, exactly what happened, she will probably want to know all the details. But you have to tell her, and you have to suffer the consequences whatever that may be.
2006-09-18 06:56:19 · answer #4 · answered by radiant 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well i always believe you should start a marriage with true honesty and you should know everything about the one you are to marry , but you could tell her and she could end it straight off. it depends what kind of personality she has, is she understanding , will she believe you?
you aint gonna see this tart again r u?
or you could keep it a secret and hope they dont meet or your friends dont tell!
you have decide which is worst your guilt or telling the truth with the consequences to come with that.
good kuck i hope it works out for you. may i suggest next time dont get so drunk , keep your wits about you and you may never end up this situation again.
2006-09-17 22:11:00 · answer #5 · answered by Fallen Angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should tell her straight what happened
being drunk is no excuse for being a moron though and she might not react the way you think by falling into your arms and saying its ok
if shes got a brain she will run a mile
and you seriously need to sort out your drink problem what u say i dont have a problem YES u do if u get gobbled and cant remember doing it how many other things have you done when youve been **** faced
2006-09-17 22:22:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough choice. I know the feeling. I wound up telling my boyfriend (who is now my husband btw) because i couldn't stand teh guilt. On the bright side, i have nothing to hide now but on the negative side he still brings it up when we are in arguments.
That's really a choice only you can make. If i were her, i would be thankful you told me because it shows concern and that you will always be honest. But who knows how she will react. If you think she will forgive you then tell her, if not you may not tell her and just make suer never to do it again.
2006-09-17 22:02:46 · answer #7 · answered by Rachel 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You tell her only if she is mature enough to handle the truth. If you know in your heart that your sorry and that you will never do it again, then don't ever put yourself in those situations again. But dont tell her if she will be devistated. And if you plan on messing around again then you dont need to be married and you need a seperation to know if you really love her or not. Or get the hell out of her life and stop wasting eachothers time. Hopefully you guys dont have any children.
2006-09-17 22:02:47 · answer #8 · answered by as9119 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if you want to keep this girl than don't tell her a thing,, after all it was not you that asked for it to happen if you woke up and this girl was already doing it then what was you supposed to do alright i suppose you should of telled her to get off and you go home but I'm sure if you didn't it felt nice but there is nothing to feel guilty if its the only time it has happend don't worry about it love get it out of your mind and concentrate on your future Mrs,,, good luck with whatever you decide xx
2006-09-17 22:03:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oops cats out the bag, did you not know she reads these messages??????, if not and you don't want to hurt her, call off the wedding and let her find true love, as if you did really love her you would not have touched or been touched by anyone else........how would you feel if she came to you and said she had let some guy give her oral sex...... enough said.
2006-09-17 22:08:41 · answer #10 · answered by phillsinger 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. You probably won't like the outcome but if you honestly love this girl then you must tell her what happened. The whole sleeping while getting head thing will just make it worse without solid proof. Sounds like an excuse.
2006-09-17 22:00:28 · answer #11 · answered by pokerkid80 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋