2006-09-17 21:18:12 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I believe the right habits and train of thought is cultivated from childhood. Rather than telling you what to do, i'll tell you what not to do:
1. Do not be too finicky or germophobic. This creates fear in the child that will grow exponentially, if not linearly. So what if he doesn't wear slippers all the time or if he soils his clothes while running around. Just be aware of the fine line that marks off negligence. He still has to brush his teeth twice. A little bit of routine prepares him for eventual office work.
2. Don't be indecisive when making decisions in front of your child. Kids are like walking video recorders. Once they see that it's difficult to decide, they too will be confused when it's time to decide.
3. Don't let him spend too much time on virtual fun like video games. Let him be more interested to play with the neighbors and observe nature and take him out of the house on weekends.
4. Don't force him to be a pilot or soldier or businessman, he will decide for himself. Just trust him. The only time you must put a little pressure on him is when he deviates from his usual handling of tasks or responsibilities.
5. When he gets wounded, show your concern by saying, "Come, let mommy see your elbow" in a very concerned manner. If the scratch is small (as it usually is), tell him, "haha, it's just a small harmless scratch, it will heal." At all times, beware of your maternal tendencies to over-pamper and spoil your child...he might grow up a sissy.
When you take my advice, your kid will naturally develop his charming, carefree, and respectful attitude in life. These were the things i never got around to while growing up.
2006-09-17 21:34:22 · answer #1 · answered by past_present_subsequent 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's a 4 1/2 child, a small boy. These are such precious years, so formulative. Yet here is his own mother, more concerned about how to "make" her son "a cool guy." You realize, I hope, that this is entirely for your own selfish benefit? After all, he has no concept of what being "a cool guy" is--and which is something that every individual has a different opinion or idea of, so how could anyone figure out what "cool" really is--but evidently YOU have certain notions of how you'd like him to talk, walk, think, what to wear, who to be or not be friends with...it's endless because it's not REAL.
The best children are confident in their true individualism, what makes them special and they don't try to fit into any one genre.
Just reading your question and answering it makes me believe that it is you who has a problem with being cool. Either you're a nerdy type who generally feels left out of the group or you're one of those who go with whatever is the latest fad to do or wear and can't think for herself or push the envelope on just being herself and a mother for a young child.
Thank God that when I was that little, there was no Internet where my mom would ask such a goofy question.
2006-09-18 04:38:58 · answer #2 · answered by HisChamp1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put him in the refrigator...oops jus kidding, pls dont mind.
Give him his own sweet quality time now. Let him grow lil more. Send him for summer camps, swimming, sports, dancing, ice skating, participation in almost every extra curriculum activity n so on.
See to it that his friends are smart & he can handle them smartly as well. Keep communicating with him on some topic or the other. Keep talking, give him a chance to ask questions, give him every little detail on everything. Dont stop him from doing things, let him get experience.
2006-09-20 07:06:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As u say that he is 4 and a half years he has to be like that otherwise he would be an abnormal baby because they have to do everything in their certain age. it's u though have to cooperate with him as a mum. do not expect that he has to be cool, instead of that u try to be cool in his way. u have to understand him and go in his way until he is 10.
2006-09-18 04:35:24 · answer #4 · answered by m.shahila m 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Cool, you say? Probably by sunglasses and the latest fashions for guys; no doubt a hat/cap.
However, if you wish to raise a man; watch those principles and responsibilities, along with a special dash of integrity!
2006-09-18 05:12:59 · answer #5 · answered by canyonview11 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am wondering ...... Do you want a cool guy or your son.( no offence meant ) Gosh sweetie.... he only four and half years.... please let him be a child and enjoy his childhood years......as he get older I am sure he'll have his own perception of a cool guy and he'll get there.
Don't put your expectation of a cool guy on him, he might not appreciate them.
2006-09-18 04:29:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
raise your son to be all that he can be and to treat women well I think being a good person is more important then being cool!
2006-09-18 04:29:48 · answer #7 · answered by Sandra 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At four and a half....he needs to be a child. Please give him a lot of love and affection. Nutritiously balanced food is the next important step. Basic education/training - toilet training etc. may be useful.
2006-09-18 04:28:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Um...by not trying too hard to turn him into a cool guy. Don't pressure him. Just let him be who he is.
2006-09-18 04:20:09 · answer #9 · answered by Amelia 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
give him icecream tomake him cool. teach him good moral stories. do yoga. make him involve in ur house works. teach him japa slokas. ask him to do pranam to legs of elders.. tell him about sivaji gandhi rama sai many soft persons. dont take him to pizza centers. take him to god guru places.
2006-09-20 17:07:24 · answer #10 · answered by meenakshim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋