Have just found out my boyfriend of 7mths has been texting other girls and kissed one on Friday night when I was away in Exeter with work and hes been very flirty to 2 other. I love him so much and he says hes really sorry it didnt mean anything and he was drunk. My boss wants me to decide whether I will relocate to Exeter today im seriously thinking about it, the only thing stopping me was the boyfriend ive fallen for. My mates and parents think I should go, ive always been indicisive! If I go I will probably loose my boyfriend.
2006-09-17 21:02:39 · 25 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hi Dear
Its really frustating when you have to decide between your date or job... So why dont u ask you BF that is he serious bout your realationship and ready to give you the commitment. let me tell you boys are most afraid of commitiments. so if he lies you can best move to Exeter and you will never regert. but if he is serious then give a second thought. but usuallly when a men is drunk, they are like king of whole world and wot ever they do, its wot they alwys wanna do. so decision and life is your and a great life is matter of choices wich we make...
take care
2006-09-17 21:11:13 · answer #1 · answered by Victor 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
From what I see, from what I hear, from what I learned, and from what I have in m experience....
I think you should leave him, he's not worth it. If he already done all this flirty and stuff, then it's more likely that he will do it again. it's quite obivious, and anyway its part of the human nature. Plus, remember there are always guys out there that can be even MORE better that the guy that you're living with...
BUT!!
If you find it hard to leave him, I understand - I'm not forcing you! But thats how some are like - for intacne ME! lol! Then you could give him a second chance and see how it goes. He got to keep in tocuh with you and you to him. But remember look out for him and if you see him do anything that makes you feel untrusts, then shut him off completely in order to stop more pain coming to you. I mean seriously would you allow more pain to affect you and your mentaily??? NO way!!
BUT!!!
If he is saying the truth that he was drunk and is soo sorry. then maybe you must be very supious or hoping that he won't go for another girl or like cheat on you. So try trusting him and he'll feel special and glad that you're keep the bond with him.
BUT!!!!
It's up to you mate, You're most welcome to choose any of these to help you and can always change! But personally, I would just give him a talk about my feelings, and tell him it's upt to him how he want things to be, and then let him think about it and see how it goes. If he did it again, block him, don't let the pain overcome you coz' you knew what you did was right after all.
That what I did in most situations and it really did help - Trust me...
XxXx
2006-09-18 04:56:16 · answer #2 · answered by Brownie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend has already shown that he is loyal, so why give up the chance of improving your career for someone who does not respect you, you have one night away and he is emediatly checking out other girls, also was he "drunk" when he was texting other girls, he has no respect for you, you should move on and don't let him hold you back, if he really loves you he will move to Exeter with you.
2006-09-18 04:08:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a great career move for you, you should go don't ruin your future over a boy that has already showed he can be unfaithful. I know you probaly feel as if you love him right now but there are plenty more fish in the sea.
I think you should go and if he loves you that much he will make the effort too not lose contact with you.
Just remember in order to know if someone loves you let them go if they come back they always was and always will be yours, if they don't! They was never yours to begin with.
Good Luck and be strong
2006-09-18 04:15:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he cheated on you hun - whats the point in staying?
The trust has been broken - and whilst Im sure you love him - you can never trust him again, no matter how hard you try.
Moving jobs has come at the perfect time - if you move, you're not going to have time to think about your boyfriend - dumping him now is the perfect time!
Also - theres loadsa new guys in Exeter - you may just meet the one that wont cheat and sneak around behind your back - I think its a perfectly timed situation and I wish you luck!
2006-09-18 04:31:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Youre relationship is fairly in its beginnings.
He's apparently undecided about you as a lifemate and youve not discussed a future together. Im not sure what Exeter is so, not sure how to help you there. If youre moving away, keep contact with him. If he's really in love with you, you'll find out then by his following actions.
2006-09-18 04:10:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go. If this guy really loves you, he will keep in touch. Long distance relationships DO work if both parties are truly in love - they only fail when one of them isn't genuine.
So moving will give you your answer. And it would be a real shame to miss out on the job for a guy who may turn out not to be The One anyway.
2006-09-18 04:07:52 · answer #7 · answered by Kylie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is a good opportunity and a good career move, I would go to Exeter. If you have a strong relationship it does not have to end just becasue you have moved. If it is not so good, you will be far enough away for him to not bother you.
2006-09-18 04:06:42 · answer #8 · answered by Fluffy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would definitely go and start another life without him. I'm sure you very keen on him seeing as you've been with him for 7 mths, but he doesn't sound like he will be faithful to you. I'm sure he'll cheat on you again and end up hurting your feelings later on down the line when you grow to love him even more. Get out of it now and let him learn that he needs to start respecting his partners. Good luck.
2006-09-18 04:08:22 · answer #9 · answered by Charlie Brigante 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if I was you I would have a long talk with your boyfriend and if you feel he will do it again I would leave him and go to Exeter.....You dont wanna miss a chance like this on a cheat who will prberly do it again ..x
2006-09-18 05:16:24 · answer #10 · answered by Angelkiss85 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋