I found recently found out that my boyfriend still has feelings for his ex. I guess he is still friends w/her..(she lives 2 hours away) and they talk on the phone (i know this for sure b/c ive checked his phone) GUYS...is it possible to have feelings for two girls at once? Have you ever still has feelings for your ex but found a new love? can you be in love w/two people at once? will it ever work out between us?
2006-09-17 20:42:21 · 9 answers · asked by Alexandra G 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Most guys have feelings. We do too.
2006-09-17 20:44:17 · answer #1 · answered by Busy Lady 2010 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally don't think that a guy can have feelings for two girls at the same time. And this thing is definitely not going to work between the two of you guys. Because your relationship is built on superficial values. As he is hoping that you would turn out to be her or that you should get bored with him and dump him. He does not have the heart to dump you so he says that she is just a friend. I would be worried if I were you. I think that you should dump is *** and leave him because you deserve better that what he is offering you at the moment. No girl deserves to be played. There is probably a lot of other guys that is dying to get attention from you. So forget about him and move on. Best of luck amigo and if you should need any more advice then go to my 360.
2006-09-17 20:46:57 · answer #2 · answered by Rock Angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't waste your time if this guy is in love with his ex. Find someone that will be true to you and you only. It's always easier said than done but the end result is having someone you can completely trust (which you don't have now or you wouldn't have checked his phone) and will love you sincerely.
Good Luck.
2006-09-17 20:49:07 · answer #3 · answered by makeitclap23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your boyfriend talks to his ex it does not neccesarily mean he has feelings for his ex. He is probably being gentlemanly. Certainly it is immature to be at loggerheads with one's ex. I think that inorder to show maturity or to eshew bitterness it is proper to keep the communication line open with one's ex. I am on very good terms with my ex (observers may call it love). I don't hate my ex. I love my current girlfriend very much but I am very sweet towards my ex. Will I go for my ex? Definately No! Why? Because she is my ex - I have moved on. If your boyfriend is mentally mature then you should have no fears but if he is fickle-minded then I am afraid he can do something erratic which will hurt you? By the way has his behaviour towards you changed negatively? If no, then you are safe. Relax and be merry!
2006-09-17 21:08:21 · answer #4 · answered by YBB 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you can. For one thing, don't let him know you check his phone. That is the one thing that pushes me away. Just blow it off. I've been married for almost 2 years, and I still have feelings for exs. It's common, don't let it bother you. But I tell you what, don't let them meet up, cause the first place they will end up is in the bed or where ever. I still have feelings for exs, but the closest I get is an occasional email or text. I never meet face to face, cause I know where that will lead. I still have feelings, but I love my wife more. I don't know if this can help?
2006-09-17 21:01:18 · answer #5 · answered by mobfront06 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hmmm...sounds familiar and very true that he can have feelings for both of you.
It hurts to share the love of a person you care deeply about. If it is making you uncomfortable, talk to him.
You want your relationship to work, tell him how you feel.
2006-09-17 20:47:57 · answer #6 · answered by 8s_fun 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is hard you have to give him time he may go back with her that friend stuff don't go for me don't go head over heels for him it don't look to cool hope it works out for you
2006-09-17 20:48:21 · answer #7 · answered by freeman3905@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it will work out for you until she wants him back
2006-09-17 21:21:55 · answer #8 · answered by You_Asked 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why worry? Past is past....it is his private life. If he loves her she won't be his "ex". Please try to maintain the "present" and make it prosperous. Good luck.
2006-09-17 20:50:02 · answer #9 · answered by pimpa1949 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋