If you are in a relationship, or dating someone, do you ever get this awful feeling like you are never going to see them again, when they leave? Or that they don't love you enough and you are not going to end up with them, like a sense of abandonment, or an awful feeling of uncertanty and you feel really awful?
2006-09-17 20:29:04 · 18 answers · asked by You are loved 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm mostly talking about if you feel a sense of loss, if you get a bad feeling
2006-09-17 20:35:09 · update #1
It's very interesting how people 50/50 say it's perfectly normal and the other half says the opposite, I think this happens to a lot of people, want to see people's response.
2006-09-17 20:52:04 · update #2
you have issues... see a counsellor!!
2006-09-17 20:30:28 · answer #1 · answered by Forlorn Hope 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I'm a man giving here a comment on what seems to be girl-talk, so please hear me out before passing judgement.
Sometimes feeling like you're never going to see a date again is just fear. I can't say anything much about that, other than if it was good, try it out for awhile.
Otherwise, as in "it didn't feel right", probably the MOST you need is one more date -- in a safe place, and no strings attached. Maybe the guy was so nervous he worked too hard on being cool, and did it wrong.
If it STILL feels wrong, it probably is.
If this in a relationship, it get's more tricky. If it gets really uncomfortable, there's trouble. If you really dig-on each other, and feel uncomfortable, seek couple counseling. I know, that's a touchy subject, but if your other is really resistant to the idea, it's usually a sign of REAL trouble.
Your instincts and intuitions are important. Pay attention. They can save you a LOT of hurt.
But don't be afraid of other's views.
2006-09-18 04:10:55 · answer #2 · answered by kaioti07 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I find that if you have lost someone very important or close to you before then anyone else that gets close with you is going to be hard to lose. In other words, you will not want to lose anyone you become close with because you already know what losing someone you love feels like. Other times it's because of low self esteem or lack of trust. Or it could just be that your a hope-less romantic who feels that you have found the one and have fear of losing them. I say never give anyone power over you. Meaning simply that if someone can break up with you and easily break your spirit than they have power over you. Dont let fear run you. What will be will be no matter what. Have fun and dont wory because life is short and the more you worry the less fun you have, the sadder you are, and the less people you can potentially help because you feel down. Put a smile on your face. Bee happy for the good times and realize hard times will come. But you are strong enough to over come any obstacle in your way. You have the power and you contol the path and destiny your life will take!
2006-09-18 03:43:37 · answer #3 · answered by NuTTeR 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Fortunately I have never experienced that dilemma. My belief is that it comes from having a lack of confidence in your self. You cannot let this go on. To do so will make you vulnerable to the other person and not in control of your own life. That's equivalent to being in prison. Seek counseling or ask a librarian to show you some books on self assurance.
You have to gain control...otherwise you will never be happy...even when you are.
2006-09-18 03:45:48 · answer #4 · answered by Robere 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did, but that was only due to my own self esteem issues, for the longest time in my life, i felt inadequate and unable to grasp the fact that someone was interested or loved me. I didnt fix it soon enough so it turned into jealousy and trust issues which definately ruined a few relationships, my advice, look deep inside yourself and build some self esteem...trust me it will make a great deal of difference to how you pursue the dating world.
2006-09-18 03:32:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It happens. Usually because there is some underlying insecurity in the relationship or you have some self confidence issues or you're just scared of how intensely emotionally involved you are. Its natural, what's the point of holding back love?
2006-09-18 03:30:50 · answer #6 · answered by DrSH 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is normal at the initial stage of a relationship. No worries, it will gradually go away as the union progress. Cheers!
2006-09-18 05:18:00 · answer #7 · answered by willibwa 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is called insecurity. Snap out of it. Now! As long as they come back, they will always be yours. Onoy way you should feel like they will never come back is if they are a soldier in a war or work in some sort of hazardous occupation.
2006-09-18 03:38:22 · answer #8 · answered by davester1970 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why bother with this relationship then? Move on and find some security in life. This is not an adventure or love affair, even.
2006-09-18 03:35:51 · answer #9 · answered by cotterall&elaineadams 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did you not have a relationship with your father? Just curious. But anyways...ya, sometimes. Then again, I never had a relationship with my dad for over a decade. Those two are related, in general.
2006-09-18 03:31:56 · answer #10 · answered by Elizabeth R 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yup. don't worry about it.
I t happens to everyone who's ever been in love.
2006-09-18 03:32:29 · answer #11 · answered by 8s_fun 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋