There is this girl that i work with that i like but i am trying to figure out how she feels about me. we have been working together for over two months now and when we work together she follows me everywhere and i catch her looking at me all the time and she sometimes likes to walk past me and slap me on the butt and things like that. She likes to hug me sometimes and kiss me (sorta) on the neck or back. We get along together great but there is a 13 yr age difference she is 18 1/2 and i am 31 1/2. she says she likes me as a friend but i think she likes me more. Do you think it's just a crush or Love? my mom says she is too young for me but what do you all think. She is kinda immature for her age and has lived a sorta sheltered life. i wanna know does age really matter we are both adults right??
2006-09-17 19:55:15 · 15 answers · asked by luco302003 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The both disabled part just means we both have mild learning disabilities. is all
2006-09-17 20:03:03 · update #1
I think i will add a little more we both go to the same church/we both like cmt/ This may seem kinda funny but our moms are both libras and we both were born in february/ we seem to both like the same musical artists/ we talk all night long at work when we are not working about families ect. we laugh and just have a great time together.
2006-09-17 20:29:10 · update #2
People with disabilities (like myself) whether mild or severe share a common bond where age and logic don't really enter into the equation. I may be way off here, but she may feel that she has a safer relationship with you than with someone without a disability. People without a disability should not respond to your inquiry.
2006-09-17 20:28:45 · answer #1 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I beleive age does make a difference. But it depends on what you are looking for and what your requirements for a relationship is. Everyones requirements are different. You have to really examine the two of your compatibility. What kind of level you two are on. There are issues that will defitnitely come up if you guys get into a serious relationship and how you two deal with these issues will dertermine if your relationship can stand the test of time.
The slap on the butt and kiss in the neck seems a little imature to me. I must admit it can be a turnon but I think it would be better to know if you guys can have a serious relationship by the level of communication you have. Do you sit and talk? Do you talk for hours? Do you have simular interest these are some of the questions that will judge rather you two are on the same level both emotionally and intellectually. Do you have the same goals? You may want to run your own business some day and she may be interested in Britney Spears and the latest MTV music.
I think age makes a difference. When you are past certain ages it doesn't make a big difference but I still think it make a difference in a way that is undetected by many. You see Donald Trump and many more marring younger women and it seems interesting but I beleive that can lead to a lot of problems that are undetected in the early stages.
Somehow I think it degrades the quality of life when you think age. Try to see the person first. Don't just see a younger woman as a younger woman try to see the person.
2006-09-18 03:16:32 · answer #2 · answered by williamradical 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aside from sex, what would an 18 year old and a 31 year old have in common? I'm 40 and when I talk to an 18 year old, it's like I'm talking to a child. Not that I'm putting 18 year old persons down, but at 31 you should be at a different level intellectually than an 18 year old. Also, an 18 year old isn't done growing mentally. So, if you were to get married it's quite possible she'd be a different person in a few years and would find that she has other interests.
Lastly, I'm not sure what country you're in, but it's been my experience here in the U.S. that work relationships are more trouble than they're worth. Worse case scenario is that you two have a bad break-up, then she accuses you of sexual harassment causing you to lose your job. Overall, it's not worth it.
2006-09-18 03:04:12 · answer #3 · answered by tonyend2001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age doesn't matter if you're both legal. Who really cares about what other people say? Its how you feel thats important. If you believe she is interested, and is sounds like she is, she might just be waiting for you to make a move. Try taking her out to see a nice play (or whatever you're into). Hold her hand and see how she responds. If she seems okay with it, try a little more. You shouldn't be put off by her sheltered life, it just means that you'll have to show her a little more than you'd expect.
Just do what you think is right. It's your own happiness that you have to worry about.
Good luck with your lady.
2006-09-18 03:00:25 · answer #4 · answered by Sarah Jean 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By what you are saying, I would have to say it's a crush. If she has lived a sort of sheltered life, you would be the perfect target. I normally would say, age doesn't mean anything, but her immaturity in this situation is an issue. There is nothing wrong going for it or not, just don't expect too much out of it.
2006-09-18 03:10:21 · answer #5 · answered by ladymanny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you are both adults - but I think you pretty much answered your own question. You stated she is kind of immature for her age. I would hang back for awhile and just take it slow. She'll either pursue you not. If it's not.......then she was truthful with her friends only comment. I'm not one that looks at age......it is only a number..........as long as the 2 people ARE adults.
Best of Luck to You! Ã
2006-09-18 03:01:06 · answer #6 · answered by CluelessOne 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the feelings are really mutual than you'll notice that the age difference will not play a big role at all. You are both adults so do find out if your thinking is not just wishful.
2006-09-18 02:58:04 · answer #7 · answered by groovusy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what is the both disabled about? That can help me understand the situation better.
The age difference is not that big of a deal because you are both consenting adults. If she is immature, it may not last very long I would say.
2006-09-18 02:57:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is a crush and i think that you should wait a couple of years before trying to date her. Let her mature a bit first, then try to pursue it. Learning disabilities don't have anything to do with having a crush, so don't worry about it.
2006-09-18 03:07:18 · answer #9 · answered by Ms. L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's too young for you. She's just experimenting on the effect of her sexuality on you and you shouldn't entertain any thoughts of her concerning a relationship. She'll be with you, if she wants you, but eventually she'll leave you for someone who has more energy, more fun and more her age. Give up on this thing altogether and listen to your mom...she's right.
2006-09-18 02:59:46 · answer #10 · answered by DrSH 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋