Can guys be in love with two girls at once? I am so confused because me and my ex boyfriend have stayed friends for a year and a half now after we broke up because he couldnt handle long distance relationship (i moved away). is he just obsessed with sex and is that why he broke up with me b/c i wasn't there to give it to him? i ask this because he still calls me at least 3 times a month..sends me texts saying he misses me etc...cant let go! but i refuse to sleep with him when i see him...and he still keeps calling. he must truely still love me but than why isnt he with me in a ldr (im away at college). is it because he couldn't handle not having sex all the time? GUYS: what do you think? is it hard going 2-3 weeks w/o sex if the girl is the girl of your dreams. i need to figure out why he doesn't want to be with me. any advice would help! thanks so much!
2006-09-17 19:46:19 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
the question should be what do YOU want out of a relationship with him, if you dont want to sleep with him and he doesnt respect that than does all the things that he gives to you fill the gap he may feel you have with him... it may be that him only wanting you for that one thing is really not the kind of unpleasant pressure you need in your life... there are actually some wonderful guys out there that want YOU for more than your body... dont waste anymore time onthis guy and find the right guy so you can get what you really wnat out of a relationship... look close to home coz I'm sure there is a guy there that you may not have noticed before...
2006-09-17 20:22:42 · answer #1 · answered by darthmawler 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys will get away with what ever women will let them get away with. If he is sleeping around then he doesn't love either one of you... he might love having sex with you. Don't buy that men "have needs" crap. That is the oldest lie in the book... Adam would have used it on Eve if there had been another woman in Eden. There are cold showers, a guy can jerk it 10 times a day until he is shooting blanks. If he can't wait until the sex is with you then dump him... or let it end... whatever it is. The truth is that he is probably having sex with more girls than the "one" that you know about. Find some one near your college and let your life grow... truthfully, you should complete your education before you get wrapped up seriously with a man.
2006-09-18 02:55:50 · answer #2 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's just not that into you. He's only using you as a back up edition girlfriend so that he can have something to fall back on when his current relationship falls apart. If he was that in love with you, he wouldn't mind waiting for sex even if it meant for very long periods of time. The fact that he wasn't willing to work on a long distance relationship means that he doesn't love you. For example, my good friend of high school attended college very far away from his girlfriend but he was always faithful, they kept in touch through phone, email etc, they met up in their holidays and after college...they got married. They were willing to wait because they were in love. So if someone dumps you just because they can't have sex with you...then it was never love in the first place.
2006-09-18 02:50:54 · answer #3 · answered by DrSH 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no offense, but I think he's wasting his time on you. He probably has ties where he lives. Giving you a chance to fulfill your schooling and still have some freedom. He may hope you'll come back to him when you're done, so he's just hanging in there. And if he feels he loves you of course he's going to hit you up for sex. But from what you say, it sound like he's head over heals in love. It just sounds like you're not with him. Maybe you should gently let him down easy and tell him what you want or don't want.
2006-09-18 02:56:47 · answer #4 · answered by one_sahara 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes guys can do that......it's weird, but possible
ALTHOUGH I'M NOT SAYING IT'S RIGHT
I personally know guys that have loved one girl that wasn't within reach, but slept with different girls just to have a warm body.
It's crazy, but men can have sex with a woman that means nothing to them other than pleasure. They can detach themselves like that whereas women group emotion and love with sex more often than not. We usually sleep with people that we feel something for. With men that's not always the case.
I do advise u not to sleep with him.
He needs to put a lid on it if he really loves u cuz that's how love works. He can't have it both ways, and u should let him know that.
2006-09-18 02:54:48 · answer #5 · answered by gyrlundone 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys get hung up about sex because usually they are emotionally less well equipped than women to deal relationships. If you are into it and so is the other woman, which I doubt, there is no problem. But it appears that he is being imature and wanting his bread buttered on both sides. I would tell him to make a decision and stick to it.
2006-09-18 02:49:29 · answer #6 · answered by hooverhumper22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you wouldn't have sex with him, ever??? that is just nasty!!! why would you consider dating someone and NOT having sex with them??? if that had happened to me, then i'd have dumped you after the first few days...
if the girl is that girl of my dreams, then i'd expect her her put out!!!
just change your phone numbers so your ex can't get in touch... you obviously don't love or respect him, cos you are all suspicious of his motives... and he needs a slap, cos you aren't worth the time or trouble...
2006-09-18 02:54:36 · answer #7 · answered by Forlorn Hope 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if your guy really loves you, he won't break up with you just for the sake of NO SEX. If he really loves you, he will wait for you and also, keeps his loyalty with you, meaning, no sex with other girls.
2006-09-18 02:50:03 · answer #8 · answered by ricaganda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its must easier just to make love to the person you are in love with. Makes things much less complicated.
2006-09-18 02:48:52 · answer #9 · answered by Ian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to answer your question (the first one) NO! a man can't be in LOVE with one woman, who just isn't there to please him, so he in essence, goes with a cookie to get his johnnies off, yet still claims to love you. Thats just not how it works. Fella's got issues. Make him figure them out. and keep resisting!
2006-09-18 02:49:11 · answer #10 · answered by Max 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋