my daughter is 12 years old. she has always been a difficult child but in the last two years her behavior has worsened. she screams at me, tells me she hates me on a daily basis, and has even went as far as push me and throw things at me. all i have to do to recieve this behavior is tell her no on something she wants or ask her to do something as simple as go to bed. everything is a struggle and a fight with her. any suggestions on how to deal with this?
2006-09-17 19:45:36 · 11 answers · asked by maggiemay 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I think that every kid goes through this at that age. I have taken several psychology classes and the thing I learned about this age group is that they are rapidly changing and have to adjust continually. Every kid this age seems to think that they are a special case and no one could possibly understand the issues and things they are going through. Here are a few sites I found that you might find most useful. Oh yeah... good luck!
http://parenting.ivillage.com/tweens/topics/0,,4rwx,00.html
http://www.booksamillion.com/ncom/books?pid=0553066846
http://www.4parents.gov/topics/mental.htm
2006-09-17 20:12:50 · answer #1 · answered by justpeachy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should not tolerate her throwing things at you!!! Screaming and yelling is a part that you may not be able to help but her getting physical is where she's crossed a line. My mother spanked us and I thank her for it because all 7 of us turned out fine, but it seems to me that you won't do that. It's time for some tough love...ever consider boot camp? She needs to learn some serious discipline and you need to toughen up and show her that you are the parent and she's the child. Try counselling and that may get you to the root of WHY she's acting this way. After that, boot camp all the way.
Good Luck.
2006-09-17 20:20:02 · answer #2 · answered by makeitclap23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im not yet a mother but as far as i have observed, teenage girls act like that especially when they have an unexpressed hatred or grudge whaterver to their parent. has there been any lacking thing missing in your daughter's life? has there been any wrong doing youve done in the past to make her hate you?you should think about this so well because there really seems a problem and you must deal with it before you'll lose you daughter completely. that's all i can say i hope things will be fine
2006-09-17 19:51:31 · answer #3 · answered by snoopy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest that you bring her in for counseling somewhere. She may have a chemical imbalance that makes it difficult for her to process directions/requests.
She is among the age group of puberty and may be going some physiological changes that are out of her and your control.
Call your local mental health center for referrals to parenting classes that deal specifically with teens.
PS: good luck ....
2006-09-17 19:52:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 14. I have been through this. The exact even worse. tell her that if she will listen to u u will give her allwense if she doesn't then take away her privaleges. Take the cellphone away, and worse of all can't meet or talk to her frinds until she listens to u. try to tell her that it is for her own good and she will realize it when she will have her own kids to deal with.
2006-09-17 19:50:44 · answer #5 · answered by Jasmien D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like you let her slide on some similar things when she was younger....am i right?. children test you to see how far they can go. if you aren't big on hitting......then just continue to get your butt kicked...we'll see you on Maury in a few months because it will only get worse. you have to let her know that you are the parent and she is the child....you guys are nowhere near equal to each other until she gets a job, has a family and raise kids of her own.
2006-09-17 20:21:49 · answer #6 · answered by goldie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im not big on corprol punishment unless the crime fits it. Pushing you and throwing things!!!!!!!Mom its time to put that kid over your knee and show her who is boss!!!!
2006-09-17 19:49:01 · answer #7 · answered by Sandra K 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would probably see about boot camp or get some help to understand your daughter attude
2006-09-17 19:49:51 · answer #8 · answered by jwtaz1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to pray for her and to help her understand that God loves you and her ...start praying together!
2006-09-17 19:58:40 · answer #9 · answered by tatal_nostru2006 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
to care her love can overcome things.
2006-09-17 19:50:17 · answer #10 · answered by kaku j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋