I had to brake up with my bofriend I found out last nite that he was going on line and talking to other women I don't know what to do.I want to stay with him he does love me but can I ever trust him again, I do really have such strong feelings for him and his kids.
2006-09-17 19:39:12 · 13 answers · asked by brigette b 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm staying with him I've never been happier.I love him so much and their is nothing lackining in our relatonship nothing at all. I guess I just have to trust him, and thats what I'm going to do! he does have an excuse for it all but i'm not going to get in to that. Please more comments it might make me feel little bit better. Thanks for your comments!
2006-09-18 20:58:53 · update #1
That's a hard one. I don't know if I would like my boyfriend doing it. I think he's just getting a kick getting to talk to all these women. Hopefully that's it. But how would he feel if you were going on line and talking to a bunch of men? It's a two way street.
If he does love you, you'd think you might be able to sit down and talk it out and maybe he'll agree to quit. Or maybe you guys can do something on line together. It would depend on what the heck they're talking about too. At least for me. good luck to you!
2006-09-17 19:46:56 · answer #1 · answered by one_sahara 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Online infidelity is hard .. especially if there was a emotional affair taken place. The key factor though, was he just talking to them (like a friend) or was there something more? Cybering? Telling someone else they loved them?
If it was just a friend then there is no reason to be upset. If it was more, you need to decide if you want to continue the relationship. You both need to have a serious talk about the situation and see why he was seeking attention from others. Is there something he isn't getting from the relationship. Trust can always be built up again but it takes time.
Hugs from a Loving Mom to a Brilliant, as well as beautiful 8 year old Jared and Our Angel, Zachary (taken to soon but who will always remain in our heart) ~ Mel
2006-09-17 19:43:38 · answer #2 · answered by jaredsmommy2004 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This must be painful for you. How are you dealing with this pain?
One way is to accept it for what it is.......don't fight it or suppress it, remember you have a choice and you can decide if you want to 1. acknowledge that it's going to be hanging around you till you reach a decision about your situation..... 2. let it hang around for awhile so you won't rush into making quick or rash decisions from that pain.....3. just appreciate it for what it is ..... a feeling and feelings do change with time.
Yes , he does love you....... but his love might not be enough nor does it match the kind of love you yearn for. Therein lies your problem.
Maybe you could ponder over these questions and see if they help you find clarity.
A. Will settling for less - the kind he seem capable of giving and is giving you .... ( take note : - maybe that's the best he can give ... as some of his love goes for his children and the balance he's giving to the women on line) OK with you?
B ) Accepting his crumbs of love...... because at this point leaving seems unbearable and the balance that you need to meet your yearning ....the children can compensate, ( R they one of the reason leaving is so difficult.) Will that be enough... keep asking your self this question as many times as you can as the answer must make you feel comfortable and whole ....... ready to settle for less. (no guilt traces ..pls )
C) Are you really in love with him or his kids?
D) Is it possible ...... you are.... just a bridge he's using to make crossing in his life easier and comfortable, since you are there for his kids.
As for trusting him....I don't feel it possible.....and worth it,as base on your info and the fact that he has kids mean he's been divorce once and yet having you in his life to fill in the empty gaps for him and his kids .... still isn't enough nor is he appreciative of it as seeing he still needs to chat online with other women.
Take care swetheart and I hope you find peace in your answer on what to do.
2006-09-17 20:27:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You broke up with your boyfriend because he is talking to other women? Is that all? Don't you think that is a bit insecure of you? He isn't cheating on you if he is talking to other women. Unless he is engaged in cyber sex or meeting these women for real, he is just engaged in online conversation. Nothing more.
It isn't who he or she is talking to, but who they go home in the end. Go back to the guy and hope he forgives you for not trusting him.
2006-09-17 19:46:57 · answer #4 · answered by davester1970 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just cause he's talking to other women online doesn't mean he's cheating on you or loves you any less. It could mean though that he's not comfortable talking to you in certain ways or about certain things. You should talk with him before cutting the relationship short.
2006-09-17 19:45:20 · answer #5 · answered by Ian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
someway so a approaches, i've got in no way had my heart broken, i've got constantly carried out the midsection breaking...that's such as you mentioned sometimes worse for me reason I easily tend to experience mega responsible and stuff....my final boyfriend thoroughly fell aside once I broke up with him, he did not wanna permit me bypass, so as that grow to be confusing to handle.... :)
2016-12-18 12:12:49 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget him and move on...
that guy's is not worth your love and dedication. Look around you will surely find a person who is more sensitive to your feelings and needs...
wish you love and luck. God Bless.
2006-09-17 19:44:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, he has kids and u want to become their stepmother. U shouldn't stay with him cause the kids will never listen to u .
2006-09-17 19:44:33 · answer #8 · answered by Jasmien D 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Message me some time and we can talk about your situation.
2006-09-17 19:43:33 · answer #9 · answered by amazincajn_99 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to clear yourself , for what you like ?what are you care?what is the priority of your life .do you love him still. i means you have to face yourself truly.
2006-09-17 19:48:16 · answer #10 · answered by kaku j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋